r/Millennials • u/Radiant_Priority9739 • Jul 12 '26
Discussion Did you go to your highschool reunion?
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u/Apprehensive-Gur-609 Jul 12 '26
I'm not even sure if my.high school had a reunion.... if so I was never told about it.
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u/PowerSkunk92 Xennial (1983) Jul 12 '26
Same. I went to three different high schools, and not one of them even sent me an invite to any kind of reunion.
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u/gunsforevery1 Jul 12 '26
Your school doesn’t hold it. Someone from your class chooses to organize it.
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u/toucheboo Jul 12 '26
Its the valid Victorian that's supposed.to
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u/PapayaOtherwise3346 Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 12 '26
Who now?
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u/R2-D2Vandelay Older Millennial Jul 12 '26
The valid Victorian.
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u/PapayaOtherwise3346 Jul 12 '26
Is that the person who takes over the role of valedictorian after the others have been disqualified?
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u/joeyjoejoeshabado42 Jul 13 '26
Nah they’re supposed to designate someone to organize and then attend reunions dressed in historically accurate (valid) Victorian garb. Our school did a legit renaissance man instead, cause there was some kind of protest amongst the masses for getting rid of the Victorian era inequality or something
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u/kittiestkitty Jul 13 '26
No, he’s the invalid valedictorians arch nemesis.
Gotta yang that yin, man.
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u/SizeableBrain Jul 12 '26
I lived in Victoria legally.
It's my fault I didn't organise any school reunions!
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u/Affordable_Z_Jobs Jul 12 '26
The person in your class who established a bunch of trade unions and prospered the most off of child labor in the factories.
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u/Sir_Badtard Jul 12 '26
It's whoever was student body president for me.
So if any high school kids are reading this. Think long and hard before you're tasked with that life time commitment of planning a party in your home town every decade.
The girl that was our president lives in New York now and all her family moved away. She actually found a bar with a private room in our small Louisiana hometown and organized everything.
I didn't go but saw pictures.
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u/goodguessiswhatihave Jul 13 '26
You're also allowed to just say "fuck it" and not do it. You aren't actually making a life long commitment by being class president in high school
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u/Jessness-1859 Jul 13 '26
I’m sponsor of senior officers at my school, and I tell them this. A reunion is organized by whoever wants to do it. You are not making a decades-long commitment seeking an office in 12th grade. As far as I’m concerned, you’re free once you toss your hat at graduation.
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u/Darling_kylie Jul 13 '26
I have guilt about not arranging it at least once a week for past 15 years, this comments set me free. Thank you. I keep saying I will do it when I lose some weight lol
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u/SuddenAvocado Jul 12 '26
That is honestly amazing. I hope someone sent her a thank you card or something.... box of chocolate... wine....xanax...?
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u/heathmon1856 Jul 13 '26
The people who are class body presidents are usually doers. There was a fuck ton of drama with my hs reunion for some reason
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u/thebeardedcats Jul 13 '26
Same. Girl who was supposed to organize dropped off the face of the planet even harder than I did after school, and we had had Facebook for years by that time
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u/FoST2015 Jul 13 '26
I was student body president my senior year and that was the precedent at my school also.
Anyways 20 years later, I've done exactly zero planning, hosting, attending of any reunion.
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u/BloodwineSupernova Jul 12 '26
Generally you’d only be invited to the one you graduated from. It’s not an “everyone who passed through the doors” thing.
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u/PowerSkunk92 Xennial (1983) Jul 12 '26
I didn't get one from there either.
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u/Sir_Badtard Jul 12 '26
I mean did you join an Alumni group on social media?
That's what mine did.
Sounds unreasonable to expect someone to keep track of 300 addresses and where you moved 10 years after high school if you were waiting for something in the mail.
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u/gunsforevery1 Jul 12 '26
Your school doesn’t hold one. Someone from your class organizes it.
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u/lieuwestra Jul 13 '26
Exactly, the reason you don't know is because no one bothered to keep your contact details or look you up on facebook.
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u/bannedagainomg Jul 13 '26
Or like he said someone actually have to organize it and if no classmate is interested it wont happen, my year didnt have one.
Everyone have social media so you can easily keep in contact with old classmates anyway, reunions are sort of losing their purpose.
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u/sailorangel59 Jul 12 '26
Same. It would've been my 20th 4 years ago, but I have no idea if one was held. I still live near the school. I just don't care enough to find out.
