I work with a doctor. he's older than me and there has definitely been chemistry there before. for quite some time - maybe 2 months - the chemistry had subsided. things were pretty strictly pleasant and professional.

he texted me after work saying that he was in my area. we bantered back and forth a bit. then, he asks me if i'm all settled in for the night, I said no that I don't usually go to bed until quite late. later he asked where I usually go out around my area. I responded with 2 bars I have frequented before. he says, "i was going to ask if you wanted to grab a beer." spontaneously, i said yes. things have been very professional and pleasantly friendly for an extended amount of time. so, I didnt think anything of it.

the night started off innocuous. conversation about work, trips he's taken lately, he asked me some questions and things like that. we went in the back and started playing pool in an isolated room. slowly, chemistry seems to return. he gets a little touchy...i'm sitting on a high stool with my legs pulled up to my chest waiting for him to finish his turn in pool. he goes, then passes my chair, as he does he says it's my turn and taps me on the hip/slightly butt area. I didnt give any reaction and just got up. he keeps kind of testing the waters. my hip, my back, etc. maybe about 3-4 times.

we finally have to leave because he's on call and has a case to respond to. he says he's disappointed he couldn't finish our game, and gives me his card to pay. on the way out he playfully kicks me in the behind - which i guess my surprised reaction could have been taken as.....playful? I spun around, put my finger in his face, and laughed (instinctively) saying "woah. excuse me."

I initially accepted this invitation thinking it was a normal outing with a coworker. i'm a believer that men and women can be friends. i just feel sort of stupid or like "ah. I see." about the situation. sigh, I dont know.

Hello I need advice! I have been talking wiht a man every days for three month now, we see eachother mostly on the weekend and lately I want to progress a bit more in the relationship.

I wanna try like flirt with him and introduce some physical touch tho I'm really shy and I never flirt before so I don't have any ideas of what is flirting and what is not ?

Thank you !

So my ex girlfriend (22F) of an year broke up with me in February this year and largely we have been apart since then until recently she broke no contact and after catching up with each other things got a little weird because I pressured her to be on friendly terms which she denied explicitly that she doesn’t wanna do anything anymore with me again and when she mentioned about her failed talking stage after our breakup I sorta just lost my mind and just exploded all my emotions onto her through texts now after a few days later,I initated a conversation again and subtly flirted for the first time since breakup by saying today’s date is 10/10 thats you and she replied with melting face emoji and said back “thats you” while also saying that you might have said that to more people after chatting up a bit she got distant again which makes me wonder if I could rizz her up without stressing her out and see where this goes or should i respect her boundaries and space? If i can re attract her by flirting,what should I keep in mind to not cross any lines as well as make persuade her without losing any self respect. P.S-She barely gets approached by any good guys cuz we live in a small town and I believe I can use that to flirt with her and re attract her again and ofc I know I made some stupid mistakes but I genuinely love her a lot and I am working on becoming better.

My girlfriend sent me this:
“Some guy who hit on me a while ago randomly texted me out of nowhere. I told him I’m in a relationship, and he’s honestly such a weirdo.”
How should I respond to her?

I have known my supervisor for 3 years and she has always been nice to me and helped me in different situations. Now I asked her to supervise my thesis. I went to her office the other day and we discussed my thesis but out of nowhere she started asking personal questions and also shared about herself. Then asked if I went to the gym, and I should join a co gym and maybe help some girls life weights, she also knew little details from my personal life that shared with her 2 3 years back that I didn't expect her to remember. Then she asked what was the last movie I watched and where I lived. And when I was about to leave I asked her to write a recommendation letter, she asked if I needed a basic or a special one. What caught me off guard was her telling me her age during our conversation. So is she flirting or just being friendly.

Today, a guy I secretly like was flirting with me quite a lot, or at least that’s how it felt. The problem is that a lot of his flirting involved making me feel stupid or acting like he knew better than me.

