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I had a miscarriage in June at 6 weeks, and it was absolutely heartbreaking. The one thing that kept me going was the hope that we could try again and that, this time, everything would go well.

I want to conceive again as soon as possible, but my gynecologist advised me to wait for 3 months because my cervix was still open, which increased the risk of infection. She also wanted to run some tests to understand what might have gone wrong. We did all the tests, and thankfully, everything came back normal. However, my ultrasound report mentioned PCOD.

My periods are usually only 2–3 days late, which my doctor says is normal. However, there have been a few occasions in the past when my period was delayed by around 15 days.

During my recent visit, my gynecologist advised me to wait another 2 months before trying to conceive. She prescribed some pills, which I believe might be hormonal contraceptive pills, to help regulate my cycle. Today is the fifth day of my period, and she told me to start taking them today. However, I haven’t bought them yet because I’m feeling very confused and unsure about what to do.

Honestly, I’m exhausted from waiting. All I want is to try again and have a healthy pregnancy. At the same time, I’m terrified of experiencing the same heartbreak all over again. Part of me wants to stop overthinking and just try, while another part is scared that I might be making the wrong decision.

My husband says he will support whatever I decide, but I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.

Has anyone been through something similar? Did you have to wait after a miscarriage, especially because of PCOD? Did your doctor prescribe hormonal pills to regulate your cycle before trying to conceive again?

I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences, especially from those who had a miscarriage around 6 weeks and went on to have a healthy pregnancy.

I can also share my ultrasound report and other test results if that helps provide more context.

I know everyone’s situation is different, and I’m not looking to replace medical advice. I just feel emotionally drained and would really appreciate some guidance, reassurance, or even just hearing from someone who understands what I’m going through. ❤️

Hi everyone

I have had two back to back miscarriages. One 7 weeks and one 10 weeks missed (medically managed)

I do have a 3 year old daughter and had two losses prior

I went down a rabbit hole recently of speaking to different doctors in the UK, one said try for a baby after one cycle and consider aspirin when you fall pregnant again and the other had reccomended a number of bloods for recurring loss. I am yet to have some of the bloods as one has to be carried out 10 weeks minimum post negative test (I didn’t know when that was so is booked for November)

I have been trying again and the clinic who requested the bloods have told me NOT to try again prior to receiving all bloods back (the nurse) and now I feel so stupid because I was trying to sort of just get back into the swing of trying without pressure really and now almost worried I’ll be pregnant again prior to these bloods now. Feel so so stupid!

What key things are they looking for for me prior to retrying? The nurse wouldn’t pass my message directly to the clinician when I asked today

I just found out that this is the 6th cycle in a row that instead of ovulating, I have had a LUF. Could have been happening before that, but that was just when we started monitoring ovulation with ultrasounds. I was diagnosed with endo and had it excised back in May. They also discovered I had PCOS and APS.

My past 5 cycles have been medicated with a trigger shot (pregnyl), but to no avail. We've also tried letrozole, and recently started metformin. I'm getting desperate, and am looking for any advice I can get.

If anyone else has been through this, could you please let me know if anything worked for you? I don't know anyone in real life who has had this problem, so I was hoping someone here would know. Thank you!

I think Omega3 and/or Mucinex actually does something for me?

At the end of August, I started taking an Omega3 supplement with my prenatal, because I figured it might be a good idea since I'm vegetarian and don't eat a lot of eggs or algae either.

In that cycle, I noticed that my luteal phase symptoms were a lot milder. I have endometriosis and I usually get twinges, cramps and spotting 1–2 days before my period, but that time there was barely any spotting and basically no cramping. If it wasn't for my sore boobs, I could've forgotten that I was even in the luteal phase lol.

Fast forward to the end of September, I started OPKs for another cycle and as always, I was expecting my ovulation on CD 17 at the earliest. I also decided to try Mucinex for the 1st time starting at CD 12.

Suddenly, I get a super positive OPK on CD 14 and BBT rise on CD 16. This is the earliest ovulation I had in 5 years, so I was bracing myself for a short cycle because my luteal phase is always 12 days on the dot. But joke's on me, I'm now 13 dpo and I'm only just starting to get the usual spotting and queasy feeling I associate with my period starting. I even took a pregnancy test because I am never late (it was negative, sadly).

