r/amiuglytruth • u/bigdawgvt • 14h ago
big gorl here (25f)
i carry a lot of my weight in my belly (well, everywhere but the belly is the most noticeable) my double chin sticks out and it does bother me a lot. recently lost 20lbs- shoutout to my gallbladder girlies- but now i’m really struggling to lose weight.
am i pretty? like, besides that? lmk tysm
edit- 25f, 260lbs 5’3….
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u/Tonyoni 12h ago
You’re not fat because you’re ugly, you’re ugly because you’re fat.
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u/Grey-beard-177 13h ago
You’re not ugly, but you know that you’re to heavy, unhealthily so. Losing weight, properly taking it off so it stays off, takes time, dedication, consistency and a certain amount of sacrifice. If you really want it, then you will push yourself to get there. Good luck.
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u/Bihan-Jay 13h ago
You look good af but I’m black so take that with a grain of salt🤷🏾♂️
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u/Silver_Dynamo 11h ago
Black man with fat white women is a match made in heaven
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u/Exotic-Influence8521 11h ago
Usually since homeboy is desperate for a place to live & homegirl is desperate for attention.
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u/alpo_aritista 11h ago
Catching my breath from working out to then... reading this comment🤣🫠 Killing me here😭🤣🤣🤣
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u/EffortSubstantial321 13h ago
I had a really bad double chin and I got liposuction there and it increased my confidence so much. It’s kind of an investment but it’s so worth it if it is something that bothers you a lot. If you want to see what it looks like now you can check my post on this sub. I also lost 70 pounds which helped too and can really make a difference with the weight in your face. You have pretty eyes so highlighting that with eye makeup would make them pop more. Contouring your cheeks would also help. You’re definitely not ugly thought. It’s just all about using your best features to your advantage. You would probably look good in navy blue and emerald green too
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u/superpooper900 13h ago
At 5’3” you should weight around 130. You need to lose approximately one half of yourself.
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u/BerrysNCreme 11h ago
As a man im 5"11 and im supposed to weigh like 185. Last time I weighed that i looked awful. You can weigh more than the ww2 bmi standard.
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u/Doubler2324_ 11h ago
Yeah, but that weight should include muscle mass. The appropriate way to make a universal standard would be to use body fat percentage. Men should be under 25% at the most, and women should be under 30%.
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u/BerrysNCreme 10h ago
That i can agree to, but just using that chart is ridiculous. I currently weigh 240lbs. But sit around 18% BF. Any smaller or lighter just doesn't fill my frame or have me look or feel right. Ans everybody is different in that regard to weight and how it's carried
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u/Friendly_Option_6963 12h ago
I’m 5’3’’ and if I weighed 130lbs I’d look like I was on deaths door ☠️
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u/Top_Living_2393 13h ago
Omgg that makeup in the first pic really complimented you and the outfit, amazing job! You're gorgeous ❤️
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u/Anusspelunking 13h ago
Cute face…
You need to get your ass to the gym. 5 day split.. you’ll thank me later
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u/bigdawgvt 13h ago
i’m new to the gym, what is a ‘split’ i’d really appreciate your advice
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u/Anusspelunking 12h ago
Well.. I workout Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. Rest on Thursday, workout Friday , Saturday then off Sunday. Just gotta figure out which two days you need off. I do back,bicep,tricep,shoulder,traps on Monday and Thursday.. legs on Tuesday and Saturday. Cardio everyday but extra on Friday.
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u/bigdawgvt 12h ago
thank you big dog, i appreciate your advice!!
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u/Anusspelunking 12h ago
I’d advise using the stair stepper on level 1 and gradually increase by 1 every month or so. 15 mins to start and up that every so often by 5 mins. You’ll be fit asfuq ;)
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u/bigdawgvt 13h ago
to be clear; i love every comment. societally we have to start being realistic with eachother, and i appreciate the input ive recieved. if anyone has fitness advice drop it for me!! this year i gotten over myself and i want to do better.
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u/Fisheater_Snatches 13h ago
Back in August 2023, I lost 20 pounds. Every day, I would write the calorie intake from every drink and everything I ate, as well as stuck to the food size written on the box. I also quit drinking soda during this time. I primarily drank juice. As far as exercise went, I focused on push ups and sit ups since I was broke and this was free.
Learn some discipline and stick to it. It won't be easy.
With that said, you seem to have a great attitude and I wish you the best of luck.
Edit: When I was documenting the calories, there were some days I only took in about 1600 calories. It did suck, but it worked. And, spelling/grammar mistakes.