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u/KennytheDoggy Millennial Jul 12 '26
I don't have facebook anymore so I have no clue what anyone from high school is up to
And I like it this way
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u/Alarmed_Tea_2874 Millennial Jul 12 '26
Same. And honestly school reunions aren't necessary anymore because of social media.
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u/Meizas Jul 12 '26
Very true, but it's not like I catch up with my highschool friends often or ever in person. It'd be cool to see them
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u/shes_a_gdb Jul 12 '26
I keep in touch with the people I want to keep in touch with. The rest I'm fine with just social media.
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u/Neveronlyadream Jul 12 '26
I don't even bother with the rest on social media.
Got rid of my Facebook about 10 years ago, but I realized that I had all these people who had literally no interest in interacting with me that I had no interest in interacting with either.
I just keep the people I'm actually interested in talking to around.
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u/longdrivehome Jul 13 '26 edited Jul 13 '26
My thesis is that it's not healthy to have high definition memories shoved in our face on a daily basis like Facebook does. Fading memories are the brain's way of making room for new experiences and (at least to me) I like that the bad parts fade and the good parts stay for the highlight reel. It feels really weird that I could go on Facebook if I still had it and relive a college party with high def photos from 2007 when I'm nearly 40 years old.
My highschool friends who are still on Facebook ask me if I saw what happened to some random person we graduated high school with over 20 years ago, then think I'm the crazy one for not being on Facebook for the last 15 years...I just don't think our brains were meant to keep minute-to-minute tabs on the kid who pee'd his pants in 3rd grade.
It also makes bumping into someone from the past a much, much more pleasant experience. Like tell me something, surprise me, literally any story you tell is falling on virgin ears - that part of the human experience goes away when you follow people on facebook for 2 decades after you graduate.
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u/Sabregunner1 Jul 12 '26
This. the people you want to keep in touch with, you easily can. its not like our parents where reunions where the way to catch up with people. they really arent necessary anymore
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u/Bugbread Jul 12 '26
For longer than the ages of any redditor's parents, it's been easy to keep in touch with people you want to keep in touch with. Nowadays "writing a letter" sounds like a huge, formal affair and insurmountable obstacle, but it used to be something people did for fun. Same with phone calls.
Reunions aren't (weren't) about the Tier 1 folks, the people you actively want to keep in touch with, they're about the Tier 2 folks: the folks who weren't quite your friends, but who you were friendly with. The folks that you enjoyed chatting with while in school but you didn't hang out with after the school day ended. The friends of your friends. You'd spend time with them almost daily back in the day, and you enjoyed their company, but not enough to want to keep in regular touch. But after a decade or two, you wonder what became of them and you hope the best for them and you want to talk to them again. That's what reunions are good for.
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u/TheCoolestUsername00 Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 12 '26
Facebook is dead. I logged in for the first time in 2 years. It’s a ghost town hardly anybody posts new stuff
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u/MattIsLame Jul 12 '26
its boomers and bots. and honestly millennials are all over it too
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u/earthwormulljim Jul 13 '26
Deleting mine was the best decision. I got rid of all meta, and twitter and my mental health drastically improved. I was just doom scrolling. Despite having 400+ “friends”, I never heard shit from people.
People just like it because they can spy on you.
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u/Tagisjag Jul 12 '26
I'd disagree on the base that we as individuals curate what we want people to see on social media. Actually being in a person's presence and having a one-on-one still does something a screen can't. The more generations going further remember this, the better.
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u/Catsdrinkingbeer Jul 12 '26
I doubt I'm going to get any deeper than what is seen on my social media 20 years later with a person I barely talked to in high school.
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u/MattIsLame Jul 12 '26
it just becomes the same old conversation of catch up and the same questions asked from both sides until you run out of questions and theres a brief awkward pause because after getting this person's brief life story from the past 20 years, you realize you dont know them anymore. then you fumble around from the pre-recorded questions into improv territory. thats when you either find a common interest or walk away to engage in this entire process all over again with a new, old friend.
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u/NotTooDeep Jul 12 '26
At my 25th reunion, I arrived with some friends and some old enemies, and I left with more friends. So there's that.
One enemy sought me out to apologize for bullying me for three years. He had two teenage sons that were being bullied and realized what a dick he'd been, and wanted to apologize to me. He cried. I forgave him. We never mentioned if either of us "made it" or not.
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u/MattIsLame Jul 12 '26
thats the power of human interaction and a triumph of the good in people that is seldom represented through social media. I know my reunion would have been a lot of fun. but It just wasn't something I felt strongly about either way. maybe in 10 years.
