told a guy i didn't want to date him

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Wild how they use so many words to say they don’t want to talk to you instead of just, you know, not talking to you.

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u/vixenstarlet1949 11h ago

so many men do this all the time they want a woman and when it is not reciprocated they call us ugly/stupid sluts and insult us. like, you were begging me to sleep with you but since i said no now i’m an ugly slut? lmao .

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u/Dpontiff6671 10h ago

It's not an excuse but a lot of guys don't know how to process being hurt emotionally so they default to anger instead. It's a really shitty cycle that dudes really need to try to work on

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u/Jealous_Parfait_4967 10h ago

Mike Birbiglia has a joke that goes “what I should have said was nothing” and I feel like it should be assigned as philosophical reading.

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u/vixenstarlet1949 10h ago

Oh boo hoo lmao they hurt women all of the time if we can handle it they can get over it

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u/vixenstarlet1949 10h ago

There is no excuse for calling a woman you wanted to fuck an ugly slut

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u/Beautiful_End479 5h ago

I think that’s why the first sentence of his comment was “it’s not an excuse” and the last sentence was “it’s a shitty cycle guys need to work on”. Did you literally only read 1/3 of the comment??

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u/Plane_Sentence5907 46m ago

I’ve no sympathy for men that call women sluts

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u/Em-BiggeneD 2h ago

It is a complete failure of brain function, there can't be any logic processing. Think about it- what does it say about him that he wanted you a min ago?

In a similar vein, I went to a baseball game once where my team lost, a bunch of drunken fans of the other team saw me wearing the losing team logo as we were trying to leave the stadium and starting taunting me about how my teams sucks.

Here's the thing- it was actually a really good game. Both teams did really well. Its actually a huge compliment to the winning team that they overcame such evenly matched players. I laughed to myself on the way home because if you think about it, saying my team sucks was an insult to theirs. It shouldn't have been a close game if they suck. But you can't apply logic to these idiots any more than the guy in those texts. I can't understand it and I hope I never will.

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u/Plane_Sentence5907 47m ago

Insecure so they act aggressive when a woman shuts them down. They are telling you who they really are when they don’t get their own way

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i mean. yeah. it's normal to respond to a message. he was blocked directly after the last one. this is also over half a year old, i just found it while looking for something else.

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u/Jealous_Parfait_4967 11h ago

I get it, and I meant him texting you. “I don’t care” is pretty negated when he sends 75 texts to say it

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

oh lmao sorry for misunderstanding, a lot of people in the comments are saying the opposite😭 yeah i dunno, and the fact that he also sent it on 2 other apps is crazy

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u/Kaszrak 11h ago

"tHeN wHy dIndT you bLoCk HiM???"

These comments are just sad, lol.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

it's funny because i literally did block him and then he kept messaging me on other platforms which is why i decided to respond to this one before blocking him there as well lol

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u/Clamato-e-Gannon 4h ago

Do not engage. Stop responding

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u/Clamato-e-Gannon 4h ago

No theu aren't sad and op needs to heed it. Atop responding and keep blocking.

Unless you have an active police report that you need evidence STOP RESPONDING

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u/CrystalBethCloud 6m ago

Or they are violent and might attack you. In some circumstances it is best to maintain minimal basic contact just to know where their mind is at. So you know when they are angry obsessed and may harm you.

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u/imperfectbean 11h ago

I love when men get rejected and call you a slut because damn, I’ll slept with a lot of people but not you still? What’s wrong with you?

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

slut = sleeping with a lot of people, but slut also = sleeping with nobody

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u/nogoodbrat 3h ago

when they said “slut” what they’re really saying is they hate you because you aren’t sleeping with them, lol.

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u/zer0gravity- 11h ago

Why tf havent you blocked him?

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

oh this screenshot is months old don't worry, that's why i don't have a screenshot of the part where i told him i don't wanna date him. we haven't spoken since this

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u/[deleted] 11h ago edited 11h ago

[removed] — view removed comment

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u/its-just_me- 11h ago

Yes that’s generally how the internet works.

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u/JizzmgasmExperience 11h ago

Calm down, child. Internet engagement is attention.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago edited 10h ago

most internet content is posted with the intention of getting views. are people only posting important things on this sub? thought it was for fun

edit since he did: i posted it because it was funny, not because i wanted to be comforted👍 i do apologize to Effective_War_6253 for being unable to view this in a humorous way

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u/[deleted] 10h ago

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u/ifmcharlot 5h ago

1mo account, 600 contributions. 20 a day. How anybody else is a loser and you aren't is beyond me

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u/AmazingFlatworm_ 6h ago

Holy shit, kid. Are you the guy she rejected?

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u/maidensluvdooka 5h ago

Nobody cares this much but you go outside

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u/RedHairedZander 11h ago

Calm down, creep.