My cycles are normally absolutely bulletproof and the only time I ever had a late period was when I had Covid. Did Omega3 and Mucinex change anyone else's cycles or am I just a statistical outlier freak? Would love to hear y'alls input!

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My husband and I (33M and 31F - almost 32) are TTC our first and just hit a year from when we decided to start trying and the 6-month mark from when we actually started trying. So far we’ve had one miscarriage and no luck since. I don’t know what it is but something about this point in the process is making me feel very alone and anxious about the fact that we’re not yet pregnant.

Our timeline:

Oct 2025-April 2026: Decided to start trying and went to do genetic screening. Ran into an issue with genetic testing (ended up being a false alarm after testing lots of family) that delayed us starting for roughly six months.
mid-April 2026: Started trying
July 2026: Conceived on our fourth cycle
August 2026: Early miscarriage (5 weeks)
Oct 2026: Two cycles since the miscarriage have both been negatives

It feels like everyone I know got pregnant in just a few months and here we are. We’re both healthy, I’m tracking CM and using OPKs and timing sex.

I recognize a lot of folks on here have probably been trying for longer so I in no way want to act like we have it worse than we do. I also recognize it can take up to a year (though my understanding is the majority conceive in the first six months).

But please, for anyone on this sub in a similar situation/timeline, help me feel less alone!

2 years TTC — secondary infertility 💔

I had my son in 2020 with no issues. In 2024, we started trying for baby #2. I got pregnant the first month but miscarried at 8 weeks.

Since then, all our testing has come back normal. Tubes open, sperm good, regular cycles, and I ovulate monthly. My first IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy, my second failed, and I’ve had 3 failed cycles with Clomid/timed intercourse and progesterone. Changed doctors did 2 cycles with him just progesterone.

I’m now 34 with an AMH of 2.83. My doctor wants me to try another IUI, but I’m self-pay and spending $1,500–$2,000 per cycle. I can use that money towards IVF

Would you keep trying IUIs or move on to IVF? I’m so overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. 😩💔

I (27F) stopped the pill a year ago after taking it for 10 years. During that time i mostly skipped the sugar pills and would have a withdrawal bleed every few months, rather than monthly. Unfortunately, after a year I have not had a single period. I’ve had hormonal tests and an ultrasound and everything looks mostly normal. lots of immature follicles on the ovaries, but no high testosterone or anything else to indicate PCOS. I do have Hashimotos but it is very under control. I am also very small 5’3, 115 pounds. Doctors say it’s not uncommon and for me to just keep waiting, it will return eventually. has anybody else experienced this? is there anything I can do? They said I could do letrozole if I really want to conceive, but I’d prefer for my body to get regulated on its own if possible.

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Also posted this in the gluten free subreddit

I’ve been diagnosed with a non-celiac IgE mediated gluten intolerance several years ago, but I sometimes question the results because I had already not been eating gluten for several months before the blood test. Originally, my symptoms that I were able to pinpoint were all GI related, and resolved quickly when I stopped eating gluten (and peanuts, walnuts, hazelnuts, and soy which I also reacted to on the blood test).

Anyway, I had my daughter in the fall of 2024 after getting pregnant the first month trying. After pregnancy, I tried to eat gluten again and didn’t experience the same GI problems, and so I kept eating gluten thinking pregnancy somehow cured me (lol).

Well, now I’ve been trying to get pregnant again for 9 months with no success. Additionally, my periods have been more unpredictable and variable, I’ve had weird spotting 3 days before my period starts which has never happened before, and my acne is out of control despite using prescription topical medication. I decided to try going GF again to see what would happen, and after one month my period is completely back to normal and my acne has seriously calmed down. I didn’t get pregnant this month, but I’m feeling more hopeful now.

I feel so stupid for going back to eating gluten because I had no GI symptoms. Before going GF the first time, my acne had been so bad I was put on spironolactone. I hadn’t been getting periods because I was on hormonal birth control so I couldn’t see if they were regular or not. I just feel so stupid for not connecting the dots with the gluten impacting my hormones this much!! I guess I’m just wondering if anyone can relate. Does anyone have any other symptoms they see if gluten impacts your hormones too?

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Hi Everyone,

I am a 34F. I have been off hormonal bc since about mid-July and my husband and I are trying to conceive. Last cycle was our first time and we had zero luck. So this is my second cycle hopefully getting ready to try and my 4th cycle off birth control.

