r/etiquette • u/crawlen • 7d ago
Hosting overnight guests: pillows
We have a guest room with a new queen mattress. We're on a bit of a budget since we are now living in a bigger place, have a baby, etc. We spent a lot of money on the mattress and bought a couple of extra pillows. But pillows are kind of pricey. Husband has one pillow and I have two. Then we have two guest pillows. We are now hosting my inlaws and they are complaining about the pillows... They said we should have provided two each. I had no idea and I'm embarrassed. I gave them my extra pillow since they are the guests, but that's still only three pillows on the guest bed. Did I mess up? They have never stayed overnight at our place before. Our last apartment was smaller and we only hosted friends on an air mattress...
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u/BBG1308 7d ago edited 7d ago
I generally always have two bed pillows per guest and appreciate the same when I'm a guest. That being said, I'd never, EVER complain to my host if I only had one pillow. If I wanted hotel service and to be able to complain, I'd get out my credit card and pay for a hotel. Your guests have some nerve. Just smile and refer them to your husband when they complain. "Gosh I'm so sorry you had an uncomfortable night. I'll be sure to let (husband) know and you're welcome to do the same." Are you a woman? If yes, kind of sexist of them to assume that household things are your responsibility rather than talking to their own damn son.
TL/DR: You didn't mess up.
P.S. If you or someone you know has a Costco membership, they have two-packs of pretty good quality pillows for around $15-$20 for the two-pack. If they plan to visit more often once the baby arrives, maybe they should buy the pillows they prefer. You can offer to store them in your guest room. LOL.