I think fitness is one of those areas where it's surprisingly easy to spend more time worrying about progress than actually enjoying the process.

There's always someone lifting heavier, looking stronger, or following a completely different training program.

Even when you're improving, comparing yourself to other people can make your own progress feel insignificant.

I've been wondering what helps people stop treating every workout like a test they need to pass.

Training in a home gym might remove some of the social pressure, but it doesn't automatically stop you from comparing numbers or questioning your results.

For people who used to overthink their fitness progress, what helped you change that mindset?

Did you stop tracking certain things, focus on different goals, or simply become more comfortable with progressing at your own pace?

I'm interested in what actually made the biggest difference.

I work at a tech company and get paid well. If they fire me it will be hard to find a job that pays me as much. I am doing my job ok-ishly. I don't think that I am naturally as talented as some of the people I work with, but I am doing ok, and my manager promised me he will tell me if there's something I need to improve or get better at (and he hasn't done so, so I guess I am fine).

But this experience is insanely unenjoyable. I always feel like I don't work well enough. That I don't know things that I should know, and that I don't finish projects fast enough. It makes me constantly anxious and angry at myself. Sometimes I forget to do something and I am really hard with myself, but I should stop giving a fuck. I am doing my job well enough and those fuckers would never feel slightly bad firing me if they had to.

I just don't know how to not give a fuck.