i started smoking when i was 13, 8.5 years ago now. since 16 years old, i have not had a day without smoking. i now go through about 5-10 joints a day, smoking them from when i wake up to when i go sleep.

i can’t keep this up.

i have no confidence, i weigh 180lbs at 6’7, i can’t make friends, and my therapist thinks i’m crazy (maybe unrelated).
what do i do? every time i try quit i feel like i’m going insane by the end of day one and i fold. i don’t know what my personality is because i’ve never been a sober adult. are there medicines that can help? is it rehab for me? i’ve been for other things but my weed use never felt like the problem back then but it definitely feels like it now.

tl:dr how do you quit when you don’t know who the man without the weed is?

If I wake up at 5am I'll smoke and that makes me sleep so much later, and then I smoke right when I wake up and throughout the day. I'm not even getting high anymore, not sure why I'm still addicted to smoking without the high. I want to just get to a point of only smoking at night but I can't seem to kick this habit. Any tips?

I have CHS and have known it for a while. I stopped smoking regularly, but have still hit a coworkers dab pen maybe once a week occasionally. Yesterday, I don’t fucking know why, I bought a preroll. This morning I woke up with the nausea and stomach pains. I’m terrified of a full blown episode again.

Going to start going to cannabis anonymous or NA because I need to really stop, I have such a psychological dependency it’s awful.

More than anything, I’m so traumatized by these episodes. I think the anxiety of having a full episode is contributing to my nausea too.

I just feel so shitty about myself and my stupid lack of self control. I truly don’t know why i relapsed and I really hate myself for it right now

I’m a therapist that has normalized my weed dependence for a decade. I’ve been a daily user for a decade. Longest I’ve gone without is 2 weeks while on vacations. I’ve had clients express concern about how they smoke a few times a week. I’m embarrassed. I’m also a recovered alcoholic that drinks socially now. When I’ve gone without weed I tend to lean on alcohol and this is something I’m afraid of. Ive spent my whole adulthood identifying as a stoner which feels so lame. There’s so many other more interesting things I’d rather be known for. I’m also afraid of what’s underneath this thc dependence… my entire adulthood it’s been in my system… it’s terrifying. My husband consumes more than I do and wants to quit together so it’s really happening this time. Last night we smoked for the last time and were doing edibles until the end of the month to ween off. I need to get a therapist for myself man oof.

I had been on a 133 day sobriety streak but kept thinking about weed and I guess I eventually got frustrated and caved in. The experience was honestly underwhelming and there was a lot about it I didn't like, although I did note what I DID like about the experience. Since the time I had initially decided to quit, I have also gotten diagnosed with sleep apnea and started using a CPAP machine and I kind of understand why I turned to it when I was experiencing what I now realize was pretty debilitating long-term fatigue. But daily use no longer seems to match what I want for myself and my life and yesterday really solidified this for me. I was on the full abstinence train but now I am giving myself space to fully solidify what my next steps are, since weed did have legitimate medical use for me in the past in terms of various forms of pain relief and I may benefit from low doses of it for very specific circumstances. But I am sitting on this choice and looking at alternatives to Marijuana Anonymous for addiction recovery and for setting new goals for myself. Thanks for this channel and giving me a space to share when I am at the "train station" contemplating whether I want to get back on the train. Have a good day y'all :)

The basics, 46M, been smoking for about 8 years, the last three with a DHV. I have a Venty and use the dosing capsules for easy cleanup. I also add in CBD flower to counteract the THC a bit. I’m currently taking a T break and am on day 7. I have generally been able to taper myself down to a couple of bowls a day but want to get lower, that’s the reason for the T break. I travel for work and stay in a hotel 3-4 nights per month; and that’s where I want to contain my intake to. Has anyone else tried to prepack a few bowls to restrict yourself from overdoing it? It seems like a good idea but I’m not sure if it will be enough.

I'm posting this as a way of making it feel more real and keep myself accountable. I stayed sober for 134 out of the past 140 days and I found out some things about how I do and don't like smoking weed. Giving moderation another try now, I'm going to try going by the following set of rules for my weed consumption:

1. Never solo: Smoking alone is a trap for me, specially inside my own house. I don't like how it makes me feel and how it affects my life. I get way too complacent, lazy and obsessive with it. It quickly becomes a daily habit and hinders my ability to do anything else. So I'm prohibiting myself from doing it entirely. What I missed the most while I was sober was smoking with other people anyway.

