What should I do? Pls help

[u/idk22446688]

I was seeing this guy for about two weeks, and we went on around four dates. I genuinely really liked him as a person. He was kind, caring, respectful, made me feel safe, and from everything he said and did, he seemed to want a serious relationship. I felt like we had a lot in common and that we could actually be compatible in a relationship.
The problem was that I didn’t really feel physically attracted to him. I wasn’t repulsed by him or anything, but the attraction just wasn’t there. On our fourth date, we kissed and things became more intimate, and we ended up going to his place. We didn’t have sex, but we did make out and there was some touching. And that same night, I told him that I thought we should stop seeing each other because I wasn’t feeling the romantic/sexual attraction I thought I should be feeling.
He was actually very respectful about it, which made me feel even worse because I really did like him as a person. We agreed to cut contact and leave things as they were.
It’s been about a week now, and I’ve been thinking about it a lot. I’m starting to wonder whether I made the decision too quickly. I keep thinking about how well we got along, how safe and comfortable I felt with him, and how he had so many of the qualities I’d want in a partner. I don’t suddenly feel physically attracted to him, but I do feel like we genuinely fit together as people, and I’m wondering whether attraction could possibly grow with time.
He’s also leaving soon for three months for work. I’m considering texting him and asking if he’d be willing to meet once before he leaves, just to talk in person. I don’t want to lead him on or make him think I’m suddenly asking to get back together, because I honestly don’t know what I want yet. I just feel like I may have closed the door too quickly and I don’t want to regret not giving it another chance to see how I feel.
Would it be unfair or confusing to contact him again after I was the one who ended things and we agreed to stop talking? Or is it reasonable to ask to meet once and have an honest conversation?

[u/comprobar]

it’s reasonable to reach out once and honestly say you’re unsure whether you ended things too quickly imo. but don’t promise anything or lead him on while you figure out whether attraction might grow

[u/Mammoth_Molasses_927]

Stop playing with him

[u/Suburban_Fox45]

The fact that he was wiling to let you go so easy, told you everything you needed to know. He is a high value man and is confident enough to know you are one of many. That in itself got your attention from him even more. Women normally test guys this way to gage their partners. He moved on, with pride, and that doesn't sit well with you. I'm not criticizing your actions, just letting you know this is how the psychology of attraction works. Women fall in love in the absence of the suitor, not when they are around. I think you should reach out but know he may have moved on already.

[u/Illustrious_Steak204]

You probably made the right call tbh. If the spark isnt there after making out, it usually doesnt just show up later. Plus, going back now would just be super confusing for him.