I am on CD6 and woke up with some lower left abdominal/maybe ovarian pain? I am also having some discharge (which my period did end about 2 days ago). I went to urgent care just to be safe because I was having anxiety that maybe it could be a cyst? They ordered an ultra sound but I have to wait until Monday evening.

Could this just be part of my cycle or has anyone had a cyst and can explain if this pain I am feeling could be that? I would say the pain is only maybe a 2-3/10, but has been fairly consistent all day. Any context/info would be helpful to ease my anxiety while I wait for Monday! Thank youuuu!

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My husband and I have been TFAB for the past four cycles and I’m finally getting the hang of using OPKs. What I’ve noticed though is that my surge seems to be really quick. I typically get a positive test around. CD 19 (normal for me), then use Natural Cycles to confirm I have ovulated. What I’ve noticed though is that if I get a positive test on CD 19, my LH level seemed to quickly fall the next day. For example, last cycle I caught the surge midmorning to afternoon CD 19 and was definitely peeking by my third test that day in the evening. But Natural Cycles then indicated that I ovulated CD 22, which felt far away from the peak on CD19.

Does a quick surge imply anything? Doesn’t mean I’m ovulating right after my surge instead of maybe 48 hours later? I’m trying to determine if I get a positive test on CD 19, what are the best days to optimize having sex?

I’m on CD 17 now, so my fertile window is approaching, if I’m not already in it.

Qualcuno con tube leggermente tortuose e strette ma pervie dopo HyCoSy? Ho recentemente fatto una HyCoSy e, nel complesso, la mia esperienza è stata sorprendentemente positiva. Non ho sentito nessun dolore, quindi volevo condividerla nel caso in cui qualcuna sia nervosa riguardo alla procedura!

Entrambe le tube sono pervie, ma il mezzo di contrasto inizialmente è passato lentamente e poi sembrava fluire molto più liberamente. Il referto descriveva entrambe le tube come tortuose e strette. Non sono attorcigliate o a forma di S, semplicemente non perfettamente dritte, con alcune curve.

Il mio medico ha detto che questa è semplicemente la mia anatomia naturale e che sono nata così.

Qualcuno ha avuto risultati simili? questa anatomia ha influito sulla vostra fertilità?

Mi piacerebbe sentire le vostre esperienze!

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First time posting here. I am a 28 Yr old soon turning 29 with an AMH of 0.9 We have been trying to conceive in the last two months with one possible chemical pregnancy or maybe a false positive digital test ( I dont know yet ). I understand this is too soon to let hopes down but I'd been monitoring my AMH over the last 3 years and see it drop categorically over the years had already instilled a sense of fear in me. We are quite far away from even being eligible for IVF. But I don't know if should freeze eggs already privately rather than turn up with an even lower count 1 year down the lane. We have been timing cycles ( not to a point of doing LH strips strictly ). Diet I am trying to cut down sugars. Just feeling hopeless! We have been together for 8 years now and ever since we started dating we've had cute little dreams of having our kids and a vision board really. Looking at it now makes me feel bittersweet. I have a very supportive husband and he tries really hard to take my mind off it. But I can't stop thinking about it.

I have been testing my LH strips since CD11. I have not gotten a surge at all and today’s supposedly the ovulation day (CD18). I am so tired, is there a possibility that I am ovulating without a surge caught on the strips?

I have also been baby dancing every alternate day, but I have PCOS and my gynae supposedly cleared me saying I am all good to start trying to conceive. My partner has also down a full panel blood and semen analysis and came back OK, except for lower than average sperm motility and lower testosterone which he is now on supplements for.

This is my 3rd cycle and I know I am still far from it but I don’t know. Is there a possibility that I am not ovulating at all? Should I consult my gynaecologist? If so, what should I bring to her?

Edit: Thanks for all the reassurance! To answer, I’m also tracking my BBT, and my cycle previously was on an average 30-35 days. I was on mounjaro and then I stopped to TTC. Once I stopped my CD was 47 before I had to take a pill to induce my period since I was negative on my pregnancy tests. Then my last cycle was 27 days before this round of TTC. I guess if it’s a negative I will just take it as I’m still searching for my cycle average. But we are still BD every 2 to 3 days just to cover ourselves! I’m also on inositol for the last 1.5 years.