2. No stash: Keeping weed in my house is simply way too much temptation to deal with. I get constant impulses to use it when it's right there, too readily available. My mind feels more at peace when I just don't have it with me. So I will only ever have what I'm using in that moment, and if it needs to be stored for a later time, it will remain with my partner or friends.

3. Weekends and holidays only: No "special occasions" during the week. No "just this time to wind down". No exceptions. If I have a birthday to go to on a Wednesday, I can very well go sober. Business days are for taking care of my life priorities and myself. I need my mind clear and sharp in order to build a life I'm proud of living.

4. Never when hanging out with friends unless it's planned: If I'm going out with friends and the plan is specifically to smoke and do something silly together, that's okay. But if I'm just going out with friends, period, I'm not going to smoke. I'm way better at socializing when I'm sober, and I want to actually be able to keep a conversation and remember what's going on in my friends' lives. I'm a better friend when I'm sober and I want my friends to have that version of me. I also enjoy other people's company way more when I'm clear-headed and present for it.

5. Late afternoon and night only (or after 4:20pm for reference): No wake and bakes. When I get high too early in the day, I spend the whole day in a haze, trying to get that high up again because I'm coming down in the middle of the day. It's not pleasant. There's no reason to do it. Better to just live through my day and get high when I know I'll be coming down right when it's time to call it a day.

6. Never if I'll have to hide it: There is simply no reason to smoke if I'll have to hide the fact that I'm high. So if I'm gonna be with my family, around kids, need to drive, or have to do anything important at all, I just won't smoke.

7. Never if I'm already going to do something awesome: If I'm going to a cool park, a museum, watching a cool movie, playing a cool game, going somewhere new, going out to exercise or trying a new activity, why should I smoke? I've discovered that I enjoy new, beautiful and exciting experiences way more when I'm sober. I get to feel more connected to nature, art and novelty when I'm experiencing it raw. Weed does not enhance everything as I once thought it did, it only blends it all together with its own flavor (in my experience). So I'd rather have all the different tastes of different experiences, and not make it all taste like being high.

8. Never let myself go because of it: I'm not allowed to smoke instead of doing things that are important to me. I'm not allowed to skip exercise to smoke. I'm not allowed to skip class or work to smoke. I'm not allowed to skip a meal to smoke. I'm not allowed to skip appointments to smoke. I'm not allowed to skip doing chores to smoke. I'm not allowed to skip socializing to smoke. Smoking comes after all of that, never before or instead.

9. That leaves me with the situations when I actually want to smoke - with my partner or friends, purposefully, in order to experience the high, do silly stuff together and eat some delicious food: Weed is great for me when I'm watching a stupid movie, a silly show, some crazy videos, playing a dumb video game or talking nonsense with friends and/or my boyfriend. Smoke weed - be silly - have some munchies-fueled ice cream - go to sleep - wake up sober and go live my life. That's where I want weed to be.

I will update here soon to tell you all how it's going!

This week in particular I don't see a reason why I would smoke, because on Friday I'm going to my mom's and I'll be back home by Wednesday next week. Should maybe only smoke on the weekend after the next then, if the right situation for it arises.

Stay healthy guys, you got this! Let's make this plant a detail and not the base of our lives!

I was an avid user for 8 years between 18 and 26 years old.

In the beginning of 2025, I did a 6ish month break for the first time and it was great for me. I got to study more, focus on my routine, saved some money and time, felt more clear headed. I ended up getting back to heavy use by the end of the year, though. At the beginning of this year, I did a one month break or so, but then continued to use too much.

I decided to quit in July and successfully did 10 days sober, then smoked for 2 days, did 90 days sober, smoked for 1 day, did 35 days sober and then smoked for 3 days (until yesterday). It's Thursday now and I'm sober again today.