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u/songstar13 Jul 12 '26
I think they meant it more in the sense that high school reunions used to be a good way to reconnect with people you'd lost track of after high school. But now that we have social media, that happens less. People still delete their social media accounts, stop using them, or never had them to begin with but it's an edge case now.
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I think they meant that a connection on social media is not the same as a connection in real life.
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u/EM05L1C3 Jul 12 '26
Everyone mysteriously quit contacting me when I got rid of mine. Real peaceful.
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u/DulceEtDecorumEst Jul 13 '26
My high school consisted of the same 12-15 people from 1st grade to 12th grade.
I don’t like them all but at 30 Something I now realize we became a weird family along the way.
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u/FewWait38 Jul 13 '26
That sounds wild to someone whose high school had a couple of thousand people
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u/oneshoeshort Millennial '88 Jul 12 '26
Same. I graduated 20 years ago this year and I don't even know if my class will have a reunion. It's my understanding that the 10th reunion was a disaster.
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u/Askew_2016 Jul 12 '26
I wasn’t invited to my 10 year. Yes my class was still that cliquey 10 years post high school
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u/Crunchy_Lunch Jul 12 '26
My grandmother ended up settling down in her hometown and went to all the reunions. She said it finally stopped being cliquey at the 50th, but only because so many people had died that the cliques were broken up.
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u/Askew_2016 Jul 12 '26
Holy cow that is depressing
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u/alias213 Jul 13 '26
Try working in senior care. They're like 70% widowed grandmas because men die earlier.
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u/AntikytheraMachines Jul 13 '26
I had a WWII veteran regular customer.
His commando squad / regiment had met before the ANZAC day parade under the same tree every year.
One year he was the only one there waiting.
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u/HulkSMASHley_23 Jul 12 '26
The 50th is when I plan to start attending. I told my peers that significantly less than a year after graduation.
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u/sadbridethrowaway27 Jul 12 '26
The kind of person who would organise a 10 year high school reunion, would definitely strike me as the type of person who would still have that high school mentality.
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u/Ordinarily_Claim Jul 12 '26
Same here. We had our 20th reunion two years ago. The co-organizer is a close friend and didn't even mention it to me. I was like “Dude, you play golf with my husband and we have a yearly end-of-summer BBQ at my house, how did that slip your mind?”
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u/haggynaggytwit Jul 12 '26
Maybe because you see each other so often now, they no longer associate you with high school and forgot you went there.
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u/Shermander Jul 12 '26
Towards the end of my Senior Year, the school put out a "Senior Video" that was supposed to commemorate our graduating class of 500 or so students. The video probably had about thirty people max. The same ten or so people throughout the montage. Lots of folks were annoyed, but whatever.
Our high school reunions always consist of the same thirty or so folks. They don't invite anybody else. At least they post the reunions to Facebook I guess.
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u/HumanPea1140 Jul 12 '26
That's how my yearbook was. There was a section that was supposed to commemorate the senior class, with pages and pages of candid photos of all of us. Most of the pictures ended up being the same ~20 seniors and their friends that took yearbook class that year.
Yes, we had a yearbook class. It was supposed to be for aspiring editors and designers to get experience with releasing a publication, but every year, it was usually a bunch of more popular kids taking it as one of their last blow off classes and to ensure they showed up in the yearbook a lot.
I was good at sports and friends with a lot of them, so I had a good mix of pictures, but even back then, I thought the whole thing was super shitty.
I didn't go to my 10-year in 2019, but saw pictures. Out of our class of ~200, about 30-40 people showed up. It was a lot of those same cliquey popular kids.
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u/oneshoeshort Millennial '88 Jul 12 '26
Ours was an open invitation/RSVP type thing. Bonus points if you could point to your picture in our senior class yearbook, though that was mostly a gag.
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u/___Art_Vandelay___ Jul 12 '26
Graduated 26 years ago, never once looked back. I had 900 kids in my class and have no interest in keeping in touch with 99% of them. I didn't choose them as classmates.
The few good friends I had in high school I am still in touch with almost daily. Three of them were groomsmen at my wedding four years ago.
Even though my hometown is a great place to grow up and raise a family (always ranked in the top-3 best places to live in the country), I feel sorry for those who never ventured out after high school or college. Granted I'm no globetrotter, but man their world is so small.
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u/Icy_Secret_2909 Jul 12 '26
Mine never had our 10-year. But, everyone I cared about I am friends with on facebook. And at this point we are just minor aquaintences. So, I see no point in going even if a 20-year was going to happen.
