r/texts • u/Civil_Artichoke_1948 • 8h ago
Whatsapp Date Gone Wrong in a weird way, and decides to point me towards her friend
After the date I thought it went well and I was surprised to see she was not liking it based on looks and decided to try handing me off to her friend. Really crazy stuff.
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u/soryuuma 8h ago
I don't know because if I went on a date with somebody and the whole time I was thinking omg, he's great, but I swear him and my friend would really hit it off together I could see them together like this person is more my friends vibe- then I would honestly see if you wanted to get my friend's number. I actually do see it from that perspective as weird as that sounds, but I wouldn't word it like you're too hot for me and too good of a person so you should date my friend instead. IMO her wording is weird, but the intention of it isn't. If I really was on a date and I thought this man would be perfect for my friend I could see myself pulling some shit like this lmao.
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u/Chance-Silver-3833 6h ago
I actually have done this a couple times and where one of the guys took me up on it, he and my friend did end up dating for a while haha
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u/Kahedhros 7h ago
I think thats just her being mind. Letting him down easy. Best one ive heard was a woman saying your dick is too big for me. Nice ego boost while getting rejected lmao
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u/Massive-Insect-sting 6h ago
OP your post history is a fucking rollercoaster
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u/mg_7 5h ago
OP Post History:
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u/StygianPrime 4h ago
Yeaaaah, I think it's obvious to anyone with a pulse why she would pass on OP based on his history.
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u/mg_7 3h ago
Q: Why would she pass him along to her gf if she thought he was a creeper (which I’m guessing based on intuition and ev, yes, she did)?
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u/StygianPrime 3h ago
Idk, maybe her friend is into narcissistic himbos? He's ..I think a teenager? Idk.
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u/JackJohnsonIsName 2h ago
I’m sometimes stunned by what people will post online lol
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u/Fluffy_Bear_7786 7h ago
This feels like a fantasy you made up
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u/One-Insurance-5878 7h ago
Nah. Just feels like this girl is taking the path of least offense in ducking out while letting her friend step in.
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u/TheWombRaider11B 8h ago
Bang her friend
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u/Civil_Artichoke_1948 8h ago
I mean she is kinda… nah I’m joking but we’ll see I just got her number
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u/woodzwing 8h ago
Nothing goods gonna come from trying to hook up with the friend. ijs.
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u/charmacharmz 8h ago
but think of the stories that the situation could create. it will be a tale to tell.
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u/ElGrandeQues0 8h ago
I mean, he can bang her friend or they can be phenomenally compatible and he finds his future wife
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u/Dabbage808 8h ago
Bro. She doesn't like you and is tossing you to the side and trying to be nice. Hook up with her friend immediately.
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u/Civil_Artichoke_1948 7h ago
Idc if she doesn’t like me she just set me up with a 10/10 Latina baddie!
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u/Dabbage808 7h ago
Excellent! Now, take said Latina baddie out to a 5 star restaurant where you guys have to get really dressed up, go nuts on the bill, bring her home and do your thing!
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u/Civil_Artichoke_1948 7h ago
I ain’t paying I’m the prize bud and she’s coming to my house yessir
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u/InternationalTree761 7h ago
wym prize? you’re a redditor lol
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u/Civil_Artichoke_1948 7h ago
I was obviously joking but I am on vogue so… yk I’m himothy
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u/Straight_Flan1347 7h ago
Judging by this guy's post history he's a complete toolbox and I bet he used AI to fake this too
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u/Plus-State-360 7h ago
She let you down in a really good way, actually.
Just take the compliment and move on. Be happy that she didnt ghost or put it more bluntly. Looks completely aside, if she was into you she wouldnt drop it in any way. So she didnt vibe with you.
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u/FlowFabulous8800 5h ago
This happened to me when I was younger.
In the end, she was looking for validation, wanted me to show I wanted to fight for her. Was a test basically.
