Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about gender, the life I’ve lived so far, and the choices I might want to make in the future.

One thing I’ve been questioning is why certain choices are considered a problem by society in the first place. For example, why should it be a problem if someone who was raised as a boy wants to embrace their feminine side or make choices that are traditionally considered feminine? What’s inherently wrong with that? I genuinely don’t understand why society makes it such a big deal.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it would actually feel like to experience life differently and how much of my life I might want to change. I’ve never been particularly interested in many traditionally masculine things. At the same time, because of the way I was raised and the social expectations I grew up with, I’ve never really allowed myself to explore certain feminine things, even when I wanted to.

Now, I find myself wondering: What if I could make those choices freely? What if I didn’t have to worry about how society would react? What would my life look like if I could simply be myself without constantly thinking about other people’s expectations?

I still find myself making traditionally masculine choices in some aspects of my life, and that’s okay. But I sometimes wonder whether I’m making those choices because they’re genuinely what I want or because I’ve grown accustomed to living a certain way.

The more I think about these things, the more I question how I want to live the rest of my life. Sometimes, I imagine embracing femininity much more fully, possibly even transitioning completely. And honestly, there’s a part of me that really likes the idea.

I’m 25 now, and as an adult, I feel like I’m capable of thinking about what I want for myself and making decisions about my own life. I can imagine transitioning, including undergoing SRS someday, and fully embracing that life. When I think about it, it feels like something I could genuinely want for myself.

What I struggle to understand is why something that feels like a personal decision can become such a huge problem in society.

Why is it so difficult for people to accept that an adult can make these decisions about their own life and still live a happy, fulfilling life? Why does something like gender transition have to be surrounded by so much fear, judgment, and controversy?

I don’t hate the 25 years I’ve lived so far. Not at all. Those years have shaped me into the person I am today, and I appreciate the experiences I’ve had. I grew up in a fairly traditional and conservative society, and the person I’ve become is a result of that journey. I don’t regret my past.

But I wish the choices I might want to make about my future could be treated as something simple and ordinary. I wish exploring my gender, embracing my femininity, or deciding to transition didn’t have to feel like such a complicated and frightening thing.

Imagine if people didn’t have to live in fear of being judged or hated for being transgender. Imagine if transitioning were treated as a normal, personal decision rather than something people automatically viewed with fear or hostility.

I genuinely believe that society has much bigger problems to worry about. If we focused more of our attention on those problems and worked together to solve them, why should someone’s gender identity or decision to transition be treated as such a major issue?
To me, being transgender, exploring your identity, and making choices about how you want to live should be things that society can accept as normal parts of human life.

I don’t have all the answers, and I’m still questioning and figuring things out for myself. But I wish we lived in a world where people could explore who they are, make decisions about their own lives, and pursue happiness without having to fight so hard for something that should be a basic part of being human.

Your post about your feelings. Believe it or not, it's not as uncommon as you think it is, and it applies to all ages of people who have considered themselves trans.

For the record, I'm a trans woman who has been out and active politically for almost 40 years. I had a friend for a few decades, a trans woman, who was very successful in their transition. Long curly red hair, slender figure, they were even a cheerleader for an NFL football team for about 6 or 7 years. This went on for about 28 years, until they came to me one day and asked me what I would say if they told me that they didn't feel like they were a trans woman anymore and wanted to detransition. I couldn't think of a reason why that would bother me unless they came to despise trans people. Unfortunately, sometime down the road they found religion and then they did start to despise trans people. And that's where our friendship ended. But it was only because of their ideological beliefs.

At the same time, I want you to know that I have friends of longstanding, women friends, who are not little tiny slips of a thing. They are what some would call sturdy but that doesn't mean they're not feminine. But sometimes people mistake them for an older person transitioning because they don't look traditionally female and they don't go out of their way to do that.

In my own case, I've never gone to Great lengths to be particularly feminine and I kind of consider myself a bohemian hippie - even later in my life. But I carry myself well and I very rarely get misgendered and I'm very happy about that. But I'm also very happy that I transitioned and I've never questioned it.