I really don’t understand this kind of flirting. How is making someone feel dumb supposed to make them like you?
To me, it seems like the opposite of what you should do if you’re trying to win someone over.

For example, he’ll twist my words and make it sound like I said something I didn’t or say that I don’t think things through enough. At one point, he straight-up called me stupid, and I genuinely didn’t find it funny at all. It was pretty obvious that I didn’t understand why he was saying that, and honestly, I was more annoyed than amused. He ended up apologizing to me at least twice afterward. I think he realized that his comment hadn’t gone over well, but honestly, it really bothered me. I don’t mind a little teasing during flirting, and I actually think it can be fun when it happens occasionally. But when it’s the main thing someone does, over and over again, it stops being playful and just becomes hurtful.

I genuinely don’t understand what makes some guys think this is an effective way to flirt. How is making someone feel bad about themselves supposed to make them attracted to you? Does this actually work for some people, or am I missing something?

So I was working yesterday (we’ll call him Starbucks guy) right and me and my coworker were talking. He goes to grab dishes and to put them in the dishwasher which is in the back. I guess I didn’t realize he left so this other guy
(who is super cute btw) passes by. So I’m talking to Starbucks guy about this one dude that works there that always wears super cool jorts. So I’m like this jorts guy is so tuff and cute guy walks by and thinks I’m talking to him and is like who and im like (Jorts guys name won’t expose for obvious reasons) and he’s like “ohhhh yeah he’s pretty tuff.”Then Idk what possessed me to say this too, but it was also the way I said it aswell that was like flirty. I was like “not gonna lie I think your pretty tuff too.” and he was like “I’m also not gonna I also lowkey think your pretty tuff too.” B ro that sent butterflies straight to my soul im such a girl. Then my coworker had to interrupt the moment of course. 🙄 The way I said it tho was like i don’t know I guess I felt bold in the moment it was like teasing.

I’m a 31-year-old guy interested in a 28-year-old woman I met at work. We’re in different departments, so our opportunities to interact face-to-face are limited.

I made my intentions clear because I genuinely wanted to get to know her romantically. I invited her to watch a movie, we once spent our lunch break together and talked for an hour, and we’ve had conversations through Instagram and Office MS Teams. I eventually told her that I was genuinely interested in her and wasn’t looking for games or anything complicated.

She told me she appreciated my honesty, but she hadn’t had enough interaction with me to know what she felt or what to say. She suggested that we **“take things naturally”** because we still work together and she wanted to avoid unnecessary pressure.

Since then, I’ve tried to respect her pace. Sometimes she replies warmly and asks about me, but other times our conversations are brief or she takes hours to respond. Recently, she checked in on me while I was recovering from a fever, and we had another friendly conversation. These moments make me happy, but I know they don’t necessarily mean she’s developing romantic feelings.

Our office schedules may not overlap much in the coming months, so most of our communication will probably be online. I’m willing to keep getting to know her, but I don’t want to confuse patience with waiting indefinitely for someone who may never reciprocate my feelings.

**My questions:**

1. When a woman says she wants to “take things naturally,” does it mean she’s open to exploring a romantic connection, or could she simply be unsure about her feelings?
   
2. Is it reasonable to keep initiating conversations occasionally, provided I respect her boundaries and don’t pressure her?
   
3. How can I distinguish genuine romantic progress from ordinary friendliness?
   
4. At what point should I step back and ask for clarity instead of continuing to wait?

I’m not expecting her to owe me anything just because I’ve been patient or sincere. I understand that feelings can’t be forced, and I’m prepared to accept it if she eventually decides she doesn’t see me romantically.

I just want to know whether giving this connection time is reasonable or whether I’m setting myself up for disappointment.

I’d appreciate honest answers, especially from women who have been in a similar situation. Please be real with me, even if the truth isn’t what I want to hear.