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u/MavisBeacons_Sextape Jul 12 '26
Mine too, apparently the “Save the Date! 9/11” emails and letters for ours went out last week. I didn’t receive any, but I keep in touch with plenty of my classmates just fine - via text, or meeting up when we’re in the same city - so handful of them sent me the screenshots.
Deleted my Facebook in 2012 and it’s really not hard to make the time to keep up with the people you actually care about. I had the type of high school experience you see depicted as being ideal (or the ideal cliche) in media, had a great time…and I still don’t give a single fancy fuck about attending mine. Zero desire. Most of my friends feel the same.
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u/Background-Crow4820 Millennial Jul 12 '26
Facebook is just a shitshow, deleted my profile about 5 years ago and i love it
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u/Skizot_Bizot Jul 12 '26
Only thing I like it for is market place and groups for different interests. Better than subreddits generally but the actual social media part is vile.
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u/Obtuse-Posterior Older Millennial Jul 12 '26
I still talk to the 4 people in my class that I actually liked so I'm good. Oh and I wasn't invited not sure why since I graduated but didn't care enough to figure out why
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u/ijuana420 Jul 12 '26
Same! The 10-year reunion info for my class was on Facebook, and since I’m not getting back on the app in a few years to find out, I’ll probably miss any relevant information and invite for the twentieth. Oh no…
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u/feralcatshit Jul 12 '26
This is also how I avoid it! Downside is my husband graduated the same class and he has friends who will tell him when it is. I plan on pretending I didn’t hear him relay this info to me 😆
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u/PostMatureBaby Older Millennial Jul 12 '26
Was gonna say, I have no idea how I'd even find out when it is. Fine by me
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u/Live_Situation7913 Jul 12 '26
You’d hate to see your bully with a hotter wife, sports car and big house. Ignorance is bliss.
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u/astralchanterelle Jul 12 '26
I cant remember my password and dont have that recovery phone number or email anymore. People keep messaging my family asking if im dead
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u/Shar_12_Blaneyfan Jul 12 '26
I have Facebook, but I rarely use it. I haven't deleted it yet because of all of my pictures. But SAME. Whenever someone from HS would add me as a friend, it was to try to sell me some shit 😂😂 so stupid.
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u/Itsworthoverdoing Jul 12 '26
Same deleted, then got it back when marketplace became bigger than Craigslist. My profile is bare and I refuse to link back up with ppl
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u/labelkills1331 Jul 12 '26
My Facebook reunion group keeps getting scammed by fake profiles trying to sell reunion merch. Lol our class was so big no one's questioning if these people actually went to our HS. They didn't. I like watching the chaos so I'm not saying anything.
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u/Palindrome000 Jul 12 '26
Same! Like I still live in the same place. If people want to know what I'm up to they can find me.
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u/BluebirdFast3963 Jul 12 '26
Unfortunately Facebook is still the biggest social media Network especially if you own a business or sell something.
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u/CheeksMcGillicuddy Jul 12 '26
This was my reason for going. I saw a bunch of people I haven’t seen or talked to in forever. It was a fun night
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u/Thyanlia Jul 12 '26
Same here and I always thought I'd want to go to my high school reunion. I like seeing what people have become.
But I also feel very depressed when I see how successful/rich idiotic people are while I try my best to be a good person raising good people and struggling to pay my bills.
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u/throwaway1546874 Jul 12 '26
Same. Don't miss FB or IG. Pure bliss. If people really wanted to get in touch, they would be already.
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u/earfeater13 Jul 12 '26
I didn't like those people then, i definitely dont now lol
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u/lord_skidmar Jul 12 '26
right, anyone I was friends with I still have their phone number or other ways of keeping contact, everyone else, I never intended on seeing you again 👋
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u/itsmontoya Jul 12 '26
I told my wife that everyone I care about talking to I already keep in touch with.
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u/garytyrrell Jul 12 '26
Really? There’s plenty of people from high school I liked and haven’t seen in 25 years
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u/Ok-Reputation-2266 Jul 12 '26
Good for you but there’s plenty of people that couldn’t get out of high school fast enough.
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u/metathis007 Millennial Jul 12 '26
Yep. Several people made my HS years miserable for no apparent reason ( I was the quiet one back then).
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u/BigTintheBigD Jul 12 '26
The organizers of our 15 year decided to only invite the “fun” people. A perfect example of why I don’t waste my time with those people.
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u/NoxTempus Jul 13 '26
Eh, that's just because the people that organise this shit peaked in highschool.
