Hiii everyone!
I have been trying for a second baby since 09/25. Me and my husband are 27, and we have a 2 year old who we got pregnant with on our first try. I had been pregnant one time before that when my birth control failed. We thought we’d have no trouble conceiving given our age and previous proven fertility, but clearly have been struggling.

All of my tests and his have came back well before my AMH being at a 1.7, which is low for my age. We started seeing an RE and after an unsuccessful round of IUI with clomid, I got pregnant my second round using letrozole. However this ended in a chemical (I wasn’t too surprised, my HCG was at a 7.44 at 14DPIUI).

I’ve obviously been doing a lot of research since getting our unexplained secondary infertility diagnosis, and have been reading more and more about silent or asymptomatic endo. I have some period and ovulation pain, and some pain during intercourse, but if it weren’t for the infertility, I don’t know that I would have known. I have a 3D ultrasound coming up whenever my period comes back to look for any markers. Looking to see if anyone has any experience with this! I have read that silent endometriosis potentially contributes up to fifty percent of unexplained infertility cases.

I had high blood pressure my whole first pregnancy, was induced, then had an emergent C section. I was never medicated for my high blood pressure but instead told I would need a c section at 37 weeks since I was still having elevated readings. I’m wanting to start trying for baby number 2 now that my first is 18mo. I’m stressed about having high blood pressure again in my next pregnancy. Anyone experience high blood pressure with their first but went on to have other normal, healthy pregnancies? Thank you in advance!

Signed a traumatized c section NICU mom <3 lol

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I got my progesterone tested yesterday at cd 24, 9 dpo. It came back at 2.7 ng/mL… I have no experience with this as we conceived our daughter first try (she’s almost 4.5). So many emotions. This leads me to believe I didn’t actually ovulate (correct me if I’m wrong), but I swear I can feel myself ovulating (or trying to) every month like clock work. I have tracked with LH strips the last 3 cycles. Does anyone have input or experience with this?

Looking for advice or hope. Has anyone ever tested negative on 11-12 DPO? But then ended up getting a positive ? I’m very sad right now and I’m hoping I just tested too early or don’t have enough HCG TO SHOW… I’ve lost hope. Convinced I am not pregnant. It’s a whirlwind of emotions. My expected period is the 15th….

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I am 34 years old and have one baby. She was also a preemie for context. She came 6 1/2 weeks early and I’m thinking about not delaying it too much to start for another baby given my age.

Curious about your experiences

My daughter is almost 4.5, and all she wants is a sibling. We got pregnant with her first try. I guess I was naive for assuming it would be the same with the second. I’m feeling resentful, and bitter. I don’t understand how we can spend all this time “trying not to get pregnant” when I can’t even get pregnant when I’m trying… doing all the things. I’m 8 DPO and emo.

2 years TTC — secondary infertility 💔

I had my son in 2020 with no issues. In 2024, we started trying for baby #2. I got pregnant the first month but miscarried at 8 weeks.

Since then, all our testing has come back normal. Tubes open, sperm good, regular cycles, and I ovulate monthly. My first IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy, my second failed, and I’ve had 3 failed cycles with Clomid/timed intercourse and progesterone. Changed doctors did 2 cycles with him just progesterone.

I’m now 34 with an AMH of 2.83. My doctor wants me to try another IUI, but I’m self-pay and spending $1,500–$2,000 per cycle. I can use that money towards IVF

Would you keep trying IUIs or move on to IVF? I’m so overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. 😩💔

As the title says, I had no problem getting pregnant straight away three times no problem, was pregnant in no time but for some reason I can’t get pregnant for a fourth baby. We’ve been trying for 6 months and nothing. I’m 30 and my partner is 37. Not sure if age plays a role but I’m wondering why all of a sudden I’m not getting pregnant. :/

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Does breastfeeding make TTC harder? My son is 13 months and is a little boob barnacle. He rarely takes solids and I’m struggling with weaning him. He maybe latches at night for less than 5 minutes 1-2x between 10pm and 5am and then frequent feeds during the day.

