I can't really sleep. And I keep attempting to invalidate the strong feelings I still feel towards my previous therapist, because how could someone I spent less than 2 years with have had such a profound impact on me? I know time doesn't always matter, but I went through the math anyways.

~260 sessions with my previous therapist over the course of 1 year and 8 months. Not even counting the "unofficial sessions".

There was only a handful of sessions we didn't go over time. Almost every single session we went over a minimum of 20 minutes. Mostly 30 mins over. Sometimes hours longer. There were a couple of times she rescheduled another client or cancelled the session after ours so we could run our session longer. Even though I refused. She would do it anyways. Sometimes she would block out the hour after our session in advance and wouldn't charge me for it. We had one or two emergency weekend sessions despite her clocking out at Fridays at noon. Check-in calls. Occasional hour long phone calls on weekends, week nights, afternoons, mornings. Frequent texting. Letters. Voice messages. So much more.

I didn't ask for any of it. I didn't hint at any of it. She insisted. Repeatedly. Even when I refused. She insisted.

We still spoke for maybe 5 months after she ended things. Purely logistical after the 1st month.

I don't know.

She regularly told me how exceptional I was to her, and her 18 years of experience added weight to those disclosures.

It's been almost a year since she ended things. I still think about her everyday. I don't know if I'll ever get over her.

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Reporting her has already been suggested enough times. I don't really need to hear that again, but I understand if someone suggests it again anyways.

My therapist of five years is gone a month on what sounds like an amazing vacation. My attachment has gotten better about gaps but it's never been a gap this long. I had a chance to visit family sometime this year and I purposely planned it for during this gap. I even watched the movie What About Bob? To amuse myself. I still have a few weeks left of this but I just miss my T. That is all

If you have had your therapist lie to law enforcement and abuse their position this way and may be interested in being in a journalism story about it, please lmk. Comment and someone will dm u or dm. I am trying to help someone getting this together i am not the journalist. This is to help the issue not to take ur hardearned $.

It’s been a shit show, but for a while I thought I had risen above - got a good education, worked since I was 15 as much as I could so I has some independence / didn’t have to rely on the unreliable (my family while I was a minor)
Thought I was doing ok,
Then covid,
Cheating,
Relocation impulsively on someone whos been flirting with for a while and insisted he wanted me to- he didn’t, jsut liked the sex and I got used to knowing /believing that’s all I’m worth, the only reason people would stand to be around me. And now i got myself
Out of that situation by being blamed for miscarriage that I didn’t know about / plan,
But..,..have no one anymore. Friends had babies and are preoccupied which I get but I made so much effort to be there for them without being overbearing, text them just to say I was thinking of them their family here for you love to see you when you’re up for it but lmk if you need anything or if I can grubhub something to you” - not wanting to intrude on a sensitive time but be known I love and am available to them when ready. One disappeared completely for 2 years (ppd - which I get, but at a point I reached out to her husband cuz I haven’t even get a thumbs up or a “.” Sent like we would during covid during a check up - we were all so exhausted and burnt out we’d send a “pulse check” to our besties/ anyone that had a really rough shift and knowing you don’t always want to talk about it, even a nonsensical emoji or letter was always sent back, just some sign of life. She didn’t respond for a week. I ended up calling her husband cuz I was scared at that point - if she didn’t want to associate anymore at that point I didn’t care if that’s her choice - but I was genuinely concerned something happened to her /the baby. They were fine. Just not up for talking. Another bff I was with through all her labor bc her bf/“husband” was out of the country with his other family wasn’t…..had a broken arm and tbi then but still showed up, stayed for hourse, monitored every vital and medication change, hadn’t eaten since i was fasting for a morning physical/ bloodwork, when her husband did show up around 2 am he ate my sandwich told me I could leave and then called me 30 min later cuz she woke up and was crying for me…of course I turned immediately around and stayed till 7 am when she was pushing, and came back the same day to check on her postpartum and see the baby, but she went full post partum psychosis said I was only there for 30 minutes and was dead to her…..I let her berate me for a while cuz she was one of my best friends and. Yknow, baby hormones. But it never stopped, and whenever her bf/“husband” went back to PR she took it out on me and all it took was one time of me being like “stop, take a minute, a day, a week of you need, but reassess the situation, go through messages, whatever you need to, and we can try to resolve this but I’m not going to engage when you just want to attack”
Apparently that meant I want her baby deported (even tho PR is part of the US but logic has no use at this point)