Like, think about. Imagine genuinely thinking that being "fun" in highschool is a measure of an adult's worth (or even just their ability to entertain).
Is there anything more pathetic than exalting your highschool social ladder a whole 15 years later?
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u/valleysally Jul 12 '26
I moved away, it would cost minimum 500 bucks to go. They're not worth it.
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u/shamelessdetective Jul 12 '26
Honestly, social media killed the high school reunion. I don't need to pay money for a ticket to see who’s thriving and who’s stuck in the past. I’ve been passively keeping tabs on that for 15 years via Facebook. The 'reveal' factor is completely gone.
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u/ELIte8niner Jul 12 '26
Yeah, class of 06, and we just flat out haven't had any.
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u/Gatorade_Nut_Punch Millennial Jul 12 '26
I graduated in 06. I went to the 10 year reunion, it was kind of interesting but I’m from a small town so everyone already knew what everyone was up to anyway. Haven’t heard anything about a 20 year reunion, maybe I didn’t get invited lol.
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u/Geno0wl Jul 12 '26
My class didn't even have a 20 year reunion. I even messaged people double checking and they also said there wasn't one.
Guess we picked a shitty class president
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u/katerineia Jul 13 '26
I wasn't even student counsel. But I knew a lot of people and got asked to help plan the 20th. I live out of state, i talk to one person from my class, gtfo here. I declined helping for numerous reasons. But ultimately because I have zero responsibility, care, or interest in traveling home to see people who were part of my life for barely 10% of my life.
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u/ClosetCrossfitter Jul 12 '26
Also ‘06 from a small town. The class president actually reached out to a smaller group in the spring to try to get something set up but we all just floundered for ideas and it seems like nothing’s happening. I do like to go, but I live states away, so I can’t hit n impromptu thing usually.
From what I saw from class of ‘05, it seems like at least two people / groups threw informal reunions. Was funny to watch different Facebook posts about them.
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u/kamasutures Jul 12 '26
There is a neglected Facebook group for my graduating class that would talk about the 20 year every couple months but I don't think anyone cares enough. I went to school in a far out suburb of DC (military, government workers etc) so I think everyone was just too transitory to put down roots like that.
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u/IFartOnCats4Fun Jul 12 '26
Class of ‘08. We had one. The only two people that showed up were the hosts.
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u/Strength-InThe-Loins Jul 13 '26
I love the idea of a HS reunion. I've also never used Facebook. I suppose these facts are related.
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u/dngrgates Jul 12 '26
I graduated in 2010, you can probably guess what happened to my ten year reunion haha
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u/AdhesivenessWeary377 Xennial Jul 12 '26
Same thing that happened for my 20th. 01 grad.
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u/progenyofeniac Jul 12 '26
Ha, saw your flair. I still haven’t admitted to myself that I’m a xennial but I graduated the same year.
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u/bumsydinosaur '92 Jul 12 '26
Yup, SEN10RS cancelled due to covid. It was a huge controversy on Facebook. 🙄
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u/meganmun0z Jul 12 '26
I graduated in 2011, I don’t think we had a reunion either
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u/superurgentcatbox Millennial '92 Jul 13 '26
Yeah I also graduated in 2011 and I'm pretty sure nothing happened. Or if it did, I didn't hear about it - which is fine, I wouldn't have gone anyway.
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u/zaeya4maya Jul 12 '26
Class of ‘07 here. I didn’t go to my first one, and I don’t really see the point in going to the next one. I was kind of a loner in HS for various reasons and I don’t want to relive it. Nothing against my class mates tho.
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u/Alarmed_Tea_2874 Millennial Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 13 '26
Class of '07 here, too. I was like you had a first one? But I guess we had a 10 year one too. The fact that it's been almost 20 years is inane. I feel like it was just a few years ago lol.
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u/Krunkenbrux Jul 12 '26
My 10th feels like it was 5 years ago. It was 14. That’s 24 years since graduating. That can’t be.
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u/Automatic_Zebra_1099 Jul 12 '26
I’m 07 and there was a 10 year one, my group of friends chose not to go and went to our local watering hole instead.
Cut to 11pm and most of the people who went to the reunion showed up at the watering hole.
Wasn’t ide but if I’m forced Into it there’s worse ways.
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u/ceilingkat Jul 12 '26
I like that you added in that last part. Comments bashing their whole graduating class are giving off that they were the problem.
I won’t be going to mine because I don’t care enough to catch up with anyone I’m not already in touch with. But my classmates were nice people for the most part.
