And most importantly not missing it at all!
It’s been several years since I was at my lowest point where I destroyed the life I had. I managed to drag myself out of it and sort a lot of my problems out but still never fully stopped drinking. I carried on in “social” situations because I felt like it was expected of me and I massively struggled with coping socially without a couple of beers in me. But it got to a point where one drink was enough to make me crave going on a binge again. So after a particularly heavy weekend away with my particularly horrible in-laws, and the subsequent week of crippling anxiety that came with every hangover, I decided this time I was done with it and I haven’t looked back! I’m not gunna sit here and claim it’s made me feel amazing, but it has definitely helped with stabilising my MH and I’m feeling pretty proud of myself for reaching this milestone 😊

I know I’m a nobody and loser. I’m already detoxed like 6 days ago. This is why I don’t want to go back to drinking. If anyone who is just going to sleep talk to me over VC or Discord I’d appreciate it.

I was a fairly heavy drinker, used to do 1-2 bottles of white wine a night and then became pregnant and stopped right away. I can feel myself slipping back into old habits 6 months PP. I won’t drink until I know baby is asleep for the night. I feel like a terrible Mum and don’t want to follow my dad’s footsteps. Please is there any advice that helped anyone stop or helped change your perspective? Please do not judge, I am never drinking when my little one is awake. They are a great sleeper and never wake up until the next morning and I always show up the next morning. I just want to hear some shock advice that will help me back out of this and stop the drinking. My baby is the best thing to ever happen to me and I feel like such a failure.

I am officially 7 days alcohol and nicotine free!!! I feel so good!! I’ve also lost like four pounds, have been going to the gym every day (my old routine before alcohol), and have managed to connect with old friends!!

I’m so happy. I know 7 days isn’t very long, but since college I’ve never managed a full 7 days. This feels like my first real hill to get over—one I hadn’t been able to for two years. But I did it!!!

My boyfriend has alcoholism and broke up with me 7 times within the last month. I guess we're just exes now. The last breakup was disturbing: he called me a bunch of times and said "if you don't answer I'll block you". But whenever I answered the call, I'd say hey, then he'd say hey too but hang up right away, or just hang up before even saying hey back to me. Then he'd text me "leave and don't come back. Block me. Bye". I hadn't block him yet and then he video called me:

I tried to talk to him for like 10 minutes but he would ignore me, and himself wouldn't talk at all. So I texted and said verbally: "I'm going to get ready for bed". So I went to the bathroom without my phone brush my teeth, wash my face, put my PJ on etc and when I got back 10min later he had just hung up on the video call. I texted "why did you hang up?" then he voice called me and asked "where the fuck have you been". I answered, but he kept asking.

The whole evening was just so chaotic. He then hung up and texted again to ask me to block etc. I blocked him and then he texted through the normal message app instead of WhatsApp despite knowing it'd make him pay fees cause we don't live in the same country. He texted a bunch of "hey", an "I love you" and asked me twice to call him. I didn't.

He also said he has a "powerful feeling" that I'm cheating on him but that came out of nowhere and he doesn't have anything to say when I ask him what makes him think I'm cheating. I offered him to go through my phone and track my location as well (we're long distance and were planning on meeting up for the second time in December) but he refused. In the past I also offered to give him the passwords of my apps cause he felt insecure, but he refused as well.

Is this typical of someone drunk or / and with alcoholism? He definitely sounded drunk but I'm not sure it's an abnormal or normal drunk behavior. Do you think other drugs were involved? It felt like psychosis...

Alcoholic narcissist

recently ended a four-year relationship with a 59-year-old man, and I’m still trying to make sense of it. I’m 48 and have only had a handful of relationships, including a long marriage.
The first two years were incredibly passionate and affectionate. He was handsome, successful, charming, and constantly showered with attention for his looks. Women have handed him business cards that said “I know have a girlfriend but you only live once” etc … I found one from 2007 (!) that he musta saved for his ego. But gradually, he became controlling and critical of my clothing, accused me of dressing provocatively, and disliked me going out with friends. Any minor disagreement or emotional need resulted in two or three days of silent treatment. By the third year, this was happening monthly or more . He also kept track in his notes of when I went out without him and where . He consistently refused to discuss problems or take accountability, shutting down immediately for days if there was a problem .