So be assured that you're not the only one who's ever felt this way and it doesn't mean you were wrong; it's actually admirable that you faced your reality and have the strength to make decisions on what's best for you and what's right for you instead of whatever anyone else might think. That's part of being your authentic self - being honest and true to yourself.

Whatever you end up deciding to do good luck to you and I wish you a happy life and much balance

It’s been a long journey, but I’ve finally come to the point where I genuinely believe I might be questioning my gender identity and expression.

I’m 25 now, and I’m not exactly sure when these thoughts first started. However, it was about a year and a half ago that I began to truly accept that it was okay to question my gender in the first place. Back then, even allowing myself to think about it was difficult. I kept wondering whether it was okay to have these thoughts at all.

I already knew that transgender people existed, and somewhere along the way, I also started watching TikTok, YouTube, Insta reels even adult videos featuring trans people. But at the time, I was so convinced that I would never question my own gender. The most I could imagine was being open to having a transgender life partner. I never thought these questions would become so personal to me.

But things are completely different now. I find myself imagining an entirely different life, one where I transition or somehow get to live as a woman. And the more I imagine that possibility, the more I feel that I might be happier living that life than the one I’m living now.

Please offer your own experiences and ask any questions in order to help others. I, for whatever reason don’t see posts of people talking about where and how they got GAC only passing comments of people not being able to.

I was on state insurance at the time through John’s Hopkins which is in my state. I’m very lucky to be with them and University of Maryland; I didn’t realize how far people travel for these hospitals. After spending over 6 months just waiting for a call from PP, not to get hormones but just to see if they’d even talk to me, I moved on to different options. I landed on a clinic an hour from me and called them after weeks of worked up courage. I didn’t expect it in the slightest but the call lasted 15 minutes and I was agog when she gave me dates and they weren’t 6+ months away with risk of cancellation; it was 2 WEEKS AWAY!!!! I hung up and jumped around like crazy, squealing and giggling, running to tell my little sister when I picked her up from the bus stop. I had an hour consultation appointment where she understood my goals and desires and asked me questions before explaining how all this works and asking me to sign. She then sent in the prescription and we made our next appointment. It shipped to my pharmacy over the weekend and I picked it up. I will remember those moments forever.

Same will go for top surgery. I’ll locate the best surgeon in my area, get the needed information, have my consultation and book the surgery which is covered by insurance as I have proof I’m trans.

Am I confused and this is a common experience that I’m misunderstanding or was this helpful?

I honestly feel like a look more like a girl with short hair

Hey, I (20 mtf) have come out not a long time ago and have been trying my best to pass as my experienced gender, but I also really like working out and fighting and have been doing it for my whole life, to the point where I'm just kinda big. Does anyone have any tips to deal with that?

Hey all. Ever since I've basically been exploring my gender identity, questioning, and experimenting with gender expression and deduced that I'm pretty sure that I'm Trans gender, I've been active in various subreddits.

I've come across people in various Trans-related subreddits that were very nice. However, upon further talking with them.. Kind of seem extremely clingy, almost to the point of un-hinged.

I mean, it's cool and all to connect with other Trans, Enby and Gender-diverse peeps, but I'm married, have my life to live, and don't particularly want to conversate with somebody on Reddit at every single hour of the day.

I've had to block people in the past because they came off as extremely clingy and basically would not stop messaging me. Also, some of the people I've talked to I feel have had deep emotional issues, which may have added to the "cling" factor. But still...

Am I horrible for feeling this way?

I am stuck in a situation where I will be reliant on transphobic family for a long time.

I could get on HRT, but I'm worried they'll notice physical changes and I'll be in danger.

What should I do?