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u/zaeya4maya Jul 12 '26
Yeah because that was so long ago. And I’m not perfect either so who am I to judge? Just wishing everyone the best from a distance.
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u/HaveYouEver21 Jul 12 '26
Agreed. Not planning on going to mine but I was also just a major introvert. That's not anyone else's fault but mine lol. Most people were cool.
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u/IssueEmbarrassed8103 Jul 12 '26
Facebook ruined the ability to bump into someone you haven’t seen in 10 years and genuinely want to know what they have been up to.
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u/PetFoodDude89 1900 and 89 Jul 12 '26
‘07 as well. We did a 5 year that I attended, it was silly. Skipped the 10 year which was sad since we had 2 of out of our 135 that had passed in between. Not sure if we are doing a 20 or not.
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u/DancingTVs Jul 12 '26
You didn’t miss anything. Loner here too and I was immediately sidelined at my reunion even though I had come out of my shell a LOT and discovered my inner extrovert ever since I went to college and subsequently got married. But yeah the reunion put me right back into my loner headspace and I felt very unwelcome and uncared about just like I did in high school. So. Yeah.
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u/CaiusRemus Jul 12 '26
I went to my ten year and it was so much fun. Maybe it was a small town thing? I didn’t like high school and I didn’t like everyone there, but I had friends and many friends by proximity who I would likely have never seen again otherwise.
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u/labtiger2 Jul 12 '26
Same! Our 20 year is in October, and I'm excited. I enjoyed seeing people I was friends with but haven't kept in touch with.
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u/TurnMeIn4ANewModel Jul 12 '26
Just had our 20 year. It was a blast. Saw a bunch of people that I had seen in years and a bunch of buddies I’m still really close with. Did a golf outing with some of the ones I’m still close with the day before. The whole thing was super fun.
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u/shadowstripes Jul 12 '26
Same here with my 20 year. There were plenty of people who I got along with in HS, but just never kept in touch with over the years so it was great to party and catch up with them over a weekend. A lot of people seemed to have gotten a lot friendlier since high school too (no surprise).
Seems like kind of a badge of honor for people to talk about how much they hated their classmates, but I'm glad to see that there's literally dozens of us who feel otherwise.
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u/SBGuy043 Jul 13 '26
Millennials: Social media is ruining socialization and third places!
Also Millennials: Social media tells me all I need to know about these people. What reason would I ever want to meet with them in person???
Fwiw my wife and I are high school sweethearts from the same year. Skipped the 10 year because we thought it would be a waste of time but decided to go to the 20 this year. Went with 0 expectations and it was way more fun than expected. Talked to a bunch of people we really never hung out with in high school but everyone was just genuinely interested to catch up and hear what people were up to. Wife took a shot to her ego when the super popular golf team guy asked her where she went to high school LOL.
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u/coopstow Jul 12 '26
I just organized and attended my 10 year and had a blast! About half the total class showed up and we had a great time catching up. Granted we went to a small high school but we all got along for the most part.
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u/DeepWaffleCA Jul 12 '26
My 10 year reunion was like 5 years of therapy in a few hours. The few close friends I'm still in contact with couldn't make it at the last minute, so I nearly skipped it. I had drinks with some of the old douchebag/bully crowd and it turns out they were good guys that were just going through shit. They'd grown a lot in those 10 years.
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u/frallet Jul 13 '26
Good for you to be able to see that. My class had like 23 people that all grew up together and the idea of seeing 1 of them was enough for me not to go see any of them
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u/BaldursFence3800 Jul 13 '26
Nice to see not everyone on Reddit are a bunch of introverted losers.
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u/stp-censoring-urself Jul 13 '26
yep such a fuckin weird mentality. I wasn't even all that liked but I've since lightened up and am genuinely interested where people are at in life.
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u/Round_Abal0ne Jul 12 '26
Yeah, I haven't seen nearly anybody from my high school since we graduated. Our first major one got killed by COVID. I am looking forward to it of we ever do one
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u/MostLikelyMakinPoopy Jul 12 '26
I went to my 20 and had a blast. Class of about 500 and maybe 50 showed. It was a mix of realizing some of the people I socialized most with actually suck, and also realizing how much I missed some others.
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u/LowerSuccotash8160 Jul 12 '26
I went to an urban high school with a huge student body. For some reason our ten year reunion was $150 a head and hosted at a golf course?? Only a couple of people bought tickets (out of a grad class of 700 or so) and I heard it got cancelled the week of. I remember a friend who stayed in the same city telling me about a bunch of them meeting at a bar instead. I live 900 miles away from there now, so nooo chance. I deleted facebook like seven or eight years ago and I think I’m set for life knowing I never have to see a lot of those people ever again.