I also realized how excessive his drinking was. He’s 6 foot seven and 260 pounds and he never seemed drunk. Ive seen him buzzed. He drinks daily, often heavily at home , including whiskey, wine, and tequila. Just a regular Monday or Tuesday night he’s drinking a ton of wine maybe a bottle and then follow it by a glass of whiskey or two or three glasses of whiskey . I’ve witnessed him driving drunk, trashed actually (stopped by his house unannounced on a weds which is when he sees his former stepson, who is also a functioning, Alcoholic, they go out for dinner and a cigar ) which he dismissed because he considers himself a risk-taker. His previous 15-year relationship was with another heavy drinker, and their social life revolved around alcohol. I would say he drinks around 40 drinks a week. His nose is red/ swollen. Red face bags under his eyes but his fan club doesn’t care. Says he’s been drinking like this for over 30 years.

He also has an enormous ego, constantly referencing his looks, money, MMA fighting, and having slept with over 100 women. He genuinely seems to believe he’s superior to other men because of these things. Says he’s “done things other men can’t do”.

I refused to have him move in or take things further, which has seriously pissed him off the last couple years .

I eventually ended things seven weeks ago. I did it face to face at his home respectfully. My only request was that he delete intimate photos and videos of me. He initially lied about deleting them, later admitted he hadn’t, and still refuses seven weeks later, instead calling me selfish and disrespectful.
I’m wondering whether this sounds like narcissistic traits, alcoholism, or both. Can years of excessive admiration, female attention, and praise contribute to narcissism? I’m struggling to understand how someone who seemed so wonderful initially could become so emotionally dismissive and cruel.

recently ended a four-year relationship with a 59-year-old man, and I’m still trying to make sense of it. I’m 48 and have only had a handful of relationships, including a long marriage.
The first two years were incredibly passionate and affectionate. He was handsome, successful, charming, and constantly showered with attention for his looks. Women have handed him business cards that said “I know have a girlfriend but you only live once” etc … I found one from 2007 (!) that he musta saved for his ego. But gradually, he became controlling and critical of my clothing, accused me of dressing provocatively, and disliked me going out with friends. Any minor disagreement or emotional need resulted in two or three days of silent treatment. By the third year, this was happening monthly or more . He also kept track in his notes of when I went out without him and where . He consistently refused to discuss problems or take accountability, shutting down immediately for days if there was a problem .

I also realized how excessive his drinking was. He drinks daily, often heavily at home , including whiskey, wine, and tequila. Just a regular Monday or Tuesday night he’s drinking a ton of wine maybe a bottle and then follow it by a glass of whiskey or two or three glasses of whiskey . I’ve witnessed him driving drunk, trashed actually (stopped by his house unannounced on a weds which is when he sees his former stepson, who is also a functioning, Alcoholic, they go out for dinner and a cigar ) which he dismissed because he considers himself a risk-taker. His previous 15-year relationship was with another heavy drinker, and their social life revolved around alcohol. I would say he drinks around 40 drinks a week. His nose is red/ swollen. Red face bags under his eyes but his fan club doesn’t care. I’ve only seen him buzzed except the once drunk , he has a very high tolerance , is 6’7 and 260 pounds and has been drinking like this for forty years.

He also has an enormous ego, constantly referencing his looks, money, MMA fighting, and having slept with over 100 women. He genuinely seems to believe he’s superior to other men because of these things. Says he’s “done things other men can’t do”.

I refused to have him move in or take things further, which has seriously pissed him off the last couple years .

I eventually ended things seven weeks ago. I did it face to face at his home respectfully. My only request was that he delete intimate photos and videos of me. He initially lied about deleting them, later admitted he hadn’t, and still refuses seven weeks later, instead calling me selfish and disrespectful.
I’m wondering whether this sounds like narcissistic traits, alcoholism, or both. Can years of excessive admiration, female attention, and praise contribute to narcissism? I’m struggling to understand how someone who seemed so wonderful initially could become so emotionally dismissive and cruel.

I knew for a few years now I wasn’t the best drinker. But since I began drinking quite late in life, I tried to rationalize my drinking episodes with whatever excuse I could think of at the time.

For context, I began drinking at 22. Muslim background ( not practicing currently), sheltered life, didn’t party in HS or college. Had a toxic controlling bf from 22-25ish who didn’t want me to party or drink either, I assumed every time I got drunk and became super emotional, it was because of him. Especially since I rarely drank cause of him.

Next bf, from 26-28, he was initially totally fine with me drinking & I was so happy. I thought “ yay finally. No more controlling bf behavior. This one will let me party “ but it didn’t take long for him to see me behave erratically drunk at times, which was about 10% of the time. Or so I thought. Sometimes it was great and fun, and sometimes, it was horrible. He couldn’t even stand to me see drink towards the end of our relationship and it was over then. I blamed the drinking on idk, long distance? My mental health. I don’t even remember. I think I said I would do better, I promised him I would never do it again so many times but then I kept overdoing it…

Next bf, 1 month. He ended it very quick after a drunk episode.