If she is happily married and she lets me smell behind her right ear, Is that cheating? If I get turned on because she smells as sexy as I think she does is it still ok? Is that crossing the line? Can someone tell us where the line is?

We've been talking every day since Monday, he shows interest in my life, but I don't know if he's just friendly, I feel like I could be a little more flirtatious but I don't know how to do it without scaring him…

or what can I do to know if we’re on the same page? pls help

Well, to be honest, i never knew how to flirt with someone, just like everybody, but here its the thing, i don't get it.

My friend says im good looking and carismatic, but that "Funny guy" is gone once i start talking to a girl. They also say that im not the same as i am with them. i start acting serious and things like that.

The fact is, sometimes i have some troubles understanding jokes, and i thought that the same can happen with flirting, as it is subtle.

so my question is, is this something fixable? like, can learn to flirt like i learned to be sociable, or im just autistic and im taking this shit too serious?

(Also, English is not my native language, so i tried wrote everything i wanted to say)

If you have any comments, i will be responding.

thanks and good luck to you! Anon Reader!

Hey everyone so i have been single for some time. And i think that made me rusty but i have been working out and loosing a bit of weight and i noticed women look at me more and i catch women looking at me now vs before they did not. But anyways this girl works at a place i frequent a lot and when ever i come in the store we say hi to each other and make eye contact but that eye contact holds a little longer than a quick “ hi and keep it moving” i hold my eye contact and she holds hers. And i even makes jokes with her and around her when i can and she is not busy.

-TLDR recently i was at the store and she was shopping there also and not working on that day. We greeted each other again with a smile and longer than usual eye contact when we greet. But this time as i was leaving the store to go to my car she also start in my same path without acknowledging me directly but we were so close to each other like she put herself in my direct perimeter she walks a little faster than me so she’s in front of me and she starts walking to leave the store also but i noticed as she is walking in front of me she swings her hips very noticeably left to right almost like she is a runway model. And she is looking at the glass in front of her and i noticed her looking behind herself at me as we leave the store one behind the other. But as she gets out first she holds the door for me and i make a little joke she responds, laughs a little but not hard and i get to my car but she just keeps walking a actually does a circle around the parking lot not really going anywhere and walks near my car looking at me inside and the she goes back in the store.. so i am pretty confused at this was this a sign that she wanted me to pursue and strike a conversation with her to get to know each other more? Or pure coincidence..? ( more context- she is very gorgeous and a little younger than me. So this is why i am having trouble deciphering signals.. i am not ugly but i am also not very hot i guess somewhat attractive but i am still in the process of getting to my goal physique.) sorry this is so long and maybe this TLDR was not actually a long story short 🤦‍♂️ i just wanted to give as much context as possible so you all can give me some good pointers.

I slid into this girls DMs and said when can I take you out. She said she’s not dating rn. Should I not say anything or what should I do. Please help asap

So I have been, like, randomly talking to this girl, and this morning, I sent her a text, like.

Hey, some other account is using your photos. Do you know that?

She is like, " Who? Tell me, I'm scared ( like really scared)

Then I sent an account filled with moon photos with a video of treat me like white tees.

All of this just to hear, " yo", I was so scared, and then you can do better :(

I'm 19[M] and I recently a girl I really liked said she doesn't want a relationship like a week ago and things are very awkward. I'm currently a month in [30 days] but damn is the social awkwardness still there. I know most of the friction to open up or approach people is mostly self sabotage but I usually wonder what to talk about and most of the things I'm genuinely interseted in tend to be either a physical attribute like clear skin or high cheek bone on their facial structure but that seems objectifying much. I have personal interests which at times I look back and think may be hard to find people to connect with on, I like chess and drawing. What should I do if I want to at the best of scenarios flirt with people of common interests we can connect over? Any advice also on the rejection? I don't know how to maintain contact without the hopes of her then wanting the relationship and at the same time keeping things platonic and more so grounds for good friendship

Met a girl around a week ago, we quickly matched, and that evening we kissed. We exchanged number and I ask her out, she says yes, and sunday, she told me she would be free Wednesday (tomorrow) and Friday. So I suggest a plan for Wednesday, and now she's ghosting me. Like, what the actual f*** is going on ? What have I done wrong ?

