Date Gone Wrong - Not Sure How to Feel?

[u/GhostlySkeletons]

I met a woman on FB dating and we agreed to get mexican food.

I drove over, walked up, and she instantly took offense to my nose piercing. (They are in my profile pictures).

We were both hungry and I offered to still pay for dinner despite her distaste, but she noped out and said she was leaving.

I’m genuinely not sure how to feel. Admittedly, it did hurt my feelings slightly. On the other hand, I’ve also just learned not to care anymore.

Screenshots are of what she had to say after it happened.

I guess I’m just sharing this because I’d like to hear other opinion.

[u/PreparationWorth1242]

She needs mental help seriously. Personally I’ve never been into this type of aesthetic but I would never comment on someone clothing style and piercings like that, not to mention she already saw pictures and still went on a date. Idk what’s wrong with people nowadays

[u/Glum-Appointment-816 → u/PreparationWorth1242]

Right, she clearly doesn’t understand these are internal thoughts & not something to say to people which shouldnt be happening as an adult

[u/No-Albatross-7984 → u/Glum-Appointment-816]

Nah man. This is a test. 

As in, "will this person let me push them around and still crawl back" type of test.

[u/hutty442 → u/Glum-Appointment-816]

She perfectly understands that she shouldn't say this. She's trying to manipulate him

[u/abstr_xn → u/hutty442]

"God I would really like you if you were just different and changed to meet every expectation I have of you, honestly, you're like a child, I really like you and it upsets me that you have a personality, it would be so much more mature of you to change everything about yourself so I can fully like you for who you are"

[u/HippieGrandma1962 → u/abstr_xn]

Do we have the same ex?

[u/abstr_xn → u/HippieGrandma1962]

I would not doubt it.

[u/Nebula_Aware → u/abstr_xn]

Shes disgusting.

[u/Halo_cT → u/hutty442]

i hate to armchair but after reading a million stories in r/raisedbyborderlines this feels a lot like a much younger version of the way those people speak to others.

[u/SnooOwls2623 → u/Halo_cT]

I date a borderline, and that was the first thing that popped into my head.

[u/SharnyaTileiya → u/hutty442]

100% SHE IS!

[u/Consistent-Pop3129 → u/hutty442]

Into what?
She didn’t even take the free meal
She isn’t interested in doing anything with him

But it’s all a multi step plan to mold him into what she wants. She has time for that?

This is rhetorical, I don’t have time for you doubling down to try to make that statement make sense

[u/Penceylepansy → u/Glum-Appointment-816]

Oh, but she can't help that she's so blunt. /s

[u/SeaworthinessOne1752 → u/Glum-Appointment-816]

Yea sounds very juvenile to me

[u/Complete-Ice9013 → u/PreparationWorth1242]

Exactly.. I’m confused on why she felt as if her opinion means so much to go in on YOUR choice of attire and jewelry. Feel absolutely NO WAY ABOUT IT bc it literally doesn’t matter. If you look in the mirror and love what you see not one other person’s opinion matters.
*Do they pay your bills
*Does their opinion mean life or death
I’m assuming the answer is NO to both!!!
Don’t even entertain conversations like that seriously. I agree with a previous comment where she was hoping you’d offer to change for her 🙄 her reaction sounds childish and gives about a 17 maybe 16yo behavior 🤷‍♀️

[u/Consistent-Pop3129 → u/Complete-Ice9013]

Because they interacted on a date
He’s here talking about it in open forum after the fact

We have receipts here
This seems pretty straight forward Ipso-facto

[u/Purple807 → u/PreparationWorth1242]

She needs an etiquette class.

[u/Kamir12628 → u/PreparationWorth1242]

I chalked it up to the bitch being lame & “trying” to tear someone else down