r/breakingbad • u/Boring_Elevator3817 • 9h ago

RJ Mitte (Walt Jr) has passed 😥

Wow, I was shocked to hear this. They are saying it was suicide. So sad. He was only 34 years old. RIP, Flynn ❤️

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u/HailToTheThief225 8h ago

It’s scary how you don’t know what someone’s going through and how normal things can seem before it happens. The night before I lost my best friend he was having dinner with our buddy, laughing and joking like nothing was wrong in his life. You just never know.

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u/SignificantRecipe715 7h ago

A lot of people who take their life are happy right beforehand, as they've made the decision & I guess feel like a weight has lifted. Really sad.

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u/Due_Air_7255 6h ago

I think that is definitely part of it but I also think the happiness before hand is a swing of the pendulum and later on that day/night the pendulum swings again and the low lows are when it occurs. Before my suicide attempt I was very happy that day and the day before and none of it was due to me thinking "haha im fixing to killmyself this is great."

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u/Moth1016 5h ago

Ahh, see, for me it was like, I was miserable for months & months before I made the decision, and then the moment I made the decision, I was free. None of the things that I’d been worried/stressed about mattered anymore, none of my responsibilities weighed on me, and I was the happiest I’d ever been in my life. I pushed the date back 3x just to live in that bubble a little longer. Waited a whole week to actually make the attempt.

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u/HectorVillanueva 5h ago

I’m glad you weren’t successful and I hope you’re doing better now.

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u/Moth1016 2h ago

Thank you, I am!

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u/ThinGrass3138 5h ago

It's crazy how we let things weigh on us to such a disproportionate degree that we let it take away all our happiness.

Maybe that's why as humans we love dogs, they just live freely then when they go they go.

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u/HoustonIshn 2h ago

Ppl can’t control or assign happiness. No one “lets” severe depression/illness/trauma happen to them

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u/PearAmazing946 4h ago

I’m glad you’re here to share your story

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u/Successful-Ring-592 1h ago

Glad youre still here!

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u/wimbokcfa 4h ago

I’m struggling with the opposite. I think I have to do it tomorrow, there’s no more options for my PTSD and depression and I’m staring down losing my job, but I’m absolutely devastated for what I’m about to do to my friends and family

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u/gatitamonster 4h ago

Please don’t.

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u/wimbokcfa 3h ago

I really wish there were another way but I’ve been fighting so hard for literal years

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u/gatitamonster 3h ago

Look, I have no magic words for you and I don’t know what it’s like to be in your head. All I can tell you from my own experience of being depressed and disabled and losing everything, including my job, apartment, and independence is that life still has things to offer you.

You know that you have friends and family who love you and would be devastated. Tell them what’s happening and what you’re considering. Don’t blindside them. It’s not fair and you should give them a chance to help.

Don’t make such a huge, irrevocable decision without dotting all the “I”s and crossing all the “T”s. Call these people too.

https://988lifeline.org

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u/wimbokcfa 3h ago

I agree life does still have things to offer me, I’m just a piece of shit that can’t get my shit together enough to participate meaningfully and functionally. Including disability that’s now threatening my career. I think they know… they’ve seen me struggle for years and they’ve been there for me but there’s nothing anybody can do

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u/gatitamonster 3h ago

I’m a piece of shit. I can’t work and the only reason I’m not homeless is because my dad lets me live in his house. I’ve left the house six times since even before the pandemic. I’m the exact stereotype of the useless redditor—except I’m a woman and I wear pants.

Your career is threatened. Not gone. The one thing I wish I had done when I still had health insurance and depression/anxiety that refused to respond to medication was ask about electro shock therapy. If you haven’t explored that, I’m begging you to try for both of us.

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u/Ashamed_Scallion_316 3h ago

Like the other commenter said, I’m not going to pretend I understand everything you’ve been through, I’m just some rando on the internet. But she’s right, please reach out to your loved ones before you do something that can’t be undone. If it’s too hard to talk to a loved one right now, talk to a stranger on the lifeline. Someone’s always there to listen.