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u/Adorable_Echo_4317 11h ago

Atttttteeeeentiooooooon. Probably.

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u/CogInTheMachinee 11h ago

Your account is a month old and you have over 7k karma. Take a shower and brush your teeth, you might feel better.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

uh no i blocked him right after this screenshot was taken but thanks for the assumption

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u/poofypanda_ 11h ago

It’s Reddit. Most people are gonna assume attention seeking with post like this. Glad you kicked this loser to the curb !

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

yeah true😭 i just posted it because it was funny (and also pathetic on his part), it's a really old screenshot that i found looking for something else, i have not interacted with this man in a long time

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u/sheepsclothingiswool 11h ago

Personally, I’m glad you did bc tons of idiots do shit like this and it should really be put on blast so people can wreck them. They should be shamed!

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 11h ago

looks pathetic on your part to keep engaging

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

can i get paid for that

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u/HotSauceHigh 11h ago

You shouldn't have responded to any of this

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i am not going through the effort of building a time machine just to go back and unsend these messages

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u/stealthisusername98 11h ago

Uh huh. And why did you post the screenshot lol

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

how many posts on this subreddit are just people reposting old screenshots? a lot of them lmao i found an old screenshot and thought it was funny damn

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u/Actual-Examination96 11h ago

Don’t reply to them. They’re usually the same losers who do this shit so feel like they need to turn the problem on you. Projection.

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u/orangutangang0 11h ago

And then you posted it on the internet for even more attention. Lmao

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

because it's funny and people post funny things online

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u/OBVIOUS_BAN_EVASION_ 11h ago

And now here you are seeking attention, incel

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u/orangutangang0 11h ago

I bang my hot gf frequently nice try little buddy

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u/Evasote_ 11h ago

Well I’m banging your hot gf right now so how’s that feel

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i banged her last night too

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u/Dudewhocares3 8h ago

Bro, we’ve been over this, the flashlight you don’t clean isn’t your girlfriend

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u/orangutangang0 11h ago

Correct.

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u/Bakurraa 9h ago

how else they gonna farm karma

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u/MarinaK312 11h ago

It’s so funny how men immediately resort to “slut” as their default insult when things go array.

My ex did the same. He was literally my first.

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u/lostGoldAlone 8h ago

Being a guy is so embarrassing.

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u/Life-Turn-1772 6h ago

Embarrassing how?

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u/tatiscloud 6h ago

You can't read can you?

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u/groovygrubey 11h ago

Every time people will come to a post on [r/texts](r/texts) and be like “why didn’t you block?” My brother in christ. There would be no posts if everyone blocked right away

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

yeah lol😭 this screenshot is old, and even though i didn't specify that in the caption, i did say i didn't have screenshots of part of it, which would imply i don't have the chat anymore...

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u/twerk4data 10h ago

So put yourself in a weird situation for content, got it 🙄

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u/groovygrubey 10h ago

Nice bad faith read

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u/loosehandsquebec 11h ago

Fragile ego

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u/mopeyy 7h ago

Bingo. These people are basically still children.

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u/famousanonamos 4h ago

It always gets me when guys go straight to 'sIut' when you turn them down.

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u/Plane_Sentence5907 42m ago

For me that’s them telling you who they really are. It’s immature

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u/garlicbokchoy8 11h ago

Ugh I’m so fucking tired of men and their audacity.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

very thankful to be out of the dating scene lol

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u/Plane_Sentence5907 42m ago

It’s like they think women are obligated to go out with them and when they say no they resort to name calling and being aggressive. (Not all men) but clearly ones that need knocked down a peg or two

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u/SpotPsychological263 4h ago

Not men, childish little boys

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u/JellybeanJuggler21 3h ago

pretty sure that's a fully grown adult man she is messaging

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u/Plane_Sentence5907 41m ago

That says it all then really

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u/Dudewhocares3 8h ago

“Why is there a male loneliness epidemic! Why are women choosing the bear?!”

-this guy and everyone like him

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u/nogoodbrat 9h ago

so tired of how 90% of the comments in this subreddit have devolved into WHY DID YOU RESPOND??? WHY HAVENT YOU BLOCKED?? as thought not suffering in silence means we’re desperate for attention. this was like a two minute interaction. everyone in here trying to turn the tables on OP is outing themselves as the type of creep that judges women for being mistreated by men lol.

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u/SweetSure315 8h ago

i just saw another post about a fucking 16 year old girl having a 26 yo man trying to slide in her DMs and half the most upvoted comments were asking why she didnt block, why did she accept the chat, etc. it's fucking repulsive how much slack pedos on reddit get as long as they're a man

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u/insidevoicepleas 8h ago

well why did she decide to be 16???

