r/texts • u/fullmoonlune • 20h ago
Reddit DMs Why are men?
Nothing about my profile or anything involving it would ever make it seem like I would be open to a message like this
To all the men saying “at least he asked” I was never asked if I was okay receiving an unsolicited sexual message from a stranger. Asking for consent implies that the person has already expressed some sort of sexual interest in you. Don’t message strangers sex shit. It isn’t some unalienable right to ask women if they want to fuck you. Doing that with no other preamble makes you a creep.
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u/wehavethismoment 20h ago
Sadly just having a female presenting avatar is enough for many...
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u/fullmoonlune 20h ago
I didn’t think ppl actually noticed that because people always just assume I’m a dude in discussions on this app lol I feel like that’s just the default
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u/wehavethismoment 20h ago
The second it fits them they absolutely notice my avatar lol
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u/ChickinSammich 17h ago
I exclusively use old Reddit so I don't know what my avatar (or anyone else's) even looks like. I'm guessing I probably have the default generic picture.
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u/DevelopedLiss 17h ago
You don't have an avatar if you haven't made one, you just have the generic faceless pfp
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u/petite-kitten777 16h ago
Literally I don’t get why they do this? Like do you not see yourself being a creep? I can’t ever send a guy a thirst message no matter how interested I am in them it’s weird af
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u/Lost-Competition8482 20h ago
Jokes on you my kink is chewing and swallowing glass.
You were offering that right?
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u/ApprehensiveGear2166 18h ago
I love that you crossed out your own username and then posted it with your account lol
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u/fullmoonlune 18h ago
Did that bc the rules of the sub say you can’t have usernames in the photo and didn’t wanna get yoinked by an automod
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u/theiron_squirt 17h ago
You gotta be careful, my answer to your DM would be "yes, actually". But most people don't eat glass as a party trick.
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u/Medium-Following-513 14h ago edited 14h ago
Have a seat,
Would you like to elaborate? And why are you sending sexually explicit messages to users who dont have 18+ profiles, especially without verifying their age first?
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u/universal_friend1 17h ago
I made a post about having bottom dysphoria as a trans woman on a sub for women and got 3 separate DMs from dudes asking if they could see it.
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u/TheFakeRabbit1 17h ago
Yikes. Not that you should have to, but can you disable dm requests on here?
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u/universal_friend1 17h ago
I could mute them overall but most of the DM requests I get are people asking for information/advice on things since I communicate medical information for a living so I endure the horny men in order to be able to remain available for assisting strangers.
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u/Top-Suggestion5057 14h ago
Okay but did his profile imply he would be into chewing glass???
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u/Successful-Buyer404 13h ago
As if being a creep wasn’t enough of an indication that he’s inept at speaking to women, he opens up with a “Heyyo” 😂
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u/MercurialMercyy 18h ago edited 18h ago
The way your profile has no indication of age and you could very well be a child... yikes. People need to stop fantasy pushing on strangers before they catch a charge.
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u/Distinct_Run9006 16h ago
How many minutes was this dm after a post or comment indicating you're a woman lol?
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u/Eastern_Expression41 20h ago
did he say yes?
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u/fullmoonlune 20h ago
He said “well shit, is that a no?”
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u/Fairplayer97 20h ago
So is this guy into chewing and swallowing glasses or Not? I need to know.
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u/fullmoonlune 20h ago
He wouldn’t say. I think he’s shy
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u/Fairplayer97 19h ago
Thank you for letting me know. Also sorry as a man that this happend to you. He us the reason why all men are called creep
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u/Proof-Grass-5212 20h ago
I get stupid messages like this all the time. Hey bro wanna talk about so and so and stroke or goon. Like no wtf.
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u/Senior-Expression992 15h ago
As a guy myself I have never understood this kind of line of thinking, what makes them think that women would be even remotely interested in something like that.
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u/lumpylentils 19h ago edited 14h ago
You got all the “not all men!!!” Guys throwing a tantrum with this one lol
Edit: now this comment also has guys throwing tantrums lol the cycle continues
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u/StepperHill 18h ago
She ain’t letting you hit bro.
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u/Gerald-of-Riverdale 18h ago
You jumping straight to sex whenever talking about women is telling of you but like... sick burn bro lmao
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u/Imaginary_Being4859 16h ago
You gotta tell em the only way you’ll talk to them is if they can fit a bowling pin up their ass.
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u/DiscouragesCannibals 6h ago
Man here, just wanted to say that was a pretty sick burn. Hope he doesn't bother you again!
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u/mrskellington79 19h ago
Some people fish with a hook, some cast a wide net, some throw dynamite in the water.
It's not specific to you, your profile, your vibe or your religious preferences. This guy is most likely copy/pasting the same message to anyone he thinks is a female and machine gun ratata-sending until one female says "sure lol" (which never happens anyways).
So to answer your question: no reason outside of you being a female who """might""" show b0bs
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u/FreeGlaze71 16h ago
Tbh at least he asked. It’s not like he sent something vulgar or inappropriate.
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u/sasha_the_impaler 15h ago
Would you be comfortable if someone walked up and asked to see your bare asshole, as long as they were polite?