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u/Ashamed_Scallion_316 2h ago

It’s only inevitable if that’s what you choose. I hope you choose to stay with us. And so do your loved ones.

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u/Ashamed_Scallion_316 4h ago

Please give yourself another chance. You don’t have to face your problems alone.

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u/wimbokcfa 3h ago

I’ve had many chances. I’ve been fighting for years. I’m so tired. And I’ve had help. It just… doesn’t help. Nothing does, not enough

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u/AliciaMaeEmory 3h ago

Please don’t. Please reach out for help.

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u/Kamikrazy 3h ago

Hey Wimbokcfa,

Please don't take your own life. I know you said below that you have been fighting your depression for years. You should be proud of yourself every day that you can make it through that fight. Your life is valuable; you have strengths, ideas, and courage that is meaningful.

I am going to send you a message tomorrow evening. I really hope I get to hear back from you.

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u/Professional-Try731 2h ago

My other acct got auto banned for 3 days for “inciting violence” lol (just for discussing being suicidal). But thank you. I appreciate that. But also please don’t, it makes my heart hurt more to think of someone else waiting on a reply from me that won’t come

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u/Kamikrazy 1h ago

Please reconsider. I'm just a stranger, if talking to me is awkward please reach out to family or friends. It is ok to reach out to loved ones and let them carry some of this burden with you. I promise you they would prefer that to you taking your own life.

Depression fucks with our brains so much, it sucks to deal with on top of all the other shit that life throws at us. Your depression is not you, there are so many valuable qualities that you bring to this world. Your brain is lying to you every time those negative thoughts start popping up.

You have to have such a strong work ethic to become a doctor. You should be proud of becoming a doctor. Losing your job is not the end of things. It is the beginning of new opportunities, whether it be in the same profession or not. That drive to become a doctor is who you are, not your depression. Your work ethic, empathy for others, and perseverance are who you are.

Please keep fighting, I sincerely hope to hear from you tomorrow. <3

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u/Professional-Try731 29m ago

Okay, fuck, actually. I really didn’t expect this but something, somewhere, someone got to me… maybe all of it, I’m not sure. Somehow more people saw my comments than I expected. But I reflected on that I literally have a good friend’s wedding and my young nephew’s birthday party this weekend… and I haven’t seen my family in 2 years. Like what am I doing. I can’t do this right now. I can at least try hard for one more week or so. So, thank you, kind stranger for being part of this

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u/Kamikrazy 0m ago

Fuck yeah, keep fighting man. I think talking to people about our mental health is huge. I can't speak for everyone, but my depression puts a fog in front of my brain that keeps me from seeing all the good parts of myself. Sometimes we need someone else to help shine some light on us to clear that fog. (:

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u/Moth1016 1h ago

Devastating to hear, I’m so sorry. I know there’s likely nothing I can say or do as a stranger on the internet that might change your mind, but I sincerely hope you find another way. Have you seen an EMDR/brainspotting specialist? I, too, have severe treatment resistant PTSD and depression, and brainspotting in particular (EMDR as well, but to a slightly lesser extent) changed my life once I found the right practitioner.

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u/SummitSloth 1h ago

Same, I will go with you. I can't handle this world and my thoughts keeping me up at nights

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u/in5trum3ntal 24m ago

I’m sorry you went through any of that and hope you’re doing way better. I appreciate your transparency and descriptions, that can’t be easy.

It did kind of make me think that my adhd and keen procrastination skills may be keeping me alive though… I mean that in a light hearted way and in no way mean to joke about your experience.