I'm thinking about giving moderation another try, but I'm scared I'll just go back to unhealthy use. I already feel like I used a little bit too much this weekend, because there were times I thought "I don't really wanna smoke today/right now" but then I did, and kept doing it even if it didn't feel that good.

My main issue is I'm afraid I'll just end up replacing things with weed again.

When I'm sober, I feel like I can do way more stuff, not just productively, but leisurely as well. I found out I prefer being around friends sober rather than high, because that way I can actually keep a conversation going and remember what we talked about. I like playing board games and video games with other people when I'm sober, because I'm better at it and can enjoy it more. I like spending time with my partner sober because I feel like we try more new stuff, we're not as lazy, and we connect more. I prefer to be sober to study because I can actually keep a train of thought. I prefer to watch movies and shows sober because I can understand and remember them better. I prefer to be sober in nature and while interacting with art because I feel like I can be more present. I like to take psychedelics without smoking weed too, because I feel like the experience is clearer. I don't want to use weed to deal with anxiety, depression and stress because I want to develop and strengthen other more reliable and healthier skills to do so. I prefer to spend most of my time sober, in general, because I feel like I'm my best version that way.

What I do like smoking weed for is doing silly stuff. Watching a nonsense movie or show, playing a silly video game or just goofing around are all activities I like doing when I'm high. I also love having some very tasty food when I'm at it. And I mainly like doing it with my partner and, sometimes, with friends. I feel great satisfaction when I do it alone too, but I don't think being high alone is good for me, because it's too difficult to regulate.

I think my biggest problem is, if weed is available, I have a hard time turning it down even if I don't want it. If I have it in my house and I'm alone with it, it feels like it's haunting me and I get impulses to smoke it all the time. If it is available when I'm with people, I find myself going for it even though I'm doing one of the activities I mentioned before and I know I'm gonna have a nicer time if I just stay sober.

I really want to be able to just use it once in a while when I want to have a silly fun time and eat some delicious ice cream with my partner or a couple of friends. How do I change that all-or-nothing relationship I have with the plant?

My boyfriend told me he thinks I need to make changes to my life and my context in order to feel differently about the drug, not necessarily the other way around. I currently don't like the house I live in and I'm tired of living alone. When I'm there, I feel overwhelmed, lonely, tired and depressed. My partner and I are working on moving in together, but there's still a ways to go before we'll be able to do it, so I have to bare with my situation until then. I'm autistic and I struggle with executive dysfunction, so I often have way too hard of a time cleaning, cooking, studying, working, and keeping any routine consistently. So it's safe to say I don't feel good about a huge part of my life, and it makes sense how I'd be vulnerable to seeking weed as a main source of satisfaction, pleasure and relief.

I'm trying to be more physically active, and I've been successful at it so far. I got a climbing buddy and a gym buddy and we go consistently through the week. My biggest issues are motivation to get out of the house (even though I don't like being in my house, go figure) and staying consistent on it, and having other people to keep me accountable and provide me support and company while exercising is huge!

I'm also on therapy and on medical treatment, of course. I'm waiting for a psychiatrist's appointment to make adjustments to my medication because I feel like I'm taking too many meds and it's weighting on me financially without that much benefit. I've also been trying to practice more meditation and take time to have a sleep routine and rest properly.

As of today, I've started coming to my university's library to study and work instead of staying home. I hope it will help me stay focused and avoid distractions (like video games and youtube) since I'm not in my usual environment. I also hope it will help me eat more mindfully and healthily, because I'll be having lunch at my campus restaurant and I won't be snacking all the time since the library doesn't allow food inside. I think it might help me keep things separate too, so that when I'm here (in my study/work setting) I can focus entirely on work, and when I'm home I can focus on resting, enjoying my free time, taking care of my house and myself. I hope I'll feel less lonely throughout the week this way too.

I think those changes have a potential to make my life more meaningful and fulfilling for me, and make me crave the comfort of weed much less.

I'd like to hear about some of other people's strategies too. How do you go about smoking only when you truly want to, and not giving in every time it's available as if it's free money? Have you developed a set of rules you follow strictly? Do you have a strategy to figure out if it's a good time to smoke in every moment of decision? Do you just make it not available when you don't want to smoke?