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u/SweetSure315 8h ago

that's the real crime here

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u/wackbirds 7h ago

That's a backasswards way of looking at it. Let's say I like hiking through fields but I keep getting my legs cut up from the sharp grass plus I've been getting ticks. If I tell someone about it and they respond by suggesting that I protect myself by wearing solid boots and pants when I go on my hikes, they're not blaming me or trying to protect the sharp grass or the ticks, they're giving me a way forward that takes into account the reality of the environment I'm entering that will allow me to navigate it in a way that protects ME, that's what happened on that other post, I saw it also earlier and its no different every other similar instance.

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u/Ill-Fail-9217 7h ago

Why did she even put 16 on her profile at all? Just don't have your age and the pedos wont be attracted to u lol

Yes it's fucked up, but she's basically inviting it.

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u/SweetSure315 4h ago

you think 16 year olds telling you how old they are are inviting you to dm them?

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u/Ill-Fail-9217 4h ago

Not me personally, but to creeps? Yes. They see the age and that's what they target. My point is, no age in bio = no pedophiles dming you

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u/SweetSure315 4h ago

hey man generally when you have predators in a space the solution isn't "hide the kids" over "aggressively and quickly removing the predators". cuz then it just seems like you prefer the pedophiles being here

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u/Ill-Fail-9217 3h ago

It's a preventative measure, not a solution. Solution would be locking them all up or sentencing them to death and I wish we would.

But why advertise youre a minor? That's just asking for weirdos to message you.

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u/SweetSure315 3h ago

you sure seem focused on what the kids doing and not the pedophiles, man

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u/Ill-Fail-9217 3h ago

Bruh this guy struggles with selective reading.

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u/NoneOfThisMatters_XO 8h ago

What is with the comments in here? He found her on other apps and was stalking her!! The victim blaming is so obnoxious. Maybe if a woman tells you she isn’t interested, just ACCEPT THAT.

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u/StuD44 5h ago

Stupid people that realize they have no arguments left will always tell you: U ztupid

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u/Sharles_Davis_Kendy 10h ago

I work with a guy and his nickname at work is just “G” ( I guess too many people mispronounced his name) and he’s exactly the kind of person to do this so seeing that name on top scratched off and only seeing the letter G made me laugh harder than it should.

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u/CambridgeOctopus 10h ago

Hey I'm G and this is not me

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u/thatdemonlife1 8h ago

I work with a G!

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u/Thewolfofwedgeway 11h ago

No done something like this in my life. Can't imagine why any man ever would.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

for aura™

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u/Critical-Suit7356 10h ago

This sounds like someone I Know.

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u/Bobs_Burgers7 10h ago

😂 I don’t miss this.

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u/Stormblessed_1987 5h ago

This how predatory men be. We got a dude where I'm from (Bucksport, Maine( named Jon Holyoke. Just Google the town snd his name and i bet all kinds of stuff comes up 🤣🤣🤣

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u/Stormblessed_1987 5h ago

This how they usually go:

Predator Guy: hey you're so beautiful Random Girl: thanks PG: we should hang out sometime RG: ummmm sorry I have a boyfriend PG: whatever I wouldn't fuck you anyway ugly whore, im calling CPS

Sorry ladies but so happy we ain't gotta deal with it. Lol

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u/Clamato-e-Gannon 4h ago

Block block block do not engage

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u/BaDkArMa24786 4h ago

Rejection breeds obsession...

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u/Mobile_South_9117 3h ago

Some people don't handle rejection very well. It's usually people with narcissistic tendencies. Seen it with men and women both.

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u/Em-BiggeneD 3h ago

I wish I could explain why some guys do this but I really don't understand it at all. Is the thought that now you'll reconsider? Or does it make him feel better like this is some sort of way to make you unhappy for his own vindication?

I'm asking because honestly, I see so many similar examples but as a guy, I really can't relate. And I was once a young idiot too. What the hell is this?

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u/Ill_Descent 2h ago

He probably doesn’t want you. But he wants you to want him. The male ego is very fragile.

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u/Hot_Science_7655 1h ago

That is a troll ignore and block 🚫

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u/Sleepyshyskyeguy 6m ago

I love when they go strt to “slut” its fcking hilarious

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u/Calm-Philosopher4323 6h ago

Seems like op likes the attention. Asking the same question twice and continuing to engage.

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u/No-Insurance6897 6h ago

Ok, don’t get me wrong at all. He’s a piece of shit. However, you could have stopped texting him long before all that. I may have never gotten a double text from a woman I’ve matched with. Either he’s really good looking enough that you wanted to keep it up or I’m genuinely ugly as fuck.

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u/No-Insurance6897 6h ago

Why respond to “you’re weird”? I can’t get a response to a damn hello.