Hi everyone, long time lurker, first time poster.

My husband (42M) and I (38F) have been TFAB since getting my IUD removed in August 2025. The main problem so far has been my husband's inability to finish with me when the timing with my cycle is right. He is perfectly capable of finishing on his own, but it seems the pressure of trying to have a baby is making him unable to finish. We've tried me not telling him at all when I'm ovulating, him trying viagra, him coming off his mental health meds, both of us going to individual therapy, and couples therapy. We also tried to do at home insemination twice but were unable to due to the thickness of his semen.

We recently learned that we have a 25k per year fertility benefit that we can use through my husband's insurance. Since we are getting older, we decided to make an appointment with a fertility clinic in town that came highly recommended from a few different friends, with the idea that maybe an IUI would be the ticket. We had to wait a month to get in, and our first appointment was on Monday of this week. We met with the doctor for a half hour where we went over our history and our medications, and then we had a half hour where they did initial bloodwork and an ultrasound. During the meeting with the doctor she focused a lot on how old I was, how my eggs aren't as good because I'm old, and how IVF should be what we consider first because of my age. I was surprised to be pushed to IVF right away, especially since I've always had normal periods, but it was also a lot of information at once so I decided to wait to see what they recommended after the lab work was done.

They scheduled me for an SHSG on Wednesday (yesterday), because yesterday was day 12 of my cycle and they wanted to see if my fallopian tubes were clear. They told me to take ibuprofen beforehand and said that it was ok to take my prescriptions as normal but to fast for 6 hours before the procedure. When I arrived, the receptionist asked me if I had taken any Valium since they sometimes prescribe that, and I said no (I hadn't even been offered it). She asked if I had taken anything else that day and I told her I had taken my normal meds in my chart, including an Ativan, and the ibuprofen that they told me to take. She told me I couldn't drive if I had taken an Ativan and I said I hadn't, and pointed to my friend who had driven me. She then went and got the nurse and the nurse came out and told me they couldn't do the procedure because I had admitted that I took a drug that wouldn't allow me to consent for the procedure. I was upset, because I had fully disclosed my medications, I had asked if I could take my normal prescriptions because of the fasting (and they had said yes) and Wednesday was the last day of this cycle that I could do the SHSG. I had also signed a million consent forms in the office for the SHSG specifically, so it was very confusing. I left in tears that I'd have to wait another month, and honestly I felt like they were very rude to me. I sent an email when I got home to the nurse expressing my frustration at the whole situation. She did apologize at their oversight into not looking at my meds and not communicating with me that I, in fact, could NOT take one of my prescriptions if I wanted the procedure.

I felt better that she apologized, and then woke up this morning to a message from the same nurse saying that because my A1C is 6, I needed to start Metformin today and she had already called it in to the pharmacy. There was no discussion, just "the prescription is in, expect diarrhea and nausea and start today."

I feel like both of these incidents are red flags about the clinic's lack of communication and lack of empathy for what is already an emotionally charged event.

I'm also frustrated that even though my husband is the one who hasn't been able to do his part, I'm having to go on medications and do invasive procedures. I realize that's just part of this whole thing, and being a woman in general, but it feels a little premature to put me on the meds before we even have his semen analysis back.

This is all making me feel like we should try another clinic, but I've heard from lots of people that all fertility clinics are generally like this. I'm not necessarily opposed to trying Metformin, it just feels like they are really rushing us through all of this before having all of the answers and results back from testing. Am I overreacting? Would it be ridiculous to switch to another clinic based on this? I realize I am extra emotional to this situation so I'd appreciate a (kind) outside perspective.

Thanks!

This is the third month I stopped taking the birth control pill. I've been using an LH test for the second month. In my first cycle, after a long time, my test finally got positive, and then my period came. Now I'm doing the tests every day again, and it's terribly annoying that one day the test line is completely dark, but not positive, and then the next day it's completely faint. Then a few days later the line is strong again, but not positive again, and then faint again. I'm tired of it. This is day 23 of my cycle and I don't know how long it will be now. I want to know when I ovulate, but I can't keep doing this. We try to be together every 3rd day and that way we'll definitely cover the fertile window. I thought planning a baby would be a joyful time, but so far I've been feeling nothing but tension...