When I was trying to quit for good, I was able to be around weed and turn it down. But I haven't yet developed the ability to tell myself "not now". It's either "yes always" or "no never". That's what I really want to change. Appreciate all the help and thanks for listening <3

Hello im about to be 18 and ive been smoking since I was 15 with no breaks daily. I’ve noticed a difference with how I felt about a year ago. But I didn't stop. I feel insanely paranoid, scared and everyone is out to get me. For my 18th birthday my goal is to take a year long t-break. Im wondering if i should ever come back to plant or quit for good. Im 3 days in, it fucking sucks. Im open to any criticism and suggestions.

Quick background - I’ve been nightly smoker for years, quit, then come back, did everything in between too - once a weekend, 1 week breaks every month, etc. Like each part of that I’ve done x4 or x5 times.

But it all changed for me last March. I stopped after probably my heaviest usage ever - using my classic taper-down method with the THC drinks - and for a month straight I didn’t just have the usual intense dreams (I’m no stranger) I had straight up spiritual visionary dreams that changed me, and got me into Sufi spiritual practices.

For the last 9 months or so, not only didn’t I touch weed, I had zero desire too - it seemed like something I did because I hadn’t found the real thing (a spirituality that resonated) but now that I had… why would I?

Ok. So I start skipping my practices after some tough times… that leads me to feeling really dry. So let’s trip with mushrooms, right? Easiest way to get the magic back.

LESSON #1: Psychedelics make it easier to start bad habits again too. Don’t get me wrong, they’ve changed my life in lots of good ways too but that plasticity can also lead you to try things you shouldn’t. This time, even though the mushrooms straight up told me “don’t get back into cannabis” during my trip, in the looseness of the following weeks the idea grew and grew and grew… why not have 1 fun night? “Where’s the harm?”

So I pulled out the old drop herb vape and had some fun, thinking “I’m glad I didn’t throw this out!”…

LESSON #2: There is no “1 night only” for me, even with this supposedly solid spiritual foundation. 1 night turned into a second night, into. 3rd etc… and I had a solid week of it.

LESSON #3: It only takes 1 week to fuck myself back up again. OK so I pulled myself out of it (Im on Day 3 now). And even though it was only 1 week… super tough sleeps, sadness, irritability, cravings, restlessness… as bad as if I had been going for months. I think tonight will be better, so it will pass more quickly, but still - my body has zero chill and will immediately assume we’re back in THc land,

Friends, for me I think this is the end. What a brutal reminder that I just can’t fuck around with this stuff. It takes over.

Other people are different, I’m not saying you’ll be the same, but these lessons were another wake-up call to me.

It’s almost been a week since I started smoking only after 10pm, allowing myself to hit a roach at 4pm or 5pm on some days. I was smoking spliffs all day everyday, and I would put the roaches in my bong to finish them off or just straight up smoke a spliff out my bong sometimes. I would wake up, smoke two spliffs cause one was never enough, and continue that probably every 2-4 hours.

I ended up in a forced cold turkey due to circumstances I could not control, but I didn’t want to go back to running through a 3.5 every 2 days, my wallet was truly suffering. Since smoking only at night, I’ve noticed the introspection I loved about weed so much returning. My highs actually feel like something now, which I’m enjoying. The days are a little bit hard to get through because I have a nicotine dependency, but I’m on pysch meds, and I refuse to hit nicotine outside a spliff since nicotine itself already fucks with the absorption of my meds. I’ll typically just sit in my car, read, or fuck around on my phone and cravings settle down.

I feel much more confident about myself but I know I could slip back into chronic use if I don’t rebuild a strong sense of discipline. Matter of fact, I want to smoke right now. I haven’t eaten all day and typically use to just smoke whenever I did get hungry to kill my appetite, so I know thats why I’m having cravings. Yet, after I post this I’m going to eat instead! Hooray, wish me luck friends.

I love when people share their insights from quitting so here’s a big one for me…

When I’m high a negative voice is there, that isn’t there when I’m sober. When I look in the mirror I see my flaws. When I’m around people I put myself down and become uncomfortable in my social abilities. When I’m getting dressed I can’t seem to find something I look good in.

