I work with a doctor. he's older than me and there has definitely been chemistry there before. for quite some time - maybe 2 months - the chemistry had subsided. things were pretty strictly pleasant and professional.

he texted me after work saying that he was in my area. we bantered back and forth a bit. then, he asks me if i'm all settled in for the night, I said no that I don't usually go to bed until quite late. later he asked where I usually go out around my area. I responded with 2 bars I have frequented before. he says, "i was going to ask if you wanted to grab a beer." spontaneously, i said yes. things have been very professional and pleasantly friendly for an extended amount of time. so, I didnt think anything of it.

the night started off innocuous. conversation about work, trips he's taken lately, he asked me some questions and things like that. we went in the back and started playing pool in an isolated room. slowly, chemistry seems to return. he gets a little touchy...i'm sitting on a high stool with my legs pulled up to my chest waiting for him to finish his turn in pool. he goes, then passes my chair, as he does he says it's my turn and taps me on the hip/slightly butt area. I didnt give any reaction and just got up. he keeps kind of testing the waters. my hip, my back, etc. maybe about 3-4 times.

we finally have to leave because he's on call and has a case to respond to. he says he's disappointed he couldn't finish our game, and gives me his card to pay. on the way out he playfully kicks me in the behind - which i guess my surprised reaction could have been taken as.....playful? I spun around, put my finger in his face, and laughed (instinctively) saying "woah. excuse me."

I initially accepted this invitation thinking it was a normal outing with a coworker. i'm a believer that men and women can be friends. i just feel sort of stupid or like "ah. I see." about the situation. sigh, I dont know.

Hello I need advice! I have been talking wiht a man every days for three month now, we see eachother mostly on the weekend and lately I want to progress a bit more in the relationship.

I wanna try like flirt with him and introduce some physical touch tho I'm really shy and I never flirt before so I don't have any ideas of what is flirting and what is not ?

Thank you !

So my ex girlfriend (22F) of an year broke up with me in February this year and largely we have been apart since then until recently she broke no contact and after catching up with each other things got a little weird because I pressured her to be on friendly terms which she denied explicitly that she doesn’t wanna do anything anymore with me again and when she mentioned about her failed talking stage after our breakup I sorta just lost my mind and just exploded all my emotions onto her through texts now after a few days later,I initated a conversation again and subtly flirted for the first time since breakup by saying today’s date is 10/10 thats you and she replied with melting face emoji and said back “thats you” while also saying that you might have said that to more people after chatting up a bit she got distant again which makes me wonder if I could rizz her up without stressing her out and see where this goes or should i respect her boundaries and space? If i can re attract her by flirting,what should I keep in mind to not cross any lines as well as make persuade her without losing any self respect. P.S-She barely gets approached by any good guys cuz we live in a small town and I believe I can use that to flirt with her and re attract her again and ofc I know I made some stupid mistakes but I genuinely love her a lot and I am working on becoming better.