Sometimes I wish all these relationship posts would give context on the looks and attractiveness of people when discussing relationship issues

[u/throwaway_ventingidk]

We always see people give their gender and age. It’s an important detail that gives context. People’s attractiveness also can help explain a loott of plot holes and things not adding up.

Attractiveness is a power balance as much as social status and money. I can’t give you honest advice of you’re vague or don’t include those details.

You always hear men or women complaining about being treated like shit for no reason. People ask them in the comments why they stay. Both genders reluctantly admit that their lazy and avoidant SO has a huge power imbalance over them and can get away with being inconsiderate because they can.

Yeah we all wish the world was a less shallow place. But it is shallow. And if you want advice it’ll mostly come down to increasing your self worth and having self respect.

[u/sg16k]

Yeah that’s a good point.

I also find it wild when folks will post their profiles to be critiqued and most of the advice is just nitpicking their bio, shirt they wear, etc but not obvious looks issues, many fixable.

Ex. Say a guy has a goofy shirt and mid bio, but also 60lbs overweight and NW5 hairline. Shedding the fat, building some muscle and getting a transplant (or shave if hair loss is not stabilized) would likely improve results 100X more than just fixing the bio.

As a former ugly kid, you do us no favor ignoring obvious flaws. Also, many people are not aesthetically inclined so we may miss things.

[u/throwaway_ventingidk → u/sg16k]

But even when they pick the clothes it’s about what the shirt says and not the fact that the person looks like a slob.

I have noticed people are getting more brutally honest though. There definitely is some tension as Gen Z is tired of millenial virtue signaling seen on Reddit.