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u/PearAmazing946 4h ago

I’m glad you’re here to share your story

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u/Solid-Technician6364 4h ago

I’ve had the same experience as well, going 100 to -100 in a short amount of time. Sometimes you have an extra good and happy day and you go home and the immediate absence of it has sent me down a lot. The extra good is dangerous for me cause it seems I need to only be a few steps above baseline for a fall to be fatal

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u/mostly_pee 3h ago

Yeah. Something I've noticed is that when things have been going alright and you have a good day it can hit ten thousand times worse to get a mood slump later. Because you think to yourself "if I can have all this great stuff in my life and I still can't be happy, what's the point?" Whereas if you already feel kinda sucky what's another lonely sad evening, you just add it to the shit pile.

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u/aeschenkarnos 3h ago edited 3h ago

I was talking to a guy a couple of weeks ago whose brother killed himself. They were in business together, skip bin hire. The guy I met did all the deliveries and pickups and dump runs and so on, and his brother managed the accounts and insurance and so forth. One man was out driving around in the fresh air and sunshine and the other was in the comfortable air conditioned office and both thought the other was happy. Only one was right.

After his brother passed away, friends and family gathered around to help and one of them was a cousin, an accountant. She offered to sort out the books.

Almost immediately after she started the job she told her cousin “he had been planning this for a long time, maybe a year.” She had never seen a neater set of small business records. Everything was correct, filed in folders, etc. The surviving brother may or may not have been able to take the work on, but the man who passed left him the absolute minimum amount of difficulty for the next accountant.

That’s a sign, I think. A normally untidy, or “eh, good enough” type person suddenly becomes unbelievably organised.

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u/tanz420 ahh...wire! 6h ago

Wait was it confirmed that he took his own life??

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u/BillRagoRM 6h ago

Yes

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u/tanz420 ahh...wire! 6h ago

Oh my god 😢

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u/ThatIsMe11 12m ago

Why you just lying? It’s not been confirmed yet, only suggested

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u/Lou-AC 24m ago

No. TMZ said theyre "told it was" by an unspecified source but no official statement made

"The Brownsville Police Department said no foul play was suspected and the investigation into his death was ongoing. Cameron County justice of the peace, Cyndi Hinojosa told the Associated Press that an autopsy would be performed." - that's what is official

TMZ has been known to publish lies/speculation. So probably a case of wait and see

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u/harleyyquinade 6h ago

I read he was engaged, I feel so bad for his fiancee and his family, something must have sent him over the edge. RIP.

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u/KayotiK82 4h ago

Supposedly his financial team screwed him over (to the point where all his BB earnings ws gone) and didn’t pay his taxes, stole money etc and he was in really bad with the IRS.

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u/Experimental_Salad 19m ago

Fucking scumbag managers.

There's a weird irony here with the closing song "Baby Blue" being written by Pete Ham of Badfinger.

For those unfamiliar with the story, the band's manager, a scumbag named Stan Polley, completely ripped off the group. Pete Ham was completely broke, with a pregnant girlfriend, and he couldn't even afford to buy a crib for the baby.

He hanged himself in his garden. He named and blamed Stan Polley in his suicide note.

Several years later, Pete's song writing partner and band bass player, Tom Evans, who had been suffering depression ever since Pete's death, ended up taking his own life, as well.

Fucking scumbag managers.

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u/MiscastBroadcast 41m ago

Doesn’t have to be something. He was diagnosed with cerebral palsy as a baby (3y.o I think). As a disabled person myself, 30+ years with a disability is tough, and perhaps it just got too much.

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u/Born_Ad8420 4h ago

A cousin of mine spent the afternoon with a family
member the day before he ended things. I remember the family member telling me on the phone that night about their visit and that that he seemed calmer and happier than she had seen him in quite a while. She told me that she thought he was finally “turning the corner.”

The next afternoon he was gone.

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u/Fragrant_Lobster_917 3h ago

Life is uncomfortable. Death is comfortable. Once you've made up your mind to die, everything else doesn't matter. It's terrifyingly freeing.