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u/C-B-III 13h ago
I lost 60 lbs in 2 months doing a combination of strict calorie counting to keep on a defecit leaning into protien to help curb hunger and meet the calorie goal and daily exercise. The diet was for losing weight, and the excercise was for keeping muscle and staving off appetite. But you have to want it pretty bad, otherwise it is way too easy to fall off. I wanted it bad. There was a girl encouraging me. Once id developed the habits, it was easier to maintain.
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u/No_Rope7342 10h ago
I don’t have much to say about the multitude of methods to stay in shape.
What I will say coming from a very unhealthy family is that there are A LOT of people who would be insignificantly better shape cutting out soda alone. The amount of family members I have who drink anywhere from 500-1000 calories daily from soda alone is astounding.
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u/rolorelei 7h ago
You totally got this girl. I don’t have weight loss advice, just want to show support 🫶
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u/AnimalHuge9790 12h ago
don't starve yourself to lose fat, you can eat whole foods until you are full and still lose fat
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u/Tie1122 11h ago
It’s basic math. Take in less calories than you use per day. It’s okay to be hungry sometimes. Only eat single ingredient food. It’s okay to season your food. Drink water. You will be surprised how much weight is in just the water you are carrying.
Eat less. Screw the gym. Eat less, walk a little.
When you hit a target weight, then start a fitness routine.
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u/AcezHigh561 11h ago
Honestly I was big too, I’m 5’7 I was 220lbs what I noticed was a big change for me was eating habits like snacks and soda once I cut back on them things started to change along with daily walks and when I was home I did little things like sit ups a few pushups jump rope ect nothing to crazy to get over worked. It’s been 3 months and I’m at 185. Determination and will power will be the biggest challenge but you got this just believe in yourself. We create our own journey make yours great.
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u/dryan19234 10h ago
My best advice for fitness (33m who has been working out 5-6 days a week since 17) - fitness/health is a marathon, not a sprint. When you first get into the gym, build SUSTAINABLE habits. A work out that you go balls to the wall and end up sore for a week and can’t really perform < 5 days of moderate, consistent work.
For your diet - once again, sustainable habits. Too many people go “cold turkey” or just completely warp everything and take on a massive calorie deficit that ends with binge eating. Figure out your macro needs (here is an example: https://www.calculator.net/macro-calculator.html). Note here: fill out your information for how you will be living (i.e - if you don’t workout now but will be doing 3 days a week, select the option that aligns with the 3 days a week, not what you’re doing right now). I’d consider leveraging AI and giving copious amount of personal details to really drill down on your maintenance calories per day. Once you find your maintenance calories per day, I like to divide that number by 7 and that’s what I reduce my maintenance calories by. (I.e - my maintenance calories are 2000. 2000/7= ~285. 2000-285= 1,715 calories per day). This generally equates to losing about 1-2lbs per week, which is not the immediate results you want, but is sustainable deficit that you will be able to stick to.
Commit to this for yourself because you have one life to live and you should treat your body with the respect it deserves. Go have fun though too, a single night out with your friends is not going to destroy your progress, but don’t make the single night the new habit either. I hope you jump into this and post back with future results. I always love to see people doing it for nothing other than themselves.
Remember: day-to-day you will look in mirror and think that nothing changed, but month-to-month you will look back and see if clearly. Year-to-year you won’t even recognize the original person.
Give em hell.
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u/excitinghelix29 9h ago
If you’re serious about losing weight, you have to count calories. I recommend taking 2 weeks and tracking calories for everything you eat and drink to the best of your ability. Tracking your weight over those two weeks. Then, start reducing your calorie intake. Physical activity is a huge boost as well. You should be getting 8-12000 steps a day minimum. Getting in the gym will help a lot more. It helps boost your metabolism and will also burn calories. Big compound movements, squats, leg press, deadlifts, Romanian deadlifts, pull downs, bench press.
Source: lost 70 pounds in 9 months
Be patient. You didn’t put the weight on in a couple months, it was years of abusing your body. It’s going to be years of care to get it healthy again.
Do it now while you are still relatively young and your skin should tighten.
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u/SAINTnumberFIVE 13h ago
You’re not ugly at all but do your future self a favor. Sunscreen! Wear sunscreen. Not just on your face, but also on your neck and chest when exposed. You already have some sun damage but it’s not too late to prevent more.
European sunscreens are generally superior to American sunscreens if you can get them. If you’re in the US, you may not be able to. But as far as sunscreen, you can get in the US, Coppertone Sport in at least SPF 50 is good as far as protection, feel, and ease of application goes.
