r/texts • u/GhostlySkeletons • 18h ago

Facebook DMs Date Gone Wrong - Not Sure How to Feel?

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I met a woman on FB dating and we agreed to get mexican food.

I drove over, walked up, and she instantly took offense to my nose piercing. (They are in my profile pictures).

We were both hungry and I offered to still pay for dinner despite her distaste, but she noped out and said she was leaving.

I’m genuinely not sure how to feel. Admittedly, it did hurt my feelings slightly. On the other hand, I’ve also just learned not to care anymore.

Screenshots are of what she had to say after it happened.

I guess I’m just sharing this because I’d like to hear other opinion.

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u/Frequent_Zucchini205 18h ago

dude please respect yourself a bit more, a person shitting on your appearance like this is not "making fair points" this is an unacceptable thing to say to someone. if someone talks to you like this just block, and dont make them feel as if that behavior is okay

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u/Altered_B34ST_79 17h ago

This comment needs to be way higher. She knew what OP looked like from the very beginning. Kudos to OP for not going nuclear. Backhanded compliments are not compliments. Never apologize to someone who is degrading your looks.

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u/maam_thisisastaples 16h ago

I agree. She was being awful to OP, and I hope OP didn’t take any of it to heart. It is okay not to like someone’s looks, but it is not okay to give them sh-t for it. Those were not fair points; they were rude and excessive. She could have just said OP wasn’t her type and she didn’t want another date and moved on.

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u/BoucletteFZ09 17h ago

Exactly this. OP said the nose ring was shown on the profile pictures. As soon as she would have taken offence of that or make a comment in person I would have left, not offer to pay for her meal wtf. Why would you want to be with someone who does not like you?! Baffles me everytime.

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u/MxMarz 13h ago

Agreed. Her comments are unacceptable and out of line. I don’t see any fair points made. OP you deserve better than this.

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u/mytranceformation 11h ago

Exactly. Come on dude, know your worth and stop being a door mat. Don't apologize or say she makes fair points. You have a nose piercing, big deal.

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u/parksa 9h ago

Fr that made me sad. He should have replied 'at least I don't act like I'm 16' and left it at that.

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u/Mundane_Cry_7897 9h ago

Hmm I read it as him trolling her by giving the "customer service" line

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u/pegasus02 7h ago

This this this!!! These are not fair points. This is someone picking you apart and trying to tear you down. And it worked because it did hurt, which isn't fair to you.

You did nothing wrong, you are just being yourself and you are enough.

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u/PatientIll4890 5h ago

Yeah exactly. OP needs to learn to not be a pushover. If I’m OP in this situation I’m definitely going to hit her with some kind of zinger, and it will be worse than whatever was said to me. I’m not a rude person but if you’re going to be rude to me, the gloves come off.

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u/hannahbanana9898 8h ago

This. She was doing the most by saying all that to you. All she had to say was “I’m sorry but i don’t see us working out”, end of convo. She was being mean.