29, I’m single, dating. Everyone takes you to the bar for a drink, and I move to Manhattan. My drinking becomes way more often, no cravings but again, just increased frequency. Increased tolerance..

Next bf 30-32. He loved me and saw I had a problem. Again, I thought, I just need therapy. I’ll get better. I didn’t have a dependency problem. I only drank socially, so I thought “ I will moderate. I will try harder” 2 years of trying and repeated failed attempts, I was getting worse and worse..

I began lexapro a few months ago & began blaming the blackouts on lexapro. Last year I blacked out in the summer and I remember telling my friend I rarely black out.. which was actually true at the time ( I was not on lexapro at the time) but since that summer, even prior lexapro, I began blocking out often… this past year was by far the worst and most dangerous
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I drink about once a week socially, never alone, but when I drank, I couldn’t stop. Sometimes it was fun, but the dark times became more frequent. The fights, chaos, blackouts, sigh.

It’s nearly 4 am, I was talking to chat gpt (lol) and he said “ alcohol use disorder”. I never even heard of this before but I have exactly this.

So here’s to .. hopefully my first day.. towards recovery. & yes. I will DEF be getting professional help.

I am a third-year university student (20 y/o) who works very hard for my studies and is constantly praised for it. Despite this, I drink myself to sleep at LEAST 4 times a week. 

I go to a self-proclaimed ‘party school’ in my province (Canada) and enjoy going out on the weekends just like everyone else. What's different is I find myself drinking alone basically every other night just from being exhausted and tired of life/from working so hard.

I get home after several hours in the library then drink 7-10 drinks and/or an entire bottle of wine to myself just to feel something and to fall asleep peacefully. I wake up feeling like shit most mornings but push through and repeat the cycle.

I’ve ended up in the top percentile of all my classes; my friends constantly ask me, “How do you work so hard all the time?” but I don't know how to tell them that I get borderline blackout 3+ times a week, completely alone in my apartment. 

I’m afraid that my drinking is going to escalate and interfere with my life. But I'm also afraid of showing up to my local AA meetings, as I feel like a fraud since I am doing just fine and am very young, if yk what I mean.

 I honestly just want to get myself under control without full sobriety being shoved down my throat, as it’s not realistic for me. 

Any advice or stories from people with similar experiences are welcome; thank you so, so much!

So today marks my 6 months of not drinking. I still do shrooms here and there but that would be the only other substance I consume. I feel really great and I never regret my decision to go sober but I still have this underlying anxiety and I was hoping it would clear up by now. It’s not overwhelming and never as bad as it was when I was drinking but it is still there. I was a blackout every night drunk for a good ten ish years (20 to 30) and I just don’t know if my body needs more sober time or if I should start looking into maybe anxiety meds. I know it can take years and I feel better everyday but I can’t shake this anxiety and I guess I’m just asking others when it cleared up or any tips that I can implement in my life. I just had a hysterectomy last month and still haven’t been cleared for exercise so unfortunately that is off the table for now.

I had 9 months of sobriety, then slipped a few times. This last one was the worst. One week of solid drinking, from morning to evening. I’ve got kindling and also gave myself Ketoacidosis again.

I’ve been eating as much as possible, start my benzo taper in a few hours when my BA gets under .08. I’m scared and I hate the feeling even with medically assisted withdrawal.

I’m scared to death of this shit. I always hear things and have nightmares.

I talk to my dad about it but he’s a functional alcoholic. He thinks withdrawal is just in my head. He can drink anywhere from 6-30 coors lights in a night with no repercussions.

I just feel stupid I let it happen again. I need to back to work on Thursday, I have been vaguely honest with them and they seem to understand.

Any kind words are greatly appreciated. Just need to hear some nice stuff I guess.

Alcohol is the devil.

Experienced this two nights ago, and I’ve never felt so afraid. I just remember being on the floor. I couldn’t see anything since my lights were off, couldn’t stand and keep my balance and couldn’t find my phone to call for help. I just had this overwhelming feeling of regret and doom. As I started vomiting, I remember my breathing became incredibly labored, and I just kept spitting and telling myself to breathe. I was on my stomach, and after the vomiting again, I passed out around a minute later. I woke up around 7:00 that morning, still in my puke and dragged myself to bed. I don’t think I ever want to experience that again, that sense of impending doom was horrifying knowing I was alone and I could aspirate my vomit or stop breathing. Is this a common occurrence for anyone? I can’t imagine experiencing this on a weekly basis.