Just, everything’s going to shit. I’m drinking more that I should. With moving and moving back I haven’t been able to get an appt with a primary / psychologist yo get back on my adhd meds that I’ve been on for 12 years as well as medication for depression, also long standing

I have no support, my “best friends” are either consumed with their babies or blaming me for taking travel assignments around the country and not being as available for them after birth as I was before (even when I was there for them more than their husbands)
And my last two bfs, one who proposed to me and one who demanded I move out to him and took me too long to realize he loved the idea he made of me, not me,
I thought I had better judgement
I was selective of who I believed. Deserved my trust/attention/affection,
And for those people I would move mountains

But turns out I was an idiot all along and played as such. It was only one sided, me thinking we were in the same page/wave length

I don’t trust anyone anymore. I don’t trust myself to trust anyone. And I think it’s for the best that I way, but the isolation is painful. Idk what I want / am hoping for,
But I’ll try anything at this point. I just don’t want to feel like this anymore, I want to move on, and I don’t any drugs I’ll have to taper off from to dull everything and just delay me dealing with the inevitable. I guess like getting a leg amputated versus a year stay for multiple skin grafts/medications/operations….. just want to cut the leg off and be done.
But the leg is my stupidity in trusting people I shouldn’t have. Making myself smaller, more subservient, more agreeable to not cause drama….

And it still didn’t work.
I don’t know what to do

So I spent like a year working with a therapist using a workbook/cbt on trauma-mostly medical and a bit on childhood trauma and an absve relationship

Started with a new therapist after mine left and I wasn't able to follow them. I was doing pretty well, anxiety was significantly better and self worth was improving. We started doing bilateral stim sessions our last few sessions and I've felt worse after each. Sig more so after our most recent, where going in, my partner and I had a blow up that brought up some big feelings and we had been having some prior too. I told my therapist this going into our last session, but they had me do the BS as it related to my childhood memories. This made my strEss and Anxiety around the situation with my partner way worse after. Is this normal? I'm hesitant to continue after how anxious I've felt after, especially this last session. I also feel like overall my anxiety has gotten worse again since we started BS.

I've been really struggling. I haven't been in a place this dark for quite a while. I have an appointment in two days and I'm really anxious about how it's going to go. He knows I'm not doing well, but I'm scared to tell him that I have a plan to kill myself (although not sure if I would go through with it), even though I know I need help and I trust him. I really am worried about his reaction, and the possibility of hospital or the police getting involved.

I feel like I'm going to throw up when I think about telling him, but then I think about 𝘯𝘰𝘵 telling him and I am so scared and feel even more alone. I know I should tell him and clearly part of me wants to, but I also really don't want to.

I'd been fighting anxiety and depression for years and kind of expected therapy to have a finish line... well, this is what it feels like

I have a very negative experience with therapy due to how messed up and poorly handled mental health services are handled in the UK.

The one before this one dropped me after a mental breakdown which messed me up badly, trust issues worsened.

I was upfront with this therapist from the beginning that I have trust issues with therapists and explained the previous situation to her which she felt was very irresponsibly handled. We got off to an okay start, I took a while to open up properly and trust her with some heavy stuff but I felt like we were building up a decent dynamic, but one session I said how I feel like she didn’t believe me and then she responded in a defensive tone saying “or maybe I was trying to understand better because I believe you” and she then stated she, and I quote: “felt this dance between us” which felt a bit out of left field and quite antagonistic to essentially say she felt there was tension between us.

There were a few more incidents too which made me feel she wasn’t a good fit for me, not only did she not help me properly process a lot of trauma which occurred to me instead just muddying the waters and making me more confused, not intentional but still a very negative effect of therapy, but one time I emailed her an important life decision about me coming out to my father as trans and the following session she started with a moody tone and said “I just don’t understand why you’d tell me this” when she’s handled life updates via emails before like when I came out to my mother etc.

Another case was me describing a situation where I was unaware I made a mistake and she bluntly told me what I did wrong and kept doing so despite the fact I sounded quite distressed and upset and whilst what she was saying was true it felt quite cold to then rub salt in the wound adding justification to the other person’s side by saying how my actions made things worse, it was quite harsh and it made me feel nervous to open up about my mistakes.

As well I described how a big feeling I have is because of constant rejection in my life I often feel like an alien in human skin and her response was one of blame towards me how because I feel this way it’s my fault and a frustrated energy which made me feel needlessly attacked when I do my best to try and make connections in spite of these feelings.

