r/dating_advice • u/Mental-Card-5267 • 13h ago
Girl I've been dating introduced me as her boyfriend at a car dealership after four dates
I (28M) have been seeing this girl (27F) for about a month. We've been on four dates and things have been going pretty well.
She asked if I'd come with her to look at a used Mazda because she wanted a second opinion. I know a decent amount about cars so I figured why not.
When the salesman came over, she immediately introduced me as her boyfriend and told him I knew more about cars than she did. We haven't even talked about being exclusive yet.
The guy spent almost the entire time talking to me instead of her. After we left I asked why she called me her boyfriend and she said the last two dealerships she'd visited treated her like an idiot, so she figured bringing a guy would help.
I understand her reasoning but I felt a bit used. She could've just told me beforehand instead of putting me in that position.
She thinks I'm making a big deal out of nothing and said I should take it as a compliment that she wanted me there.
Would this bother anyone else or am I reading too much into it?
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u/Clio_Vita 13h ago
You're over thinking this...
I've had women I'm unrelated to call me boyfriend, brother, husband, father, fiance, and/or grandfather to get out of socially difficult situations. You've got to learn to roll with the social clues, and take it as the compliment that it is......that they trust you enough to do the right thing and back their play. And you DID, until afterwards when you blew up her trust by questioning it.
What you are supposed to do afterwards is smile and say, "Boyfriend... That sounds pretty nice. Let's work on that." And then shut up and let her take the lead.