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u/Optimal-Promise-656 7h ago

Yeah. Messed me up mentally for a little while when I saw two people on separate occasions I knew the day they did it and the day before and I couldn’t tell at all with either before it happened

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u/ThrowAwayTau 6h ago

Depression wears you down. You want to escape it. And you do, by having a good night out with friends or playing a game that gets you there. You might have even had one of the best times in what feels like forever. But you know, this reprieve from the burden of depression will also end. The reprieve always ends. The darkness is going to grab you like it always does. The darkness is relentless. No matter how many times you get away, depression gets you again. And again. And again. You're tired. You don't want depression to control your life. So you won't. You can get away, for good, and end the back and forth. You will bask in the recent memory of your friends, your laughs, and your smiles. That is what you think, right to the very end.

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u/braddaugherty8 6h ago

A very accurate description of a terrible, terrible disease.

The most accurate analogy I've ever read was this one that compares it to shoveling snow.

It's something I wish everybody could read, and gain even an ounce of perspective.

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u/vavavoomdaroom 2h ago

Hyperbole and a Half has several excellent blogs about her experiences with severe depression. They are raw, beautiful, heartbreaking and hilarious.

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u/DILLYxDILLY91 5h ago

Suicide is not a disease bro. It’s a mental problem.

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u/ThrowAwayTau 5h ago

Giving the BOTD:

Did you mean Suicide, or Depression in your claim?

Why do you think mental problems are not diseases?

Where do you draw the line? Rheumatoid arthritis? Leukemia? Seizure? Migraine? Dementia? Bipolar disorder?

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u/DILLYxDILLY91 5h ago

Migraine isn’t a disease, bipolar is usually 50/50. I believe most people overdo it by being dramatic.

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u/hotztuff 4h ago

it’s weird that they’re talking about depression and you act like they called suicide a disease. reading isn’t your strong suit

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u/SafeFall974 6h ago

Thank you for writing this - beautiful and achingly sad.

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u/Mexican_Fence_Hopper 5h ago

This is my experience with it, it always come back but I have to force myself to think about the moments that make life worth it and then I remember that depression will also pass like the beautiful moments.

I have had two attempts in my life, and each time there was a mixed feeling when I failed. Shame, guilt of hurting my loved ones, failure, but finally a second chance to just continue.

Rest in peace Junior ❤️

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u/dontshoveit 6h ago

Well said. You captured that relentless cycle and the exhaustion of it all so accurately.

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u/1q3er5 6h ago

wasn't he engaged??? man this is such a bummer. he was a fighter

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u/Gibson129 7h ago

It really is mind blowing. Had a friend take his life in august. Talked to him the day before and he seemed perfectly fine. Really wish I had known and was able to say something.

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u/harleyyquinade 6h ago

Sorry for your loss, don't feel guilty, you had no way of knowing, that's the thing about suicidal people, they are the ones that seem the happiest and you just can't tell because they are pretending to be okay.

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u/saltybehemoth 5h ago

And, I don’t mean to be heartless to people having a thought of “if only I would’ve known!!!”, but most people who go through with it aren’t one heartfelt conversation from turning a corner.

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u/AddMeOnBeboPls 4h ago

If someone you know is depressed and appears to be really happy and energetic all of a sudden it CAN also be a sign that they have a plan in place.

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u/wimbokcfa 4h ago

I’m not sure if it helps, but most likely he did not want you to know at the end

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u/KittenFace25 3h ago

Sorry for the loss of your friend 🫂.

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u/ArcherAbove 8h ago

Reminds me of Anthony Bourdain…

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u/MeadowmuffinReborn 3h ago

I came very close to doing it a few years ago, and nobody in my life has any idea.

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u/tobinator2005 2h ago

night before i lost one of my good friends he had had a fun day and was leaving to go grab some jeans he wanted to show me and i never saw him again

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u/Dear_Chasey_La1n 4h ago

Let's not assume? Nothing is known yet how he died? He could have slipped in a tub, he could have had a brain bleed, who knows.

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u/YouOk5627 3h ago

Do we know he committed suicide?

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u/SummitSloth 1h ago

As someone who will kill myself this week, just know your best friend needed peace

RJ Mitte (Walt Jr) has passed 😥

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