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u/SentinelATL 13h ago
Drink more water and eat in a caloric deficit. You should be burning way more calories than you consume
This weight isn’t healthy. Under all that fat you’re not a ugly girl
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u/Important_Capital875 13h ago
Figure out how many calories it takes for you to maintain your weight. Subtract 300 from that number and eat that many calories every day. Figure out your Leann body Wait using a calculator online, eat that many grams of protein per day. Work out with weights 3 to 4 times a week to 15 to 20 minutes of cardio after your workouts. You can do simply walking on a treadmill with an incline. Do not do low-carb do not do super low-calorie that will cause you to lose a bunch of weight at first, majority of it will be water weight and then you will plateau and stop losing weight.
Take your time
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u/bigdawgvt 13h ago
ACTUAL ADVICE THANK YOU ICON
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u/yipyears 12h ago
Additionally, go for a 15+ minute walk after a main meal (also works with short weight training, light cardio, etc.), as this will aid in dispersing all those nutrients & proteins to those specific muscle groups, as well as keeping you feeling fuller longer, afterward (and also aids in digestion). Learned this recently & it has been a game changer.
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u/presterjohn7171 12h ago
You have a pretty face. The gap tooth will appeal to a lot of people but not everyone. The belly is an issue I'm afraid. Men generally are okay with weight if it's spread out but less so if it's largely around the belly. Annoyingly even if you lose loads of weight you will need surgery for the apron that weight loss will leave you with. Basically you need to lose weight but do it slowly and stay biggish unless you can afford to fix the issues of extreme weight loss. Having said all that if you are body confident and filthy men will come floking regardless.
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u/donniesrtlarge 13h ago
No.. you could do much to improve yourself if you wanted.. but youre not ugly
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u/Wise-Moment-9150 13h ago
You look like you haven't 😴 slept in days.I will give you a 5,get some sleep.😒
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u/bigdawgvt 12h ago
i sleep good, i think i need more water daily and to drop weight.
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u/hotpoprocks 13h ago
Cute face,nice smile and I personally love the tooth gap. Last pic is the cutest
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u/coffee_tea_sympathy 13h ago edited 13h ago
I think some volume for your hair would take it to the next level. Some bangs or something textured for your hair. Or grow it and have it be long and bouncy. Accentuating your best features are important. If you have a nice booty or if you can make cleavage happen...it's a reason why guys like big gorls.
I am proud to exist in a bigger body. I think we do have to work harder to be presentable or else it looks sloppy. So hair and lip gloss at a bare minimum. Throw away any stained clothes. If you have the $ get tailored clothes to create a nice silhouette. Definitely splurge on it if you have a wedding or something to agirls. Cover your crotch/pound of sugar (a large mons draws attention) and try to stay away from leggings and oversized shirts...you'll look like a triangle/flamingo.
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u/Flat_Opportunity_284 13h ago
Please don’t lose the gap it is so cute and adds so much personality. You are beautiful!
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u/SoggyGround6420 13h ago
I think youre so cute and pretty, but as long as you feel good in your skin its all that matters. Be comfortsble in yourself :).
Theres plenty of movements that arent mindnumbing, dancing is fun, skating, climbing etcetcetc
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u/Moodisholiday333 12h ago
Very pretty face. I encourage you to loose weight - I lost 100 lbs this past year myself and I feel a trillion times better. Diet and lifestyle all the way! You can do it.
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u/Floresmillia 12h ago
You're pretty. Or cute. Or somewhere between the two 😉
I think your style is fine. The extra weight could probably be dropped a bit in a healthy way. Just remember that even skeletons are too thick for some people. Being a bigger girl doesn't make you less attractive - it just means that you might be fewer peoples type.
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u/Dom-Gand 12h ago
Good luck on the continued weight loss journey. You look good. Keep doing you
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u/Dazzling_Ad4769 12h ago
Yeah the weight and teeth for sure, maybe try looking into some reputable fitness content it can help a lot, always like seeing larger people at the gym too and seeing them progress it’s very inspiring and to see how how happy they are after
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u/alpo_aritista 11h ago
You're young. How'd you get here... 260lb? I mean, I have a pretty good idea: 70 years of Federal food guidelines. Currently what's been your breakfast? You could have a full turnaround 2-3 years... without the dangers of ozempic. You have green eyes. Green eyes are an unfair advantage for me. love them.
Edit.... gray? What color are they?