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u/meganmun0z Jul 12 '26
I’m curious, are reunions more common at schools with smaller student bodies? It makes sense that they would be, I also went to a school with a huge student body, was one of 1000 grads in 2011 and I don’t think we had a reunion at all.
I still have some of the same friends from high school so I think I would have heard if one happened? I feel like all I remember from 2021 was figuring out COVID stuff and being worried that it would get bad again. I worked for a doctor so I didn’t get to stay home during lockdown. Working for a doctor during the pandemic gave me PTSD 😭
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u/LowerSuccotash8160 Jul 12 '26
I think you’re onto something. The logistics of tracking down and finding that many people a decade or more after would be brutal . I believe my reunion sent out facebook invites and my grad class had a facebook group but pretty much everyone I am still in contact with dumped facebook a long time ago.
Might also be a Gen X/Boomer thing? I’m a bartender and we’ve had a great deal of 40 year reunions with big turnouts in my current city.
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u/SuddenAvocado Jul 12 '26
I also went to HS in a large urban area, class had 500 grads, and our reunion is all classes every year at the school. The school organizes it and puts it on annually, the culinary program caters it and they get someone to do the linens. Our class prez sends out a reminder for the milestone ones, it would be insane to put that kind of planning on a student, even a grown up one.
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u/Maindort Xennial Jul 12 '26
Not once. I didn't care for most of them then and barely remember any of their names now.
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u/df540148 Jul 12 '26
There's like 4 people I GAF about from high school (one of which is my wife) and we see them every so often. Ain't no way I'm returning to high school for a reunion.
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u/datlankydude Jul 12 '26
I did. Had a great time. Was nice to see people.
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u/OblongSphere Jul 12 '26
Same. I wasn't the most popular, most people soften up with age. It was nice.
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u/karmagod13000 Jul 12 '26
I think it comes down to the type of class you had. Weirdly ours was very inclusive for 2006. We would have farm parties where the whole school would show up Nerds and all.
weirdly I had zero desire to hang out with the for a night. Hope they’re doing good though.
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u/-kayochan- Jul 12 '26
Nope. I skipped, bc Im not paying money to see people I see for free on social media. I already talk to and see the ones important to me anyways.
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u/nerdboy_sam Jul 12 '26
Haven't talked to most of them for nearly 20 years. Have no intention or interest to find out anything about them since then.
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u/mr-biggles Jul 12 '26
Went to my 10 year with a bunch of high school friends I still keep in touch with. We did bottomless mimosa brunch just before, and the reunion had an open bar, both of which certainly helped make it enjoyable.
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u/beepbeepsheepbot Jul 12 '26
Why would I go see people I don't like and a few made my life miserable making me the butt of the jokes? Hard pass.
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u/Ryan4233 Jul 12 '26
Why do I want to see a bunch of people that I don’t like.
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u/brogflender Jul 12 '26
And never chose to be around either. The state forced me to hang out with these weirdos and I’m sure the feeling is mutual toward me too.
Much prefer the people I found after.
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u/FINE_WiTH_It Jul 12 '26
I went. Loved it. Great to see everyone and catch up.
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u/Dawnzarelli Jul 12 '26
I’m no longer friends with any of them but I would have felt the same. One of my classmates asked my mom why I didn’t go to the 20th, and that they missed me. My mom asked me and I was all “uh, I wasn’t invited” 🤣 I would have totally gone and enjoyed it but it would be partial schadenfreude. Like they all shat our babies and lots of them super young and I’ve been leading a pretty interesting life.
I would definitely commend and enjoy hearing about their accomplishments and good things in general.
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u/FINE_WiTH_It Jul 12 '26
I would say about 1/3 of my class showed up. I actually think it was great to see people in person. We talked a lot about old times and just general life. It really wasn't any "look at me, look at what I have done" type of things.
It was actually really awesome and now a lot of us are talking about making it a thing more often.
Edit: Also, Facebook really doesn't give you a lot of details on how someone is actually doing; not like in person conversation does.
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u/LadyPaige Jul 12 '26
I was never even invited to my high school reunion. Good riddance to bad rubbish!
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u/InvictvsNox Millennial Jul 12 '26
Hell no
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u/Shar_12_Blaneyfan Jul 12 '26
It's been 25 years since I've graduated, so there should have been 2. I've never heard word of a reunion for either 10 year anniversary, or maybe they had them and just didn't invite me 😅
Either way, I don't care. I live out of state now, and I doubt I would have gone anyway.