My periods came back in April and since then my cycles have been 41, 42, and 43 days. I don’t track much outside of apps and my ultrahuman ring, and because I’ve been told ovulation can be delayed we try every day from the first day my period ends until my cycle starts up again.

I’m currently on CD42 and my pregnancy test was negative. The pharmacist told me that pregnancy wasn’t likely while breastfeeding and that I’m either having periods and not ovulating at all, ovulating very close to when my period starts, or my prolactin levels are too high to conceive.

I’m just looking for some advice. We’ve been trying for 5 cycles now.

Thank you!

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Guys so my periods have always been super regular and i use flo app to track them. But lately since the last 2-3 months my periods have been 1-3 days late.. obviously gives me false hopes and i do a million tests only for them all to come up negative and then i get my period 3 days late. Is that normal or happened to any of you??

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I started tracking BBT a few days ago for the first time and this is also my first cycle on Letrozole and progesterone supplements (Duphaston).

Honestly, my BBT is causing me more confusion than reassurance about whether I’ve actually ovulated 😪

My recent BBT:
Oct 2 — 36.20°C
Oct 4 — 36.29°C

Oct 5 — 36.21°C (started progesterone + OPK positive at 5pm)

Oct 6 — 36.31°C + my 1 and only BD at 11:50pm

Oct 7 — 36.46°C (today)

My OPK was getting darker on Oct 5 at 2pm and clearly positive at 5pm.

Would the BBT rise on Oct 7 still be useful for indicating ovulation, or can progesterone supplements cause this kind of temperature rise?

would I have already missed the fertile window by only BD-ing at 11:50pm last night? 😪

I’ve been TTC for 7 months now, I’m 39 with an AMH of .6

I went to see a fertility specialist and after they did an internal sonogram she noticed my lining by my c section scar is thinner and said she wants my OB approve that I can have another baby. I told
Her I already spoke to my OB and while she delivered my last baby she said I can have another, it will be ok. And she said that she wants confirmation before going forward.

I understand no one wants the livability, but I’m worried that my OB will feel pressured from another doctor to not treat me if I were to get pregnant.

I know c sections for me and a potential future baby can be dangerous, but my mom had 6 and my grandma on my dad’s side had 5 and that was 60+ years ago.

I feel like im stuck. Because of my age I need intervention and the longer I wait the worst my odds get at my age and I feel like I can’t go anywhere for help.

If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it

First cycle on Letrozole and I was feeling really hopeful. We’ve been trying for a while, and I finally saw a doctor a few weeks ago to get some help.

But… it takes two hands to clap. 😭 My husband gets stressed easily and unfortunately wasn’t able to perform during my fertile window.

Usually I tell him in advance when I’m likely to ovulate so he can mentally prepare, but this cycle Letrozole seemed to bring ovulation forward by a few days.

I got a positive OPK yesterday at 5pm.

We tried yesterday but failed, and again this morning (supposedly ovulation day), but he was too stressed too.. so failed again. We’ll try again tonight, but that feels like our REALLY last chance this cycle. 😪

I’m honestly so sad and frustrated. Maybe I have better follicles this cycle because of Letrozole, but… THERE’S NO SPERM. 😭

I still have progesterone medication to take after ovulation, but now I’m honestly reluctant to start it if we can’t manage to have sex tonight either.
I know it’s not really his fault and I don’t want to pressure him, but it’s just so heartbreaking after putting in all this effort and then potentially missing the window..

Anyone else been through this? How did you deal with it?

My positive OPK was yesterday at 5pm.. will I miss the window if baby dance tonight at 11pm? 🥹🥹 this feeling sucks.

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This thread is primarily for current long-haulers to connect with, vent to, and support each other. We ask that anyone else (including TFA grads and those whose current round of TTC has been less than 12 months) participate only to answer questions where your personal experience is relevant - for example, if someone asks about the side effects of a fertility treatment you have tried. For more general support, sympathy, and finger-crossing, in this thread, if you have not currently been trying for at least 12 months, please stick to a quiet upvote.

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