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u/Adventurous_Tailor14 11h ago
Try HIIT workouts. Stay away from sugar, unless it's fruit, but limit that. Just get into a caloric deficit and let your body get used to that. Obviously don't starve yourself. Eat healthy. You actually need more protein when losing weight than when gaining it, so stick to simple stuff like a protein (chicken, beef, fish) and a salad of your choice. Don't go for artificial dressings. Just add a little olive oil and lemon juice. Eggs are super healthy so stick to 2 of those in the morning with maybe some avocado toast (stay away from white bread). You should see results as long as you're not eating garbage and doing cardio (either running or biking). And keep up with the squats for a nice butt haha
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u/DetroitUberDriver 10h ago
I would not necessarily say ugly, no, but you should definitely loose weight. And holy god wirh the makeup in the first picture. Huge no on that
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u/StylistLinzz 10h ago edited 10h ago
If you're ok with your teeth & confident in your attractiveness, leave them alone. If you want to be more "attractive," elevate your look by correcting this. To max your looks, you need to be devoted to self improvement & your HEALTH. You need about 120lbs off but See a doctor for this much weight loss.
A person who weighs 260 pounds at 5 feet 3 has a BMI of 46.05.
BMI Classification
• Category: Class III Obesity (Morbid Obesity) • Standard BMI Ranges: • Underweight: Below 18.5 • Healthy Weight: 18.5 to 24.9 • Overweight: 25.0 to 29.9 • Obesity (Class I): 30.0 to 34.9 • Obesity (Class II): 35.0 to 39.9 • Obesity (Class III / Severe or Morbid Obesity): 40.0 or greater
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u/cade1969 9h ago
Once you lose the weight and perform specialize neck and facial exercises you will look hot. You have to commit to at least a year's worth of working out and changing your diet
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u/Ok_Mix826 7h ago
You look like the average person walking around in some random small town in the south.
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u/Pinchepicante 5h ago
You've got potential. Some gym work, walking, and good diet will get you where you'd like to be. Do not starve yourself or use GLP's. But then again, stay away from junk. Pure consistency and commitment is where its at.
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u/Future_Avocado_8415 13h ago
Look fine, 25 is young, set small goals, chin up and smile.
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u/Uniqueusername610 13h ago
You didn't have to announce it we all have eyes. Once you drop another 60lbs+ you will be attractive
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u/Bubbly-Ad-4405 13h ago
You need to lose half your body weight. It’s like you wrapped an entire extra person around a fit woman. We can’t really tell what you’d look like if you lost weight. The only thing we can tell is that you’re very large.
Only other major glaring issues you should fix, gap, and forehead bangs
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u/RACERXZ1000 13h ago
Not too bad expect for that darn body fat! Cut your sugar and processed carbs intake to zero! Keep natural carbs down to 50 grams a day! Good luck!
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u/Donkey_vagina 13h ago
I, personally, like a tooth gap in the front. I think it's cute. Cute face too.
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u/Bowhunter8490 13h ago
You are actually quite pretty. But the fact that you are morbidly obese will turn potential suitors off. Your health problems within 10 years will rob you of the ability to be a suitable mate or even a suitable date. No one wants to partner with a person who is a medical emergency in the making and about to happen. Look up a nutrition expert that will assist you in losing weight in a healthy manner. Then, after losing at least half of the 100 plus extra pounds you are still carrying, you will likely be approached by someone wishing to get to know you.
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u/Skeggjathr 13h ago
Hello there miss, you have a pretty face. You have potential to be more. Work on yourself a bit. Not ugly
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u/Braddadio 13h ago
Yeah. Pretty for sure. And I love the eye shadow in the first one it looks so good
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u/Narrow-Cook4841 13h ago
I see a lot of potential. Yes the elephant in the room is the weight so we do need to try to get a gym routine and possibly a diet routine. Maybe look into getting an Invisalign to correct that gap in the front teeth. I think you could completely have a glow up if you put the right people in your life you put the right stuff in your body and you started to love yourself.
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u/Available_Surround12 13h ago
you mean diet and possibly gym routine. you do not lose weight without a caloric deficit
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u/Ok_Cricket_1410 13h ago
You're still pretty cute even though you are fat. I am fat too, 300lb, 6ft, male so I say this from someone who knows. Switch to water or diet soda, eat at a deficit and you'll look stellar. I was 400 at my most, 185 at my lowest.