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c5y47yrrld0o

Sou casado a 14 anos e tenho 58 anos de idade, minha mulher não aceita que eu faça a th por causa da família , amigos , religião e por ela mesmo que é hétero e não se vê casada com outra mulher. Me sinto em um beco sem saída😞

How do you all do it? Posting pictures of yourselves all the time? You're all so beautiful. I feel like I don't fit in in any trans space online, especially ones like this. Compared to all of you, I am a hideous monster. Even the people at pride events I can physically go to avoid me like the plague, I'm too quiet and shy and damaged to be approached, combine that with how ugly I am and I suppose it makes sense why no one likes me.

All of the subs I felt like I belonged in are full of bigots now. Why does it gotta be so hard just to find friends? Is there *anywhere* safe to go on here where we can just exist without being hated?

I need to come out as trans fem for my own mental wellbeing because I have GAD(Generalized Anxiety Disorder) and my brain is very nervous

TLDR at end. I apologize for the repost, I'd just appreciate as much advice as possible ):

I came out as genderqueer at 12, I've been out as fully transmale since 14. My dad has always been "accepting" of the fact I'm queer. He calls me my preferred name to my face and "they" or occasionally "he" when I'm around. ("He" started since I've begun talking occasionally about trans things around him the last few months.)

But several months ago, my mom (split parents) told me he still calls me my deadname & "she" when I'm not around and to others, including my FULLY accepting mother. I finally saw it to my face the other day while we were out getting food, he referred to me as a girl to the server.

If it was just to family who I'm not out to, or isn't accepting, then I wouldn't care. But to complete strangers, even when I'm not there, and to people who fully accept me, jesus it hurts more than I'd expect.

I'm not comfortable even with gender neutral things but I put up with them because it seems easier for people. I always just allow myself to be misgendered, I have a really hard time correcting people. With strangers and non-accepting family it doesn't hurt my feelings, I know I don't pass. That's why I don't put in the effort to correct (& I live in the south). But from my own father, who SAYS he's accepting, says he's a queer ally and even goes to queer inclusive events occasionally, it hurts a lot more. He tells people he has a trans child as if he's proud, but has never seen me as anything but his daughter.

I'm 17 currently, 18 in October. I'm supposed to start T as soon as possible after. I already have a very androgynous appearance and am hopeful that within my first year of T I'll be pushed more towards looking & sounding male.

I need to have a conversation with my dad. It's hard to find the words. Hard to find the courage. A big part of me just wants to ignore it til I'm far enough in medical transition that he's forced to fully accept it essentially. Or to just start talking more frequently about trans related things to try to get him to see how it hurts and I feel without having a sit-down conversation about his misgendering.

I love my dad, but there's already some distance between us because of how he was in the past. I don't want this to create any more of a rift between us. I know I just need to talk to him. But I'm so avoidant it's so hard, I'd rather just ignore it in my constant disassociation and cry once a week over it than sit him down to talk.

TLDR; My father says to my face that he's accepting, calls me preferred or gender neutral things when I'm around. But misgenders me when I'm not there or in public. Advice on how to talk to him about it, or to bring these things up in conversation in a non-confrontational way. Or anyone else's personal experiences if similar

lowkey weve all fantasized about that right or am i crazy lmao i havent talked to the doc yet but I saw it in the portal on the lab tech notes, hella tumors on something ive always wanted removed!!!!! (and cysts on a related unwanted organ that are bigger than the organ itself lmao maybe i can get em both out)

TW primary commenter is gaslighting non binary people by attempting to pretend Buck's previous good deeds somehow make his current extremism irrelevant.

Source: Grayson V Fitness - The History of Trans Men is Beautiful...

See his latest video on trans men history. Nbs have commented on the wider video supporting Grayson, and as you can see people have attempted to inform Grayson on Buck's behaviour of the last few years. Over a week, no removal, no edit, no addressing the situation. Nothing.

This video has less than 10k views and even less will of seen this so I thought I'd simply show it. Grayson benefitted from our community by initially coming out as non binary until he passed for a man. Now he has left us in the weeds regarding the largest transphobic trans man who has done very extreme things recently including sharing an AI nude image of Samantha Lux.

I am tired and disappointed of binary passing trans people throwing us under the bus, whether it is outright enby exclusion or endorsement of people who do that.