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u/Silver-Education-860 15h ago
the text itself is vulgar and inappropriate
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u/bobjohndaviddick 19h ago
Reminds me of that video of those Russian chicks who got drunk and started eating their wine glasses. It still haunts me to this day. Be glad you haven’t seen it
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u/rical8 18h ago
whats the point of trying to hide your name , when its visible in the post , haha :D
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u/fullmoonlune 18h ago
The subs rules are not to have usernames in the post, didn’t wanna risk a trigger happy mod
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u/TiredAsFuckMan 18h ago
Honestly you'd just be exposing the mod for caring more about banning you than an actual bad situation
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u/PurpleCandle58 17h ago
They do generally. Many subs will yeet your shit for no usernames rule when it’s literally your own
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u/Effective-Eagle-2488 16h ago
I had one like this, someone just DMd after seeing I posted photos of food?
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u/TheDarkSpike 14h ago
If I had the confidence then I'd slide in your dm's to further inquire about our shared passion for chewing and swallowing glass!
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u/Ashamed_Command_4046 13h ago
Honestly that shit is so lame. That’s why I put my wife in my pictures. I want everyone to know this is a safe space and I’m a safe person. I generally don’t go out to upset or bother others. I interact with what comes across my table. Like this post
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u/Flimsy-Importance313 12h ago
Yes, I am. Send me a message whenever you want to 😉
Talking to the guy as a joke.
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u/Hot_Tonight150 6h ago
Do you post in NSFW subreddits?
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u/fullmoonlune 6h ago
No
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u/Hot_Tonight150 6h ago
Well then yes it was entirely unsolicited and inappropriate for a reddit chat request
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u/Vegetable_Bug245 16h ago
What about the profile made him think you were into sexting? I feel like this requires context… let’s say a stripper gets asked if she does lap dances??? Men! right?
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u/fullmoonlune 13h ago
There’s nothing nsfw about my profile so not sure why you’re acting like existing on the internet as a woman is the same scenario as working a stripclub
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u/INFANTOBLITERATOR666 20h ago
What if he said YES and got bigger and stronger as he fed and chewed on more and more glass with delight, grew to inhuman sizes then split the earth in two with a single strike and battled then killed the old gods afterwards?
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u/misersoze 17h ago
Then I guess he would be into sexting?
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u/INFANTOBLITERATOR666 15h ago
In this case he would have a greater destiny that transcends such matters. I meant to ask if she is willing take accountability for giving him the idea that sets this chain of calamities into motion? Planet destroyed, gods are KILLED, why did she provide him with lost biotransformation knowledge of the ancients? Never underestimate oral consumption of glass, especially when done with great joy.
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u/AncientSignature1505 19h ago
Is it?
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u/MeliodasTA 19h ago
In this case yes. There's not even anything wrong with this one, he asked a straightforward question up front without making it creepy.
Plus a lot of women out there are indeed into sexting
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u/fatdaddyy95 15h ago
Lol he asked for consent, say no and move on..... why are women???
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u/Dutch-Alpaca 15h ago
How socially stunted is someone to send this to someone they don't know as a first message?
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u/CurrentlyNobody 15h ago
Happens all the time to any female both on and off the sites. This is actually Mild.
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u/fullmoonlune 20h ago
Men aren’t “supposed to” send unsolicited sexual messages to women they don’t know. Hope this helps
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u/Mr_Blaileen 19h ago
‘He’s doing what he’s supposed to do’
It’s early, but this wins for dumbest thing I’ve read today.
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u/IronSightPsyops 20h ago
How do you know that’s a man? Kind of sexist
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u/Nicole-NB 20h ago
Yes, he could also be sexist, but I guess we don't know that for sure.
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u/-crying-cinnamon- 14h ago
Ask him for various feet pictures then tell him to put peenut butter in his feet and lick them off himself
My go too is to creep them out, act like a lunatic
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u/fullmoonlune 13h ago
I am not opening myself to a situation where I have to pour bleach in my eyeballs lmao
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u/Don_Beefus 14h ago
That's an adult boy. Men are the ones that grew up, got boring, learned to enjoy diet coke, lawn care, and socks with sandals. Not this creepy bullshit.
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u/BigSD325 13h ago
The guy is a creep shooting his shot. But I have to ask OP. How did he find you? Were you commenting something sexual in another sub? Not making excuses for the tactless creep I am just genuinely curious as to why he thought there was even a small chance this might work.
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u/Ashamed_Command_4046 13h ago
Men are just disgusting bro I know in your/my mind there is usually the idea of something being “justified” but I’ll be 1000% with you.
Men are just awful.
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u/AppropriateGarbage99 12h ago
u got a ai photo of i assumed yourself n your bf and commenting men is just awful 😂 you just hate men that’s all, n crazy thing is women might not say it like he will but both genders do the same shii it’s just men just easier I will say that n let it slide
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u/fullmoonlune 13h ago
I literally have no idea how he found me. I find the idea of participating in any sort of sexual activity on reddit personally repulsive so I definitely never would’ve been found in that manner
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u/BigSD325 12h ago
Fascinating. Thanks for clarifying. I get randomly hit up by people asking me to invest in stuff or straight up asking for money. But your experience is quite different! I guess it can be as simple as pervs seeing what they perceive as a female avatar.
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u/no1bandit 10h ago
Your on reddit the land of horny men and are surprised someone wants to sext you? I think you should stick to fb😆
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u/Kinkykitten88- 8h ago
But at least he asked it’s not men it’s everybody cuz even I do it lol just block and don’t respond 🤷♀️ sounds like an overreaction to me but I could be buggin lmao
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u/Huckleberry573 6h ago
You need a preamble? We the people of the United States wanna know if we can clap your cheeks.
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u/IntroPerc 20h ago
Should have said yes, then pretend to be really bad at it. “You know what I find really sexy? Lawn mowers.” And continue saying things more unhinged and weird to see how long before he cracks and gives up.