I confronted her about a lot of this in one session, prefacing in an email about talking points for next session being wanting to discuss our dynamic (as said previously I would send emails with talking points for each session just so I could remain focused) and she interrupted me as I was talking stating how she was confused and again got quite defensive over a lot of my points. She acknowledged she had interrupted a fair amount in the session and I brushed it aside because I was trying to be understands but It was after that final session I just didn’t feel comfortable with her anymore.

More time has passed a lot of these incidents have grated at me. My current therapist since is okay but it just rubbed salt in the wound that I have a hard time trusting people since I was a kid. I felt very judged and uncomfortable after a while and nervous a session would go wrong.

She wasn’t a god awful therapist by any means but I felt she was too emotionally detached for my needs and for me I need someone more warm and supportive towards my pain.

A month I go, I came across Hearing Voices Network and downloaded their self help guide with voices. I kinda have a neutral thoughts about my voices (schizophrenic here) and decided to try the workbook.

Well.. it worked! I have voices and they're pretty swell and kind. They make sure I'm well and give advice when I'm struggling.

Now, I'm kinda looking for books (plural) types of therapy I can use while I'm still not in therapy.

I'm looking for something a bit in depth about this (interesting) stuff that happened to me. I'm looking for something to occupy me for a while.

I looked over ifs sub, and it didn't really sit nicely with me.

So umm.. any recommendations???

Thank you!!

Edit: just added a bit stuff

I assume the answer is no, and that if it really matters I should find a different therapist.

I normally wouldn't ask this here, but with so many bots down for the moment figured it's worth a try.

I'm not interested in any comments shitting on my therapist, that's not what this is. He might not be right for me anymore, but he's a good therapist.

My therapist works under the impression that it's harmful for a therapist to share their own feelings with a client, or even admit that he's ever felt any emotions for a client. He's okay with other self disclosure (I know he has ADHD, what bands he likes, even who he votes for) but just not there.

I struggle a lot with emotionally believing I'm actually human, that my own feelings matter. I'm not delusional, logically I do know I was born a human like anyone else etc. Just on an emotional level I've internalized I'm not really a person, I don't have worth, I only exist to be useful to others, that my only purpose was being my mom's emotional support doll, or other less wholesome kinds of doll.

Multiple times it's come up, where just knowing he's felt litterally anything, even if it were negative, would have made a huge difference for me. A few times I've misunderstood and thought he actually did say he'd felt something, and I'd have a lot of progress until it was cleared up.

Most recently it was asking if he was proud, as I'd told a friend about Trauma from my past (like he'd recommended) and he said something like "well done" and I just blurted the question out like an idiot.

I'm middle aged, I shouldn't care so much but I do. I started apologizing immediately for asking (he said it was an emotional flashback which makes sense but I was terrified).

Just this continual reinforcement that he feels nothing, also reinforces to me that I just don't matter and am meaningless.

I know it's not what I should think or how I should feel but it doesn't help me to remind myself that.

He's otherwise a fantastic therapist, and like he acts caring, there's empathy in his voice. It's ridiculous to think he doesn't feel anything, he just won't admit it. I know it's stupid for me to care. I only have 7 sessions left before he goes on paternity leave. I might find a new therapist at that point (who works differently) or take a break from therapy for a while I'm not sure.

I was planning to resume with him when he returned but I'm not sure this really is healthy for me.

Is there any point at all in trying to explain to him that denying he feels anything doesn't just hurt but is reinforcing exactly what I'm trying to change? Or am I just not understanding and this actually is good for me?

I ran into my therapist at the post office shortly after our session concluded. I was in line when they walked in. We smiled at each other…I was shook and visibly took a deep breath. They texted me “Hi :)” to which I replied “🫪”.

That is all.

I’ve been seeing my current therapist over zoom for 5 years. It’s been going ok, but I don’t feel we have much of a connection. I have a previous therapist I saw in person for 14 years. With that therapist I felt a strong connection. When I ended with that therapist a decade ago, she gave me a card:

Dear Client,
It is with a heavy heart that I say goodbye to you today….Although it is a goodbye, I want you to know that I will continue to think of you, wonder how you are doing, and “pray” for you and your continued healing. I know your illness makes it very difficult to believe me and trust me…please fight off those negative feelings and thoughts. The amazing and unique (and sometimes painful) relationship we have shared does not deserve doubt.
Continue your journey of healing with the knowledge that you are loveable and cherished. I care about you very deeply and will continue to do so.
Goodbyes are painful but inevitable in life. I have faith in you. I believe in you.
Much love,
Therapist