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u/willy--wanka 5h ago

Stop responding.

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u/Screws_Loose 4h ago

Yeah, things like this drive me nuts there’s absolutely no point in engaging people like this or trying to reason with them. They love it and they feed off of it

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u/twerk4data 10h ago

Why are you replying at all?

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u/insidevoicepleas 10h ago

didn't after that

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u/Disastrous-Mode2664 11h ago

Why do u keep responding? This dude is immature and berating you. Block him and move on

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

this is an old screenshot lmao he is blocked

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u/nobodyspecial712 8h ago

Why didn't you just block him and call it a day?

Interacting with him is giving him exactly what he wants. Your attention.

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u/Pretty_Employment131 11h ago

Why not block and not reply

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i did

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u/Top-Passenger-7152 11h ago

just. block. them.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i did

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u/Objective-Corgi-3527 9h ago

I wonder if you can't tell him to leave you alone and block him once, then report it to the police as harrassment if he keeps messaging you on different apps? Maybe not worth the rigamarole?

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u/insidevoicepleas 8h ago

he's been blocked for quite a long time

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u/Objective-Corgi-3527 8h ago

Sure, but for the future. It looks like it may have rose to the level of harrassment

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u/ElkPuzzleheaded3995 11h ago

Stop responding. You’re feeding into what he’s doing. Giving him what he wants- attention. I hope you’ve blocked the loser by now for your sake!

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

yeah he's blocked and has been for months don't worry, it's an old screenshot that i found while looking for something else

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u/ElkPuzzleheaded3995 11h ago

Phewww!

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u/Banjoschmanjo 11h ago

Why are you texting them

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u/sugarplum_doll 11h ago

The attention can’t be that good

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i blocked him directly after this screenshot lmao

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u/Used_Economics1368 11h ago

Why does everyone always assume it’s for attention when the person just simply replies a couple times? Like you all wouldn’t do the exact same thing lmao.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

because if you're a woman EVERYTHING you do is for attention

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u/sugarplum_doll 11h ago

Speak for yourself. Some people have self respect unlike you. I wouldn’t have entertained it at all.

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u/[deleted] 10h ago

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u/insidevoicepleas 10h ago

get over it omg

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u/banned-n-scanned 9h ago

Robot reddit

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u/2022_Yooda 9h ago

He's a dick, but you kept texting even after you told him texting implies you care.

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u/insidevoicepleas 9h ago

i was just bored but he was blocked right after this screenshot

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u/2022_Yooda 9h ago

Fair enough.

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 11h ago

Why are you engaging with him? Just block. You are keeping it going and that is strange.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

he's been blocked for months and this was a 2 minute interaction tops

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 11h ago

you posted it - you gave him way too much attention

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i will call my past self up immediately and tell her not to send these 5 specific texts (one being a copy-paste)

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 11h ago

OR, hear me out, you don't post something and get defensive about the responses. I hope you got enough attention today.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i don't think it's all that defensive to say i posted it because it was funny rather than for attention lol

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 11h ago

you are, though, and snarky. Now I'm thinking he dodged a bullet.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

the guy who calls random girls dirty sluts for not wanting to date him is the one who dodged a bullet, okay sure lmao.

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 10h ago

I'm truly guessing the validity of all of it. I'll take my own advice and stop engaging with attention seeking toxic folks. Have a day.

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u/_DoctorLady 10h ago

Why are you even in this subreddit you idiot

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 10h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/X3zJUXUgaCTNPLZ1wJ

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u/pringleboat2 8h ago

Bruh what is wrong with you get over it.

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u/insidevoicepleas 8h ago

you're right, posting this screenshot took me months

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u/NoneOfThisMatters_XO 8h ago

Him*

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u/[deleted] 11h ago

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

what about me is exhausting lol😭 could understand that if this is how i spoke all the time, but this is clearly a situation where i'm not speaking like i would in a typical conversation lol

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u/Accomplished_Gur822 9h ago

Wrong sub, Skippy.

r/unenlightenedhalfwits is down the road a bit to the right.

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u/reality_raven 11h ago

Try not texting him.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

you'll be happy to know that i haven't texted him since the last message in this screenshot which was sent many, many months ago

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u/Accomplished_Gur822 9h ago

Try reading the post.

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u/Sensitive_Ad_1271 11h ago

Stop interacting

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

i have not spoken to him in a very long time it's ok, just found this screenshot while looking for a dif picture

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u/Sensitive_Ad_1271 11h ago

Good job, I hope he leaves you alone. Weird to down vote advice meant to help by you or whoever did.

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u/insidevoicepleas 11h ago

he has! i haven't heard from him since taking this screenshot in like march ish

and i'm not sure what you mean, but i didn't downvote you if that's what was being said

Phone message told a guy i didn't want to date him

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