Since quitting I like who I see in the mirror. Yesterday I saw my reflection and felt beautiful - without makeup. I haven’t felt that in a long time.

Even when I’m not high, I smoke often enough that these negative thoughts tend to overtake my opinions of myself. Being free of these negative thought cycles has started changing how I feel about me.

Another one is the “I’ll do it later // I don’t want to :(“ thoughts when I need to do something has also significantly quieted since quitting. Getting things done has been so much easier…

28M here I have been smoking daily for the past 6 or so years (since Covid) and am considering taking a break I guess my question is when did/do you know it is time to take a break?

I feel like my job has been going fine and my relationships with friends and family is fantastic & it helps me deal with the roller coaster of life. Idk what’s everyone’s opinion

The hunger started about 3-4 weeks ago. I'm just constantly hungry Non-Stop I cannot get full no matter how much I eat. I'm gaining weight fast. When I was smoking the smoking literally made me not hungry at all lol .

i have a severe chronic migraine condition that causes daily symptoms and other generalized pain. i’ve had this for a decade, since my freshman year of college. since then ive been using weed daily to mitigate the pain (in addition to a finely tuned medication setup that doesn’t fix the pain but keeps things kind of stable) and the relief and functionality i get from it is insane. it’s taken me a long time to get back to semblance of a normal(ish) life where i can complete daily tasks and make moves towards my career again. there are times the pain is so intense im nonfunctional and after smoking a little bit im feeling okay enough to accomplish my next task. that being said, i hate how limited i feel sometimes. i’m hesitant to take a vacation anywhere without legal/easy access to weed because of the chronic severity of my condition, and it limits what jobs i can do in terms of drug testing. i do think im in an extreme and rare situation, and i do think that having access to weed has given me a lot of my life back, but i also wish i had more options and hate feeling limited. im wondering if anyone else with a severe ongoing pain or neurological situation has had success taking a break from weed when no other medical intervention has worked.

I’ve tried to quit smoking many times over the last year or so. I’ve been smoking for 10 years straight with very minimal tolerance breaks. Maybe they would last a week or two, usually only if I was sick or on vacation, before I eventually learned how to pack/hide it while traveling (which in hindsight is really just so ridiculous that I would risk it so often in foreign countries). But I would tell myself that it’s fine because smoking on the beach is a “vibe” and I couldn’t imagine those good moments being truly good without a joint. I decided to finally stop this time around because I’ve known for a while that it no longer feels good. I smoked all day every day just to feel something and ultimately because I was dependent on it. I hated that feeling. Knowing I don’t want to keep doing it but feeling like I can’t stop, and telling myself in the same breath that I don’t have a problem.
My health anxiety has skyrocketed over the last few months, and I’ve had a lot of acid reflux/phlegm which I know is from smoking. Constantly having to clear my throat is so annoying and I can’t wait for that to get better over time. My bottom lip has also gotten pretty dark which makes me insecure, but I have noticed already a slight improvement. So today being 7 days sober, I feel great. This was the first time that it didn’t feel hard to quit, because I genuinely am so tired of feeling disappointed with myself. I wanted to show myself that I am strong, & I am in control. I’ve started doing 20 minute grounding yoga in the morning, started doing some arts & crafts at home and finding new things to occupy my time. I currently live in Mexico and realized how much time I’m wasting just sitting in the house high all day when I can spend my time and money doing so many other things to bring me joy. That’s why I moved here in the first place. So here’s to 7 days of feeling good. I’m proud of myself and just wanted to share :)

I got my medical card at 18 and started using carts around September 2025. For the first several months, I wasn’t using every day. I had two 2g disposable carts from a dispensary and used them on and off.
In March 2026, I started using every day, but only once a day. Because I was only using once a day, my carts lasted a pretty long time.
During the summer, though, my tolerance started getting higher. I began using more than once a day, and I noticed that I was going through carts faster than I had before. I’ve continued using since then, and I currently have another cart that’s around 65% used.
I also took a week-long break in December when I was sick, and I remember the effects feeling noticeably different afterward. Like it was that strong high like to strong off one 5 sec but also my tolerance was pretty low already before i got sick and took a break.
Now I’m thinking about taking four days completely off. Before my bday party I’m wondering how much a four-day break would lower tolerance after using regularly for months. Would I notice a significant difference, or would it only reduce tolerance somewhat?
I’m also curious about how quickly tolerance starts changing after stopping and how long it generally takes before people notice a meaningful difference. Also, would I likely experience any withdrawal symptoms from stopping for four days

I usually smoke splifs (tobacco and weed) every day. About two weeks ago I got sick from a stomach bug and took it as my sign to stop, at least for a month. I also happen to have rented a car for that month, and part of my reasoning for stopping weed was so I could drive at a moment’s notice and enjoy the car instead to smoking my life away.