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u/Radiocityrockette Jul 12 '26
I got bullied quite a lot, so my answer would be no. I’m not curious to them. Class of 2000 and never heard of a reunion, so not sure if there had been one.
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u/No_Interview2004 Jul 12 '26
Nope. Haven’t gone to one and it’s been over 20 years. This was peak Millennial mean girl bullshit so, see you in hell, bitches.
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u/PNWKiwi Millennial Jul 12 '26
I got invited through a Facebook group in 2015, but I didn't go. I have since deleted Facebook, so Idk if they had one last year or not.
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u/CancelThis2077 Jul 12 '26
I get reunite with them plenty in my dreams. I don't need to IRL.
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u/BlueRibbon998 Jul 12 '26
Nope. My 10 year reunion was in 2023 and I skipped without hesitation. I didn't like most of the people I graduated with and had no desire to see them again. Graduation day was one of the happiest days of my life. I have no desire to re-open high school memories outside of the few people I keep in touch with
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u/schwing710 Jul 12 '26
My high school didn’t even have a reunion. Most people who went to my school probably got the fuck out and never looked back.
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u/Accurate-Specific966 Jul 12 '26
If I haven’t spoken to you since high school I don’t care to anyway lol.
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u/High-Speed-1 Jul 12 '26
I wasn’t popular in school. No real enemies, just never felt like I fit into any group. I have run into a few people that I knew in HS. Most of them were struggling to make it in life.
I learned about 1-2 girls I liked that would have been interested in me. That would have been nice to know back then. No biggie though.
One girl showed up in the news like 10+ years ago for putting her infant in the trash can. A neighbor thankfully heard the crying and saved the baby and notified police. I use her as a clear indication that I could be doing a lot worse in life.
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u/b1ack1ight Millennial Jul 12 '26
No, I’ve kept up with old friends through Facebook. Closer friends stay in touch directly and we meet up every couple of years.
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u/TamalesHarvard Jul 12 '26
No, because the person who organized it set it for a couple of weeks before Christmas because it was most convenient for them without giving a fuck about anybody else's schedule who couldn't take off work and travel twice before the break.
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u/warrenjt 1989 Millennial Jul 12 '26
I talk to exactly two people from high school:
My wife.
The mutual friend who introduced me to my wife.
I have no interest in anyone else tbh.
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u/Jeffuary Jul 12 '26
I haven’t talked to anyone from high school since high school, and for good reason.
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u/Kennikend Millennial 85 Jul 12 '26
I went to one.
I neither loved nor hated high school. By the time I graduated though, I had a couple groups of friends that were top tier.
Still, I surprised myself by going to my 20th. Wouldn’t normally be my thing but a friend wanted to go and not go alone. I wound up having a blast and the after party was lit. Since then, about 20 of us got together the year after and we are planning another hang this year.
Low expectations served me well.
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u/Coastie_Cam Jul 12 '26
Nope and I have noooo idea where 90% of them are at in life and I don’t really care.
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u/Sea-Bicycle-4484 Jul 12 '26
I went to my 10 year. I was super fit and had a great job and the guy who bullied me in school tried to hit on me and I laughed in his face. I figure nothing can ever top that so I’m not going to any more.
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u/QueenAlpaca Jul 12 '26
Nah and I don’t even know if one was held. Too big of a school and I only knew like 3-4 people. Had it been at the tiny school I made most of my childhood friends at (K-12, most knew each other their whole school career) I’d been more likely to go. Moving so much was my biggest hate.
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u/chilldude9494 Millennial Jul 12 '26
My class couldn't even organize the first one, so I don't think they're in my future. Oh well, I see the classmates I want to see on the Facebooks.
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u/North_Artichoke_6721 Jul 12 '26
I didn’t go. I moved away so I wouldn’t even if they had them.
I keep in touch with 1-2 people I care about. I neither know nor care where the others live, what they do for work, if they’re married, etc.
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u/DieYoung_StayPretty 1981 Jul 12 '26
No. I didn't like them at school, so I didn't feel the need later.
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u/BadChilii Jul 12 '26
Fuck no, I hated all those losers then I don't see it changing now
The joys not peaking in high school is you can leave that bullshit in the past where it belongs
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u/Kuroude7 Xennial Jul 12 '26
Sorry high school was so shit for you.
Happy cake day though! 😅
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