She also gave me two lists she made, not from templates I think. And stones that said “love & faith” on them. I had transference towards my previous therapist and brought up to my current therapist how I got over that transference after we ended. I tell myself that the previous therapist did not love me romantically or personally but therapeutically she did. My current therapist got a look on her face and said “therapists do not love their clients, we care deeply but it’s not love” I reiterated that I meant this previous therapist did love me, only as client, but I felt like she did. I told my current therapist it is important for a therapist I see to like me as a person. She gets another look on her face and I said “you don’t dislike me do you?” She paused and said “uhhhh no” like she was just saying that to not hurt my feelings or she was unsure.

My question is: Do some therapists love their clients? Is it too much to ask to have a therapist again like the previous one that made me feel seen and cared for? Should I switch therapist?

I had my first therapy session in years today. it don't think it went very well and im not sure what to do from here.

going through a bit of a rough patch, obviously. I lost a loved one due to cancer, and dropped out of high school. feeling a bit passively suicidal as well. so I decided to start therapy again.

today was my first real session with my new therapist and im not sure if I want to continue seeing her.

to start, within 20 minutes of the session she recommended I see someone else. she let me take the lead so I decided to talk about how i can myself disciplined. she gave some good advice about keeping my goals small, but it started derailing into a conversation that left me feeling more hopeless than before.

she told me she suspected i wasn't living in reality, and that if i wanted to be comforted, or someone who would be "nice" with me, that I should see this other therapist. but if i REALLY wanted to make a change, I should stick with her because she'd be direct and "wouldnt lie to me like other therapists would."

now that its been a few hours and I've reflected on everything, I get her point, but I can't help but feel strange about now she went about this. for one, I feel like its weird to imply that I could see someone else if I wasnt comfortable, but I'd only be comfortable because everyone else would just lie to me?

she kept reiterating that life is just hard. and that we just have to get through it because we don't have a choice, and that we have to suck it up. I can't help but feel like this is a bit insensitive to tell someone whos still grieving.

I understand that therapy isn't just to make you feel better. theres a lot I need to change for my own good, and I want too. but i felt so hopeless and ashamed after this session. I tried to explain that I didn't think this direction was helpful, but she brushed it off by saying I was supposed to feel uncomfortable. which i can agree with, but i dont know. this whole thing just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

she kept mentioning how she wouldn't "gaslight" me into believing a reality that isn't true, but is it not kind of manipulative to imply that if i want to see a different therapist, that I wouldn't be getting the help i need?

I won't lie, I am a bit of a sensitive person and tone means a lot to me. is it wrong to expect a therapist to be willing to work with that?

idk what to do, she didn't even reschedule another session with me and just told me to reach out if I wanted to start seeing someone else.

are these red flags? should I see this other therapist?

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Hi (name),

I get a bit awkward talking about this stuff, and I think it's easier to say it with a bit of distance, so I don't have to try to explain it all live.

I've had a pretty rough week being ill with a chest thing, and it's been a bit harder than I'd like to admit. I'm tired, and it's been difficult to express this to my partner. I miss running, swimming, work, and connection, and even though I know the physical distance is what it is, I still want closeness. Instead I've felt disconnected and quite guilty that my partner is carrying the business while I'm out of action. That push and pull I get around attention has been coming up a lot. I want to be cared for, but it makes my skin crawl, and I do a lot to avoid it.

I think that's partly why I escape into fiction, its familiar and comfortable for me. It gives me a certain feeling without having to be vulnerable with another person, though I'm not really sure what to make of that yet. I think it's partly the same reason being kind to myself feels strangely empty. I'm okay at looking after myself in practical ways and getting on with things, but the softness feels like pretending, or like I'm waiting for someone else to tell me I'm allowed it.

I just wanted you to have a sense of where I'm at this week, because my battery may be a little low!

See you later on.

Thanks,

(Name).

I've seen my therapist for 7 months and she used to email me after our sessions and respond to my emails. Sometimes they were emails I would send in distress and she would respond or get someone from the office to reach out.

After I disclosed my attachment she responded twice and is now not responding at all, even to genuine emails where I am asking questions, not therapeutic material. I'm struggling with the change in boundaries and can't help but feel rejected and that shes changed her view on me. It feels as if I'm being punished for feeling things so deeply.