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u/Familiar-You7482 12h ago
Shoot you are just my type lol don’t fool yourself going down that I’m ugly n fat rabbit hole stay the way you are gorgeous I’d damn near fly u out myself 👌
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u/Affectionate-Loss659 12h ago
I'm used to destroy the attention seekers. In this case as other responses i think is just a weight thing cos you're pretty cute with beautiful eyes just take care of yourself if you really want it to
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u/Connect_Avocado_4504 12h ago
Not flat out ugly. You know already though what life holds for you and your current size, you can get men but they’re gonna predominately use and highly develop your mouth skills which isn’t bad. Oh…. And I think you probably have great breast
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u/LowerAdvisor2393 11h ago
I think you are really pretty and I love the eyeshadow in the first pic. I am also struggling to lose weight
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u/AButtChew 11h ago
Ignoring weight, you are pretty. To some, being overweight makes you not pretty no matter what. I definitely think someone can be large and pretty. I also think you can find someone pretty/handsome and not be sexually attracted to them. Boat and floating and all that.
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u/Ok_Letterhead_4547 11h ago
You’re not necessarily my type but there are a lot of men who would move the earth for you
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u/radical-2020 11h ago
5/10 if you lose some weight and stay in a diet and exercise routine you could look your best by 27
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u/Lanky-Notice-1388 11h ago
I wouldnt call you ugly... but youre certainly not attractive. You are obese and unhealthy. You have a good facial structure but it is also affected by your obesity.
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u/Braindead_Crow 11h ago
Beautiful, just fat. You're going to feel like you're living in a brand new world when you evict enough of that dead weight.
But yeah, firmly very attractive (just need to keep up good habits)
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u/PsycoholicsAnonymous 11h ago
Yes, you are a cutie bootie!!
I'm glad you realize your areas to focus.
The weight is hard to lose, but once you get if off, you'll feel so much better.
Your body will also thank you.
Keep on keeping on and stay strong!!!
Weight train as well, fastest way for women to lose weight.
Even asleep, bigger muscles burn fat!
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u/CatrinaBallerina 10h ago
You’re honestly very pretty. Keep working at your weight, if for nothing else your health. I’ve been a size 00, and I’ve been a size 16, and everything in between, you can always change your body, but not everyone is born pretty 😅
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u/phoenixscar 10h ago
Lose weight and your pic 4 will transform into Margaery Tyrell / Natalie Dormer.
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u/data-data- 10h ago
You are not ugly and have the potential to be very attractive if you loss the weight
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u/RedGyarados1988 10h ago
Same person by the way half your weight. You are not ugly and have so much potential
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u/Top-Pear2824 9h ago
You’re very pretty. Give yourself the chance you deserve and take better care of yourself!
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u/IntelligentFall7352 9h ago
Congrats on the weight loss! If you wanna keep it going, eat at a calorie deficit. It’s hard to begin with, I know I always felt hungry. But now I do one meal a day and that really helped me regulate my system
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u/maybe_isRosie 9h ago
ure pretty girl if you get skinny you'll be gorgeous imo but honestly? you're more than good atp, I don't think u're ugly being fat bc u have a pretty face, but for your health you should keep going with ur process of loosing weight
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u/Hefty_Face_9675 7h ago
I think you are very pretty, above average face & i love the gap. But you would be more attractive at a healthier weight.
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u/Dazzling-Tap9096 7h ago
i'm really curious what comments you want us to make , that you don't already know.
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u/Hikary21 6h ago
You have a pretty face, the weight is something you can change and control, keep it up!
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u/spencersly420 5h ago
the best trick I like to give out that really kickstarted my own weight loss: take fiber, follow the blood sugar control/diabetes regimen. I call it “nature’s Ozempic.”
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u/good-headphones 5h ago
I am a 50 year old male. About 3 years ago I was 300 pounds. I just had my first grandchild and I was not doing well health wise. So I cut out all soda and sugary snacks. I cut out carbs and tried to eat only chicken and turkey. I lost 60 pounds in about 7 months. I then had the attitude. Well if I eat this it’s fine. I am still down weight. Well I went back up to 280. So I started about 6 months ago wegovy. I am not down to 245. It’s not cheap. I paid like 149 for a 30 day supply of 4mg pills.
The doctor told me that there are really no side effects. That it helps the liver and since I am drinking more water it helps the kidneys as well. Now it’s about 249 for the 9 mg pills. I have to get those next. I am hoping it helps me get down to about 220. Try checking with insurance and see if they cover it. If not I used goodrx. You can download the app. Walgreens uses it.
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u/FallenGiants 1h ago
People can say every pot has its lid, but that lid might be crap. To me that's unambitious. If you get in the best shape imaginable you might have your choice between 3 or 5 high quality lids.
Don't be one of those people who expects everything to fall in place. Those people end up losing in life. Go out there and make things happen. Life is harsh and rarely provides gifts. You have to provide them yourself.
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u/jojojet36 13h ago
It’s literally just a weight thing