my bf lives with his brother and his gf (let’s call brothers gf “B”)
i had been talking to him about how im excited to decorate my own (future) house for the holidays. and he says i can just decorate his house, but “B” has already put up decorations. he told me “remove them and add your own stuff”.
i told him i wasnt going to go into his house and remove decorations that someone else put up, when it isn’t even my house to begin with, and i dont live with him. that it was rude. and he said “its not rude if you’re just making it better.”
but after I continue to say no he starts to belittle me and call me annoying and depressed for not decorating his house…
and i just upped my dose on an antidepressant which explains the “go up to 30mg” comment lol.
context on the ice cream situation: to make it short, ive been trying to encourage him to lose weight (he also got himself on a glp-1 on his own accord). so im just trying to be supportive and giving him tips and educating him on things since im pretty active myself.
he was talking about having this “October challenge” where he would lock in and go to the gym and take his health seriously and all that. then today i ask him what’s for dinner and he says he’s going to have ice cream from an ice cream parlor lol.
ive told him my views on health and how i want to be with someone who takes their health seriously, and we almost broke up cause of it once. and it was this whole thing where “blah blah im gonna change, i dont want to lose you” but he does nothing to take care of himself.
we always argue to the point where it gets physical and ive wanted to end the relationship for months because hes gotten so disrespectful to me. but then he starts to find ways to manipulate me into thinking hes going to get better or that it’s all my fault and i ruin everything (i know i should have more self respect)
at this point it’s just pure comedy and entertainment for me. i have so much resentment that stuff like this doesn’t phase me anymore.
and just to point out that i DO work part time on the weekends and do community volunteer work weekdays, among other responsibilities. im 23F and hes 22M. and he thinks he’s a hot shot just cause he makes a lot of money.