I wonder if she regrets how she dealt with me in the beginning and would do things differently if she could go back. She knew about the issues I had with my mother and still chose to be that warm caring person. I'm angry and feel like I've been manipulated.

Hi everyone,

I’d love to get your thoughts on this! I would like to learn more about this, because I think I don't really understand what being ethically truly means. :-)

A therapist defended their online presence on their professional Instagram account with the following message:

"If you don't like a psychologist being on Instagram, that's fine. But someone else deciding for me what I can or cannot do... I don't agree with that. As long as I stay online ethically and keep my therapy and online presence separate, I genuinely believe we as care providers are allowed to take up space here."

The argument is that clients are autonomous adults who are responsible for their own boundaries, so they can simply unfollow if the content bothers them. But if the client carries 100% of the responsibility in that, what is left of those ethics?

The therapist strongly believes they can post whatever they want about themselves. Which probably is true? But then again, what is considered ethical in this case?

For example: the therapist had a miscarriage and posted about their raw grief, a couple of days after it happened. I thought disclosure is safer when the therapist has processed their experience enough to speak about it from a stable place. In another video (on another platform) the therapist said they felt very lonely because nobody around them had been through it, so no one really understood them... And that some clients later brought up their own losses after seeing their post. The therapist described those sessions as beautiful. I know therapists can get something meaningful out of their work and I’m not saying those sessions did no good for the client. But it feels to me like the therapist may have gotten a lot out of them because she was lonely and still grieving.

And I genuinely wish therapists can find meaning in their work. I know it’s a hard job.

But I wonder when a therapist is still in the middle of their own grief, are those sessions mainly for them or really for the client? Where do you draw the line between healthy self-disclosure and using clients for support?

Is it ethical to post specific therapy themes discussed in sessions that week on IG stories? (for example: playing the 'glass child' role in a high-stress family, struggling to check into the body, romantic relationship issues)

What about posting a reel about a client who made a presentation summarizing everything that happened in their life while the therapist was away for two months?

Is interacting in the comments with clients considered ethical?

Or does ethical mean they can't sent messages with their clients? (Although I've read quite often that it's okay to sent each other memes? Or is it about following clients accounts? Or politics?

And if you place 100% of the responsibility on the client, haven't you completely removed "ethics" from the equation then?

What does "being ethically online" actually mean in practice if it doesn't include protecting the therapeutic bond and avoiding power imbalance dynamics?

Basically what the title says. It took me years to find a therapist that I like, I have been seeing her for 3 years now and this year alone she increased her price 3 times. It went from being able to seeing her 2/month when I first started 3 years ago, to the last increase which with my stagnant insurance coverage I can only afford her maybe once every 2 months.

I'm looking for ways to navigate this but I also wonder if I should talk to her about this. I'm really sad because, on one hand, I feel we're coming to a point where I won't be able to afford her and I'm really not interested in shopping around again, it was so hard last time and left me with some issues. On the other hand, I have no trust in her going forward. I kinda feel It's unfair and counterproductive but I'm sure she has her reasons.

What would you do?

Hey all, I've never done therapy before so am pretty inexperienced with the whole process. I've been doing some free consults (specifically for sex therapy, so quite sensitive especially for someone who's never done therapy before), and I've found a few therapists who seem like a great fit but they do not accept my insurance.

There are only a few AASECT-certified sex therapists in my state who do accept my insurance (I have an HMO so out of network reimbursement is not an option). I haven't had a consult with them just yet, but if they're not seemingly as ideal of a fit as the other ones, I wonder if I'd be shooting myself in the foot by going with the cheap (or free, in my case) option even if I don't vibe with them as well.

Any experienced therapy-goers have any thoughts or wisdom?

I don’t believe I deserve to be loved or cared for and I don’t know why really growing up I typically pushed myself to like outside loner roles and such not because I was try to be cool or a phase it was because I kinda like being the clown the chaos but also watching because people didn’t expect the kid or guy that’s weird or talks to much to actually be listening but I also keep an internal debt counter remember all the nice things and good things people have done for me and I try to do more than they did not to compete but because I feel like I gotta repay the debt in interest even tho the other person doesn’t see a debt

So, I don't currently have a therapist as of this week but I'm wondering for possibly when I go back. How can I talk to a professional about this when it could be about them? Didn't have it with my most recent one though. I'm 19(ftm).

I come for mental illness, so there's not usually space for this kinda stuff. However... I think it's genuinely taking a toll on me. Even with my previous therapist I couldn't really discuss it at all.