Hi everyone,

I’m a 30-year-old woman and I’ve decided to quit drinking for good. I’ve been reading a lot of stories here, and I’m feeling nervous and a little overwhelmed.

For context, I’ve had a drink every night for about the last 5 years, usually up to 3 drinks, with roughly 24 hours between them. I only took breaks when I was sick.

I’m not looking for medical advice. I’m planning to talk to a telehealth doctor before I start, because honestly I’m embarrassed to bring this up with my regular doctor and worried about being judged. I just want to hear from people who’ve been through something similar. What was it like for you? What helped you get through the first couple of weeks?

I’d really appreciate any stories or encouragement. Thank you!

Any luck with supplements that take cravings away? No luck with naltrexone.

New to this and semi new to posting. I switched one thing over into drinking . I don’t know why when I watched my mom seize out from alcohol wds a few years ago while visiting her and had to call an ambulance as I held her on her side(what I knew to do) . She won’t open up to me about it(as is her right) but I was hoping someone could give me an idea of what to with stopping drinking.

Im a bit remote and the thought of that has me so worried that I’d flatline before they got to me(also the fact it happened I do believe traumatized me a little).I am trying to decide for my experience how much drinking does that typically. Has anyone had success with tapering or is cold turkey just the way to go? Thank you for any words and I’m not asking medical advice just any stories that people would be willing to share to shed light to my choices on quitting.

it’s one of the main reasons why I relapse - I mean, I know I can’t drink. But - no matter what I do , or how great the day is - I can’t stop thinking about having a drink .

or how great one would be.

because im thinking of it all the time, when im offered a drink? well, those nights don’t really end well.

even when im trying to distract myself from drinking - i can’t help but think this is my life from now on. so fun.

I used to need to drink atleast 1 liter of (european) beer, often more, every day.

Then I turned 30 and not only I don't crave any alcohol, I have beer in my fridge and don't have any desire to touch it. It's been like that for 4 years now.

I still drink socially but now a small beer or two where before I used to chug it like it was water.

I didn't do anything consciously. I also gained some weight.

Should I be concerned? Should I go to the doctor?

I slipped up. Did well not drinking during the work week all September up to October 9th. I got off work super early figured I'd have 2 or 3 pints at the neighborhood dive before my shopping. Ram into my next door neighbor and that turned into a 3 day bender. Bottle of Crown, 42 PBRs, 6-10 Coronas and a Box of Red Wine. Here I am 48 hours later. Feel just fine. No withdrawls, had a great day at work but I hate how I can do well for 4-6 weeks and then BOOM a bender. Only reason it's a bender is the next day just to not be hungover I crack open 4 PBRs just to get rid of the hangover but that turns into an all day thing. Just on the couch one after the other.

Shits wild. I have no problem not drinking M-Th but man once Friday afternoon hits I'm like a moth to a flame.

So about 2 years ago law enforcement caught me buying drugs and i had to stop doing them. I went like that for almost a year but now, every day i get home I start drinking. I only drink when i know i dont have to drive, i dont drink at work, but as soon I'm free for the day I start drinking.

I wake up early, about 5 am and leave for work at 6, almost every time with a BAD hangover. At that point of the day i promise myself i dont drink that day but at the end of the day i still manage to convince myself its okay to have a drink, and the cycle starts again.

I feel like i cant go like this anymore, but AA meetings seem like a place only for alcoholics. I feel like im not only an alcoholic but a drug addict going for the only legal option to get an altered state of mind.

Now do i still choose AA meetings or go straight to a specialized doctor/ psychologist? I'm not aware of any other option at this point.

For anyone who had a similar problem please tell me your experience of what worked for you, because im absolutely clueless and I feel like I cant escape this loop on my own.

