r/tryingforanother • u/Ecstatic-Drama-1726 • 2d ago

Rant/Vent Would love advice

2 years TTC — secondary infertility 💔

I had my son in 2020 with no issues. In 2024, we started trying for baby #2. I got pregnant the first month but miscarried at 8 weeks.

Since then, all our testing has come back normal. Tubes open, sperm good, regular cycles, and I ovulate monthly. My first IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy, my second failed, and I’ve had 3 failed cycles with Clomid/timed intercourse and progesterone. Changed doctors did 2 cycles with him just progesterone.

I’m now 34 with an AMH of 2.83. My doctor wants me to try another IUI, but I’m self-pay and spending $1,500–$2,000 per cycle. I can use that money towards IVF

Would you keep trying IUIs or move on to IVF? I’m so overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. 😩💔

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u/ranchbandito 1d ago

Have them check for a polyp!

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u/Ecstatic-Drama-1726 1d ago

Had one tiny one removed in February it was 5mm and then everything looked good they said!

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u/Tricky_Source_9280 1d ago

Following along. I had 2 with no issues (youngest born in 2022). I’ve had a chemical (2025) and this year a miscarriage at 7.5 weeks. All of my labs have come back normal with no obvious concerns. Husband has improved his health… feeling so lost.

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u/soullessfaeri 1d ago

Have you been checked for any bacterial overgrowths? Endometriosis? Any chance of infection (endometritis?)

It took 2 years to conceive our second too, after falling pregnant easily with #1 and then having a hyfosy / tube clearing, discovering endo, which then allowed me to get pregnant but ended in miscarriage. I’m pregnant again now but always wonder if the antibiotics I was on the month we conceived were helping keep the inflammation low.

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u/eriftaf 1d ago

How do you feel about your overall health? I wasn’t able to get pregnant after trying everything until I started working out and returned to my pre pregnancy weight

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u/eriftaf 1d ago

Another thing I would add is stress is counterproductive so try your best to relax ( I know it’s very hard) and take a break from trying if you have to

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u/pinksunglasses85 1d ago

This is interesting. I’m not OP but I’m in a very similar boat. Admittedly, I’m not in the same shape I was when I conceived my first. Working out and eating right are hard with a toddler lol.

Of course I always try to make good choices but I could certainly be better. Is it possible a few extra lbs is keeping me from getting pregnant?

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u/MaterialStranger4007 36 | TTC#2 since 4/2023 | 👶🏻 11/2021 👶🏻6/2026 1d ago

Silent endo?