We ended up dating for about a year after that, but the confidence issues would always eventually rear their head again. Dramas would occur where she’d be testing me, pushing me to show “my love” like it was a movie. Those dramas were eventually what broke us up.
Is this what’s happening in your situation? Who knows, but it’s possible. Or, she just doesn’t like you.
It’s a shame humans aren’t more comfortable being upfront in most cases. We are all very imperfect beings.
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u/phillynavydude 8h ago
Nobody on the Internet can actually tell. She could be trying to pass you along in a nice way. She could actually be an insecure weirdo. Can't really judge that without meeting her
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u/Flat-Chance0 3h ago
Well after looking at your post history I would say you made dozens of weird comments about looks && now she believes that’s important to you…
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u/Civil_Artichoke_1948 7h ago
It’s the best lie ever now me and her friend are talking and she’s a Latina baddie
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u/Loveis_loveislove 8h ago
Maybe the concern that she has is of a different variety. I don’t see anywhere where she said she considers herself to be not beautiful. Maybe she picked up on a personal irk. Did something happen on the date?
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u/Big-Interaction-1797 8h ago
She's trying to let him down easy and op isn't getting the hint. Personally I hate when women do this like just tell me you ain't feeling it
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u/Loveis_loveislove 8h ago
Agreed but maybe she is just bad at rejection. I think she was insistent enough that he should have dropped it after the first you’re pretty.
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u/ideology_reject 8h ago
Or maybe all the other times she was straight forward the men didn’t take it well and couldn’t accept the rejection lol. But I can’t say either way
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u/Left_Fist 7h ago
Yes you can. You can clearly read that they were on a date last night, and this is the follow up communication. At no point would she have had a chance to reject him in a straightforward manner unless she agreed to go on a date after rejecting him.
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u/ideology_reject 5h ago
I mean people have motivations based on experience so could she be avoiding confrontation yes that’s the point though at what degree is what she’s doing just easier for everyone
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u/Flat-Chance0 3h ago
That’s not true, have u seen the guys post history? I’m sure he made dozens of comments about looks…
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u/Left_Fist 7h ago
This isn’t letting someone down. At no point does she say she isn’t interested in continuing to date him. This is an avoidants way of trying to let someone down when you don’t want them to know they’ve been let down. It’s a cowardly way to communicate. She is just hoping he reads between the lines so she doesn’t have to say it. She’s immature as hell
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u/086814 8h ago
She's just not in to you............best way she could have worded it though!!!! 🤌
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u/Civil_Artichoke_1948 8h ago
Yeah now I got a prettier friend that won’t pull that weird stunt
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u/whatelsecouldbetrue 8h ago
Do you like anything else about her other than to comment on the fact that you think she’s physically pretty?
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u/Dramatic_Hearing_714 8h ago
She’s obviously lying bro. You did not have a good date and the girl is trying to be nice.
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u/ProfBootyPhD 8h ago
It’s easy enough to just get out of a second date - why would she try to hook him up with her friend if she thought he sucks?
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u/Shmokeshbutt 8h ago
She mentioned it to her friend, showed his pictures, and the friend said "i dig that if you don't want him"
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u/Dramatic_Hearing_714 5h ago
Women are never going to reject you outright. Insecure men have made it impossible for women to be honest. I mean just look thru the sub. When a woman says some shit like “hey there was no spark, all the best,” the man will start cussing them out and acting stalkerish etc
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u/Engine-True 8h ago
Are you interested in her? If yes tell her that directly. If you're ok with dating someone else I guess follow her lead? Don't know how the relationship between those two works but it feels like something's up there
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u/Constant_Turn_9031 6h ago
Let me humble brag about how I’m out of a girl’s league and she’s passing me off to her hotter friend 🙄
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u/JusticeForAugust 8h ago
Had this happen to me once and all it was was two girls trying to trick me into a dang threesome.
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u/lone_cajun 8h ago
Your lobster was too buttery?
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u/Dominic_3lle798 8h ago
He's got another post complaining about how he has too many girls flocking to him and he doesn't know what to do.