When I was 15, I fell in love with a teacher. Everyone disliked her at first but I instantly loved her. We often talked and texted (I had her number because she specifically mentored my class). Basically she supported me a lot and she was very funny. So I fell in love with her. Everyone I fancied resembled her in some way. After she left we texted a bit and then after two years I was finally over it.

Over time, I had crushes on like 3 teachers (to the point of only falling asleep to the thought of them beside me). And therapists or care workers. It's horrible because I know I can't have them at all. And I feel incredibly guilty about it because I do respect them.

I might sound weird from all this, but I'm a regular person. I go to college, completely normal. I have dates with people my own age occasionally. I read and write and I don't really go out, but sometimes I drink with friends. I have friends and a life. But this just keeps sticking and it makes me feel awful.

Does anyone have any tips? I know it's weird and that's exactly why I don't know how to mention this to anyone. It's genuinely a problem.

I’ve been seeing my therapist for 3 years, and over time I’ve developed a very strong attachment to her.

We’ve discussed my attachment and difficulty with separation, but I feel like most of the focus has been on my attachment history rather than how the therapeutic relationship itself may have contributed to these feelings.

My therapist has been incredibly accommodating with scheduling, additional sessions, and contact outside sessions. While I’m grateful for her support, I’ve started wondering whether that level of availability reinforced my dependence on her.

She’s occasionally shared how my decisions to withdraw or consider termination have hurt her, as well as concerns about whether I think she’s a good therapist. Those disclosures have sometimes left me feeling responsible for her feelings.

I’m considering termination because the relationship has become emotionally painful, and I feel we’ve missed opportunities to examine what’s happening between us.

My question for therapists is: At what point is it a therapist’s responsibility to examine their own boundaries, self-disclosures, and contributions to a client’s attachment rather than primarily exploring the client’s attachment patterns? And how should that be addressed clinically?

Edit: Something else I’ve been struggling to understand is that my therapist has said she won’t share how I come across to her or what she personally thinks of me. However, she has shared that my withdrawals hurt her, that she worries I think she’s a bad therapist, and that if our relationship were a friendship, she would have left to protect herself.

What’s confusing is that I actually appreciate some of these disclosures because they make me feel closer to her. But I also wonder why she’s comfortable sharing her own hurt or insecurity while maintaining boundaries around sharing her perceptions of me

Had a traumatic experience this week and due to various factors, therapy has been inconsistent in the last two months. (Hopefully it will be consistent soon) I’m struggling with coping with the experience. I know of warm lines, but am hesitant to call. I’m not in crisis and not in danger so I don’t want to have the cops called. I just really need someone to talk to. I have support from family, but it’s not the same as a therapist. Has anyone ever called a warm line? Are they actually confidential?

I have been in consistent therapy with the same therapist for about three years. They have helped me a lot with numerous issues and I have overall found it to be really helpful. My main struggles are fears of rejection, not good enough, etc. Many of which I learned stemmed from childhood. I also have a history of anxiety and depression.

Anyway, The past couple months, my therapist has been cancelling appointments often because of either client or personal emergencies. I'd tell her no problem, I understand, which I do. But now they have not shown up to two appointments in that same time period, as in, I waited 15 minutes and got no answer when I reached out about it. The last time I had talked to them, I wasn't doing great, was kind of slipping into a depressive episode. I guess I just feel hurt because they didn't show up to the next appointment and didn't respond when I reached out about it. It just seems kind of like they don't care anymore, and it's hurtful given the fact that they know my fear of being rejected, abandoned, etc and how much I have opened up. It's hard to not take it personally I guess, even if that's not the case.

I guess I know the obvious answer is to quit going to them and find a few therapist. I guess I'm just nervous to start over with someone else and can't shake the feeling that I did something wrong. I don't necessarily feel like I'm ready to quit therapy all together, just looking for advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation. TIA

Hello,

Long story short, I met a really good therapist; he just sucked at managing his time and scheduling. Literally everything else was perfect. Essentially, I hit a really rough time in my life and needed what I can see now as "Extra care". So I went to a different therapist, and she was okay, but she was very militant, and our styles didn't match, so I just stopped going after a while. (Properly)

I have been thinking about going back to the first therapist, but how does one even go about this?

I ghosted, without a single word. he called a few times, but at that point I was already going to the other therapist.

I really enjoyed our work together, and I still use some of the things he taught me. How does one go about going back? Or should I just find another therapist?

thanks