I (24 m) really like this girl (22 f) who is on her 3rd semester in Physics and Astronomy bachelor. I myself am on 5th semester in the same field, and my 3rd and 4th semesters were extremely rough.

Our entire story goes something like this:

There is an Astronomy event every month that we hold together with a team. It's me, the girl I like (let's call her Mandy), and three other girls and a guy. Mandy and I clicked very quickly and I have since I met her liked being around her. I don't often click instantly with people, and I can quite easily be wooed by girls who seem nice around me.

A few weeks later, we are in our Uni bar, talking, and I notice that she's being very nice and touchy with everyone (guys and girls), and she even mentions that she feels like she's in her "slut phase" (pardon the profanity). I quite quickly lost the spark she had instilled in me because of that comment. I still thought she was cute, and she was definitely still nice, but I could easily live with her being just a friend. That same day, she mentioned to me that she had written a story that got published (I, too, am an aspiring writer, so this caught my interest). But she never told me anything about the story, or its title. I didn't ask, either.

Summer break comes to a close, and I meet her for another bar chat where we now talk about very personal issues. Over the summer she had gotten a boyfriend, who she was having trouble with now, and she was dealing with other issues, too, which I've promised her to keep to myself. A week later, I talk to her again, and she's broken up with the guy, and we talk about the hardship of dating. I seem to regain the spark I had, because the way she talks about how she liked that guy, it seems like she wants something serious. During that talk, she also mentions that she thinks I'm a sweet guy. I, of course, am very moved by this.

Now, she also mentions some struggles with her 3rd semester. The same struggles I recall having. So I help her out loads. I give her non-syllabus books that helped me through the courses, I give her formula books and mind-maps, all to make her semester easier. This is mainly because I'd hate anyone to suffer the same mental catastrophe that was my 3rd and 4th semesters, but also I'm paying her quite a bit more attention than others.

Since, I am getting very interested in her again, I remember the story she wrote. I do a lot of online digging and eventually find and contact the publisher and ask for a copy. I get the copy, read it and bring it for next bar meeting (last friday) where I surprise her with it. She turns red immediately, and hides her face, laughing. We hadn't talked about that story since that one time, which by now is half-a-year ago. She can't believe it, and wants to hear the story of how I got it. She seems to be very appreciative.

During the weekend, I couldn't stop thinking about her and how I'd love to ask her out. I know she's on hinge (I don't use it, but someone I know told me they saw her on it), so she still seemed to be looking to date. All I had to do was find something to do just the two of us (and we share many interests, so it shouldn't be that difficult).

Just today, I met her in the hall. She seemed busy at the time, so I walked on, but then she asks if I wanted to talk to her. I just ask how everything went after I left last friday, and I point out a hickey on her neck. She laughs and tells me things went a bit overboard. The guy that left her the hickey apparently wasn't "boyfriend material" and she now also mentions that she thinks "Maybe I shouldn't have a boyfriend at the moment" because of the Uni stress on the side. This kinda crushed me... Not so much the guy she went out with, but more so the fact that she thinks she might not want to date anyone.

I'm fairly certain that she doesn't know about my feelings, although maybe she suspects something (idk, I am horrible at picking up cues). Part of me still really wants to pick up the courage to ask her out, but another part of me is scared that things will be incredibly awkward between us. At least now we are very good friends.

What do you think? Should I still try? Is there a possibility she might change her mind? What would you do in my place?

So I'm on the spectrum and social interactions are my kryptonite so I am historically terrible at realizing when someone is into me. Usually, I only find out because a friend or family member literally has to spell it out for me. But lately, a guy I work with has been doing some stuff that has me wondering if he's actually trying to flirt.