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u/Conscious-Record2655 8h ago
This is such a stupid saying, not just because morons like you won't stop repeating it, but also because lobster can be too buttery and steak can be too juicy.
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u/Therealdickdangler 8h ago
It was pretty awkward when we are all hanging out and I’m waiting for the other dude (expected two couples). Turns out the “fourth person” was the nickname they’d called my penis I was unaware of.
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u/Cold-Sun3302 8h ago
Seems like she's fishing for compliments because she feels inferior to her friend, and wants you to reject the friend and choose her so she can feel better about herself.
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u/Therealdickdangler 8h ago
If you’re interested in this woman, tell her “I wish you could see yourself through my eyes.” And don’t let her fucking nuke it over some feelings of self doubt or insecurity.
If you’re not interested and willing to deal with her if you and the friend hit it off, go the friend route but it’s probably gonna really fuck with this girls head even though she is saying that shit about being out of your league.
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u/Technical_Bite_9536 8h ago
Sounds like the innocent friend lures in the men, the proficient friend takes them, and likely empties their pockets.
Seems like a honey pot for suckers
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u/HastyvonFuego2 8h ago
Op you can really fuck up a friendship right now….. the ultimate revenge…..
https://giphy.com/gifs/3oriNSf2iLjMVO7dao
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u/Beautyskooldr0p0ut 8h ago
what if you just took her word for it, get the friends number, & see what happens!?
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u/RemarkableCover7462 8h ago
She wasn’t into you. Has a hog friend for you to wine and dine. They’ll compare notes.
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u/Next_Negotiation8679 7h ago
This happened to me, ended up getting amazing sex for like 2 years NSA, I wasn’t mad
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u/xHashSlanginSlasherx 7h ago
Getting passed around to the bros is crazy work ngl.
I would definitely ask for a picture and take the offer tho. Could be a scenario where she told her friend about you guys going out, and she wasnt that into you but her friend thought you were a great guy based off of her story. Could lead to something.
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u/madeinspac3 7h ago
She wasn't into you but you seemed decent enough that her friend might be so she's willing to set it up.
See how it goes.
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u/Altruistic-Limit-467 6h ago
Ok I’m not proud of this but I have at one time actually been this level of insecure, but also had good intentions lmao. Years ago there was a guy I sort of liked but knew I wasn’t his type, so I set him up with someone I knew he’d vibe with a lot more. They’ve been married for a while. And my one ex I actually tried to set up with a friend of mine when I first met him because they both had high sex drives and were looking for casual where I wanted a relationship.
To be fair I’m probably on the spectrum so matching compatibilities is highly satisfying, I don’t mind playing wingwoman 😂
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u/abunchofidgits 4h ago
I don't think she thought he was an ass. I did the same thing a while back, and I had it done to me too. So I did it and got it, I know both sides. When it happened to me, I realized how wrong I was when I stopped dating a guy for the wrong reasons. Maybe you should rethink things and give this guy a chance.
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u/Prudent_Mess9339 3h ago
maybe she knows you're attractive, but you're just not her type. so it feels weird to reject u cuz looks, but she's saying it nicely.
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u/JackJohnsonIsName 2h ago
You might need a therapist buddy. I’d get right in the head before going on dates
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u/b58over2jz 8h ago
If this is even real; definitely just, move on from her. Whether she’s really in her head like that or just playing games, it’s not worth it.
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u/meansamang 7h ago
It seems that pretty is what you're after. I guess you made that clear to your date. She obviously thinks she doesn't live up to your standard.
Maybe if you had been less shallow....
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u/Next_Engineer_8230 7h ago
That's a lot of assumptions based on...nothing.
You have no idea what happened on the date. Some women have low self esteem and are very insecure.
This is the dumbest comment I've read today.
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u/meansamang 6h ago edited 4h ago
Well let's see.
She says she feels intimidated by OP. He can't even bother to ask her why she feels that way. OP automatically go to looks. 'You're really pretty."