My boyfriend \[30M\] and I \[26F\] have been together almost 3 years. Over the weekend, while on vacation, he drank way too much after taking a three-month break from alcohol. He almost got into a physical fight with an older man over a game of pool.
Throughout the day, he upset several people, including me and a few strangers. When I tried explaining how his behavior came across, he said he was just joking around and that if people couldn’t accept him for who he is, that’s their problem.
I feel like alcohol is becoming a serious problem in his life. He’s lost his best friend over drinking-related issues, and it seems like every time he drinks, he ends up getting angry with me, too. I don’t know if he genuinely doesn’t see the problem or refuses to acknowledge it.
That night, we had a huge argument and almost broke up. He blamed me, saying I don’t want him to have fun because I don’t want to go to bars with him. During the argument, he got so close to me that he almost backed me into a wall, and I told him to get out of my face because I felt uncomfortable. He then told me I needed to go to a mental hospital, which really hurt.
I love him so much, and that’s what makes this difficult. When he’s sober, he can be a completely different person. But I can’t keep accepting this behavior or being blamed for the consequences of his drinking.
Has anyone dealt with a partner who has a drinking problem but doesn’t seem to recognize it? How did you handle it? Is there anything I can do to help him see the problem, or does he have to recognize it and want to change on his own?
I love him, but I’m really struggling with what to do next.

And well I still feel horrible. Male 34 . The last time I got drunk I drank a whole week day and night. After being sober 3 months . I messed things up so bad beyond repair . I told all my aunts off , told my cousin off . Met some random guy and apparently went to his house. I don't know who the guy is. Only reason I know these things is because my Google photos upload automatically and I been looking at the mess I caused and trying to piece 🧩 everything together. I also had my cell call history and messages. I couldn't even read all of my messages it was beyond embarrassing . I told off my aunts really bad and my cousin and I don't remember doing it. I even had to change number . I changed number today. This new number I ain't even gonna give it to them that's how bad things were . And like I said I don't remember doing anything. It's like if they erased my mind. My mom also told me I didn't come home for a whole week. Apparently I spent that whole week at that guy's house .

I have no idea who he is how I met him or were he lives. All I know is that on my Google photos I have pics with him drinking straight out of the vodka bottle. , us getting wet with the hose in his yard drinking margaritas n taking tequila shots , a video of him passed out naked drunk on his kitchen floor. And pics and videos of me naked taking pics in his bathroom while drinking beer. . My mom said that at the end of that week I came home drunk at 4 am and told her off. And passed out in the bathtub. I don't even remember how I got home . I already apologized to my mom n she said she forgives me but that she's disappointed. I also got fired from my crappy retail job because I didn't show up . They fired me over a voicemail. And well Luckily I was able to find a warehouse job on indeed which I applied yesterday and they called me today to start tomorrow. And right now it's 8 pm here in los Angeles California as I'm typing this. And have to start tomorrow at 7 am . And I honestly don't know if I'm gonna be able . Well I mean I have to I'ma force myself to go . Because I need a job. But like I said I'm already goin on 5 days since my last drink. And I think I had withdrawals. Things got worse as the days went by.

The first day I felt like my head was gonna explode and I was throwing up and shaking and sweating. Second day I felt " normal" I actually said this is not that bad things are gonna be fine , third day heart palpitations started and , body jerks , tremors however u wanna call em . Every time I tried to fall asleep my body would jerk really hard and it would wake me up . Then I somehow fell asleep and had full on sleep paralysis and auditory hallucinations I heard a woman's voice but I was alone in the room it freaked me out so bad it was actually TERRIFYING. 4th day today no body jerks but I haven't been able to sleep , still feel heart palpitations, feel my chest tight. ,and head has been hurting maybe cuz I have only been able to sleep like 4 hours ? I regret applying for a job cuz they actually called me. Tomorrow is gonna be the 5th day and I like I said I'm gonna force myself to go no matter how bad I feel . Because I have bills to pay , rent I need a source of Income. .. I just want to feel normal again . Does anyone know after how many days one feels normal again ? Cuz like I said I'm at 5 days basically and still feel like TOTAL SHIT.... I feel Soo bad .

I am goin to get help too . I'm going to try AA or something or talk to a doctor to put me on those medications i read about that help people stop drinking I think it's called naltrexone or something....

I attend online AA meetings every days every days except Tuesday cuz I (F26)) attend the in person meeting. I have sponsor, I live with residential counselors 24/7. I just keep relapsing and binge drinking after 1/2weeks. I feel so defeated

I cant go to rehab because if I do I'll loose my dog and if I'll loose my dog i'll off myself. The couple of days I've had sober in between is always due to her. I asked my gp for antabuse but she refuses to prescribe and I can't get a psychiatrist in due time because I'm moving. I've contacted 10 everyone turned me down except one told me they'd be willing tocdidc my case with my gp but she's still not convinced.

Trying not to fall into self pity even though life currently just sucks ass

Waking up with a sick stomach almost everyday is getting old quickly looking at AA meetings currently 🙃