We have a really small team at my job, but I’ve noticed I'm the person he talks to the most by far. It pretty much started when he found out we share some kind of obscure interests. He got super excited and started talking to me way more, and he’s been making a lot more jokes around me lately too.

The things that really threw me off happened recently. The other day, he walked with me all the way to this cafe around the corner to get lunch. It’s a spot all of us coworkers go to all the time for a quick bite, and we usually go in groups if we have a minute. So I totally assumed he was getting food too, but he didn't buy a single thing. He literally just tagged along just to walk and talk with me.

Then, several times he waited around at the end of the day and walked with me out to my car.

To me, just chatting or being nice is regular coworker stuff, but waiting around and walking with me for no real reason feels different. Am I totally overthinking this, or does it sound like he's trying to show he likes me?

Especially when you’re both men. I know some straight men like to make jokes where the punchline is being gay, and aside how that annoys me, it’s also been leaving me confused. How can you tell when a guy is just joking around? I’ve been under the impression that jokes like that are usually for an audience, so when a straight man friend of mine (who knows I like men) started joking about me sucking him off in our DMs, it struck me as weird.

So I'm a 17 year old male and I go to a boarding school, a supervisor at the hostel had court me at a pub in the town I boarded in. It was a mates 18th party so I came into town for it, I was pretty smashed when I first talked with her. She first offered to buy me drinks but I turned her down, about an hour later we met again as I returned to the pub. She called out to me and made me get a drink of which she paid for, i thanked her and drank it. I was soon kicked out for being underaged, she met me outside and gave me a hug before leaving.

For some context she was at the same school I board at when I was a year 7 and she was year 12, we were pretty close back then as friends as well. A few years after graduation she also worked at the same place I did, I spent 2 hours with her almost daily. We have been close the whole time.

Ps: I'm genuinely hammered when typing this and it is 4AM so I apologise for terrible writing.

Context: Female. Ive realised there's a pattern where a lot of guys be brushing the hair out of my face..I still don't know why because it's weird to ask.

Usually we are just talking n they suddenly brush the hair out of my face..most times they just brush it out even though they didn't tell me there's something in my hair..n tbh I can do it myself?

Is it flirting? Or do guys just do this? Maybe they just like touching my hair or sum...

Am I dumb I swear they r making a move but like it's been so many guys I'm actually lost. They can't all be making a move..right?

So, pretty much I met this girl in my classes at college. I feel like she’s flirting with me but I have no idea, keep in mind I’m 18 and she’s 25.

I’ve noticed recently that she is getting me to do things I probably wouldn’t do, we’ve gone shopping together (for clothes), she’s offered to take me for drives if I ever needed to talk, brought me to my room 3 times and made sure I was okay and had everything I needed if I threw up (I was drunk), gotten food together, let me work on her car even though we’re both mechanics, helped me with school work, got really up close when hanging out with friends. She also asked me if I was going to a Bon fire, which apparently she wouldn’t have if I didn’t go. She’s also apparently hanging out with some of my friends that she doesn’t really like. We work on everything together in class. She bought me a bracelet to match hers without me asking. When we were in a friends car she purposely sat in the middle to be next to me. She also has been getting me to eat healthy or going out to eat with me. She started smoking cigarettes with me when she only vaped before. She’s also made me do laundry with her. Sitting right beside me in class, or getting me a redbull every morning. She also has been calling me names and throwing small rocks at me. There’s probably a bunch more I’m forgetting.

Pretty much I can’t tell if she’s flirting with me or not, I like her but I don’t really want to screw up a great friendship if she doesn’t. Some of the guys I’m hanging out with also can’t tell if she’s flirting with me or not, but according to them me and her spend a lot of one on one time together. I’m just really confused, because I feel like she is but I also feel like she isn’t.

Is it flirting if he teases me calling me stuff like slow poke and I playfully kick him and stuff like that