I work with a doctor. he's older than me and there has definitely been chemistry there before. for quite some time - maybe 2 months - the chemistry had subsided. things were pretty strictly pleasant and professional.

he texted me after work saying that he was in my area. we bantered back and forth a bit. then, he asks me if i'm all settled in for the night, I said no that I don't usually go to bed until quite late. later he asked where I usually go out around my area. I responded with 2 bars I have frequented before. he says, "i was going to ask if you wanted to grab a beer." spontaneously, i said yes. things have been very professional and pleasantly friendly for an extended amount of time. so, I didnt think anything of it.

the night started off innocuous. conversation about work, trips he's taken lately, he asked me some questions and things like that. we went in the back and started playing pool in an isolated room. slowly, chemistry seems to return. he gets a little touchy...i'm sitting on a high stool with my legs pulled up to my chest waiting for him to finish his turn in pool. he goes, then passes my chair, as he does he says it's my turn and taps me on the hip/slightly butt area. I didnt give any reaction and just got up. he keeps kind of testing the waters. my hip, my back, etc. maybe about 3-4 times.

we finally have to leave because he's on call and has a case to respond to. he says he's disappointed he couldn't finish our game, and gives me his card to pay. on the way out he playfully kicks me in the behind - which i guess my surprised reaction could have been taken as.....playful? I spun around, put my finger in his face, and laughed (instinctively) saying "woah. excuse me."

I initially accepted this invitation thinking it was a normal outing with a coworker. i'm a believer that men and women can be friends. i just feel sort of stupid or like "ah. I see." about the situation. sigh, I dont know.