She repeats herself, and adds she's holding him back. Again, he doesn't care enough to ask her why. OP again goes to her looks, "you're really pretty."
So obviously, pretty is OP's standard. He said it twice. He didn't entertain any other possible reasons.
It's more likely he's full of himself, as evidenced by his replies. But she doesn't want to go there. I wonder why.
Edit: screwed up in who I thought I was replying to.
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u/PepperSuccessful6448 5h ago
Tell us no one loves you with out saying it
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u/meansamang 5h ago
Don't let anyone tell you you aren't clever. And original
I gotta admit, that really hurt. Good one
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u/NoTanNamaste 1h ago
Nah this woman is up to something. We don’t pass men around like this. My guess is you came across as too self obsessed and vain and she just stroked your ego and passed you to her evil friend.
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u/justin_wilsonn 7h ago
Woman deserve less, and this is a clear situation where that becomes obvious.
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u/Dancehall-Randal 8h ago
Women do this shit and then act like they are some kind of superior gender.
Fuck her for this.
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u/capslock 8h ago
Yeah guys will only invite all their frat bros into the room after blasting your naked pics in the group chat.
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u/Dancehall-Randal 7h ago
Ok but how often does that happen co.pared to women lying about this shit?
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u/capslock 7h ago
I’d take it a million times over one time of the other.
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u/Dancehall-Randal 7h ago
Dont share nudes pics then?
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u/capslock 7h ago
I think you missed the news where the photos were taken of the subject and then shared.
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u/Dancehall-Randal 7h ago
Are we still talking about your imaginary scenery here? Im totally lost.
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u/SheSilentlyJudges 7h ago
The irony of your comment is that OP has completely fabricated this whole thing.
The call is coming from inside the house with these dudes. 🤦♀️
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u/Dancehall-Randal 7h ago
Oh im totally aware it could be fake but I dint see anything from the screen shot right away that gave it away.
And women absolutely do shit like this sooooo 🤷♂️
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u/General_Chest6714 7h ago
I’ve never met a woman who goes out of her way to proclaim that women are some kind of superior gender.
I do, however, believe that women are some kind of superior gender and everyone else believes that too before wealthy white Christian men decided that didn’t work for them. For more recent proof, women are treated as second class citizens to this day and still don’t rape and murder us while we, the ones with as much privilege as anyone can have, do rape and murder at an insidious rate anyway. And that’s not even getting into how women literally grow humans within themselves for nearly a year while a man’s contribution to the process is over in the blink of an eye. 💦🍆
But sincerely, I understand. I was young and lonely and angry once. Just please, when you’re looking out at what makes you feel this way, don’t forget to look into yourself as well. Women are amazing but so are men. Good men. Evolved men. There will always be some on both sides that aren’t great. You’re a whole valuable person. Just you. Not bc anyone does or doesn’t love you. Women are just people. Treat them like people. You will find your place.
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u/Dancehall-Randal 7h ago
I can apreciate everything but that last sentence.
There is no guarantee anybody will ever find anyone or their place.
God created a cruel CRUEL world and then sits back and laughs at us.
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u/General_Chest6714 7h ago
Ok I threw a lot at you and you didn’t just push back and dismiss it all so I really respect that.
And I see what you mean. I would change it to “I hope for you that you find your place.”
I don’t mean to make a theological fight of it, but whatever spirituality I have doesn’t include a creator of all things God. But I do understand your perspective on that. It’s one of the things I most struggled with.
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u/Dancehall-Randal 7h ago
I dont believe in some pie in the sky heaven.
A creator/god? Yes, but heaven is just a fairy tale in an effort to make the masses submissive.
I believe in the "is" and the "all". While we breath we are apart of the "is" cuz we exist. When you die you basically "become one with the universe" again, you dont get to sit on a park bench in heaven with god and your loved ones.
More like staring at tv static for infinity or that one scene in "everything, everywhere all at once"
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u/Bakurraa 8h ago
shes not interested in you and passing you onto the friend