Women are significantly more harshly critical of men, than men are of women. It’s obvious from stats like the 80/20 idea, women’s like/dislike ratios, and even just the number of likes women get, compared to the number of likes men get.
On top of this, I see a lot of women failing to understand the men’s perspective in dating apps, and as a man, it’s extremely infuriating.
Getting 20 likes in a day ≠ 0 potential partners.
Getting 0 likes in a day = 0 potential partners.
It doesn’t matter if you THINK those 20 likes are all the same, just trying to fuck you, and have 0 intentions of dating, when you have 0 intentions of matching and even opening a conversation in the first place. Anyone attempting to refute this point is going to instead anecdotally prove this point, as it’s statistically impossible to have 80% of men have one/all of these in their bio.
The best analogy is having an average man and woman have to make a 3-point shot. Then giving the man 1 ball, and the woman 20 balls. You have a significantly higher chance of making that 3-point shot when you can try again if you miss any of them. Whereas the guy with 1 ball, gets 1 shot to make it work, and if he misses, that’s it. On top of it, the woman’s balls are restocked every single day, and the man has to wait weeks, and on occasion months, before he gets another 1 ball.
On top of it, this argue that all the men you get likes from are just trying to smash, or they’re weird, etc. without even matching with and attempting to talk to those men, are not like getting 20 deflated balls, it’s like looking at all 20 balls, and then going “yea those are too oddly shaped for me to even make a basket, so this isn’t fair” and then refusing to shoot any shots at all.
Meanwhile the man is begging for a tungsten steel ball, just so he can even try to make another shot.