Today was a hard day, but I brought it onto myself, I did more than I should have, and ended up exhausted by the end of it. A classic day to have my usual splif.

Well I didn’t find any weed, but I found a cigarette, so I smoked it thinking it wouldn’t be as bad. I know I’m being hard on myself but I just can’t believe how weak I feel for caving. The only reason I didn’t smoke an actual splif is I was too lazy to go to the dispensary to buy more weed.

How do you deal with the guilt of failing at respecting your own personal boundaries? (I am working on it in therapy but clearly I’m not there yet)

Please let me know if this kind of post isn’t allowed on this sub, I just don’t really know who to turn to right now…

I've been smoking weed daily in mostly joints for 8 years, with long recent bouts of sobriety. I'm in a relapse again. I tried to quit many time recently like past 2 weeks and it was impossible. I forgot how I did this before. I feel like I wasted years. I miss being sober, I was really proud of my sobriety and it felt so good, finally not having brain fog. Messed up again. This drug owns me.

I’ve been cursed with a bad hangover sensitivity. I only had 3 glasses of wine last night and im feeling it hard today. I’ve been weed free for 11 days with a goal of 3 weeks. Today is the most tempted I’ve been for this entire t break to fold. Weed just makes hangovers so much easier. Fortunately my pen is in a timed lock box so I can’t access it even if I wanted to, but man am I struggling today!!

Hey everyone,

I just hit Day 13 of cold turkey after being a heavy daily dabber for over 2 years, and I’m also quitting cigarettes and alcohol at the same time. To say it’s been a physical and mental battle is an understatement.

On top of the standard withdrawal symptoms, I am currently dealing with an active stomach ulcer. It’s a vicious cycle because quitting the dabs triggers that intense rebound nausea, cramping, and a total lack of appetite, which makes managing the ulcer pain even harder. But I also know that alcohol and nicotine were completely destroying my stomach lining, so keeping them out of my system is the only way I'm ever going to heal.

Even though my stomach is still a wreck and the cravings definitely pop up, I’m incredibly proud to have made it nearly two full weeks. My body is doing a massive reset right now.

Has anyone else navigated quitting concentrates while dealing with severe GI issues or an ulcer? How long did it take for your stomach and appetite to finally find a normal baseline?

I used weed to help me cope with insomnia. This last night was bad, woke up in the middle of the night, very hard to fall asleep.

Today is day 10. My personal record is 15 days, and today I am having a calmer day. I hope that leads to a good night.

I stopped enjoying being stoned already some time ago. I am using weed as an SOS when the insomnia is too much.

I hope I can sleep tonight. No cold sweats this time, only a bit of anxiety.

For context, I have schizoaffective bipolar disorder. I only used weed occasionally, though I have been a heavy user in the past. I have never really had psychosis triggered by weed, but I decided that the risk is too much and I quit completely. I have no urge to use it again. I'm super proud of me!

I hate how much life I’ve lost because of this.

Looking back at the period of my life where I smoked, It all feels like a massive blur.

So many opportunities I rejected because I chose to be lazy and to stay in bed with my weed and just zombie scroll. My weight got out of hand, depression kicked in, wife losing respect for me over time. I’ve distanced myself from family & friends just to smoke.

I have to take accountability, its my choice. My decision. I decide whether i smoke weed again or not.

When those withdrawals come & i know they will come in anger. I will stand strong & firm. I will not lose discipline or focus on my journey.

I am doing this to redeem myself. To build honour and respect

I have booked a half marathon in March 2027. I am going to focus on this & do the best i can