Quagmire here, this is a depth marker showing how deep you fist. It is also an internet rumor, as this is not a real (or normal) thing within the LGBTQ community. They're saying "Run otherwise you're getting ass fisted [this] deep." Giggity
I always wondered. Do they get updates? Like is there a dude who started off small, but now his arm's black from how many times he's gone further into the abyss?
it is not simply about the strength of the arm that you stick into the pringles can into as much of the size and level of relaxation and skills of the pringles can itself
I'm sure, because every time it's just a double line tattoo. Wouldn't it make more sense to have thinner lines, and more than two? "I've only done it twice and am no longer interested in topping my best score."
Except that's not true at all. It's one of those facts people just like to repeat, like gun staying in your digestive tract for 7 years. It's fun to think you know something other people don't and it's fun to shit on people with tattoos you think are cringey, so people love to parrot it and have a little chuckle to themselves, which is its own kind of cringe.
They're originally Edo period Japanese criminal tattoos. Where they are and what they are mean different crimes. That's part of why Japan has such a negative view on tattoos.
I feel like if anyone should get a tattoo of the moment it should be the fistee not the fister. I have no idea what they could get and where but still it seems like the guy with the tattoo did not do the hard work in that situation.
A fistee seems less likely to substantially change their distance too, so a permanent tattoo would stay representative. A fister just needs to find a new person and their record could change far more easily, but then they've an outdated permanent tattoo of their old record to deal with.
People are weird about kink. Most of the guys I met through kink are much better about consent than most vanilla guys I've met. Might be projection from the vanilla guys tbh
I've had similar impressions. Awareness of dangers, and willingness to check that the other person is consenting before engaging has always been a basic courtesy in my experience.
In fact, sharing what they want, and how far they are comfortable going is for some a big part of what turns them on.
That makes perfect sense. Kink folks have spent some time thinking and talking about sexuality. They've tried different things with partners who've asked them to. They've experimented. The conversations surrounding sex are natural for them. Your average vanilla guy has a high probability of repressed trauma or religious guilt bred into them. (at least in the US)
Outside the US, I'd say it's less repressed trauma and more the fact that they want sex, they'll brag about it, joke about it, but talking about it seriously is just not the done thing, as though it would suggest they don't know what they're doing, which they find insulting. That's why they don't like discourse around consent, it suggests that not every woman they show their dick to is desperate to ride it.
As an SA survivor I feel much safer in kink spaces where knowledge and respect of consent is spoken about upfront and often. Vanilla people can act like it's a given but then may not even be aware when they're doing something that's making themselves or their partner uncomfortable.
Twinsies! No kink person has ever done anything without communicating it well to me. And the noncon stuff I've had happen, even when less violent, was less scary than pretty extreme well-discussed kink stuff
I think you're onto something with "might be projection" angle. Not a thing you can do without consent and patience, rules #1 and #2 on the "How to have good sex, simplified" list.
Reminds me about a story that was done on a concert venue operator. They said that the best crowds were always the ones for the death metal bands. Always the most polite, made sure everyone in the mosh pits were safe, they drank responsibly, and left the venue relatively clean. The worst were the indie rock and ska bands who trashed the bathrooms, threw drinks, got in fights, and tossed their trash on the ground around a trash can.
Yes! That's part of why I love kink and kinky people. Consent is at the forefront of kink. I've found that vanilla people can be more squeamish about having those conversations, often taking it as an accusation that they would be the kind of person to violate someone's consent. But that can happen on accident through carelessness and not being in touch with how your partner is doing. There's also more of an understanding that sometimes sex needs to stop but it's nothing personal and it doesn't mean that you have to be done for the night
I remember as an undergraduate, I conducted a dramatic reading of Ann Rice's "Erotic Adventures of Sleeping Beauty" while two couples mimed the action of the book. Beauty had a scene with a male character where consent was dubious at best. (Big thematic twist was that it was his consent that was dubious.)
Everyone was fine.
But it ended with Beauty saying her wish was to serve, not be served.
And it was that, not the dubious consent, and not the flat out assault that was found elsewhere in those books, that freaked people out. Consensual preference to be in a subordinate place was too much. Forcing someone into that spot was fine, though.
It takes a lot of trust and patience in order to relax enough. So yes the recipient needs to be on board, but in my experience the giver also needs to help create that bond or leap of faith to be so vulnerable.
I know some lesbians who are really into fisting and write poetry about it and somehow make it sound romantic??? Like it’s the ultimate trust and connection with their partner
I’ve had my whole fist in a vagina before but it was to perform a medical procedure (which I’m trained and licensed to do)
Excuse me, but the drug was meth and a million turbo jaws would like a word
well… quite a bit less these days because people die okay but you know how it is where do you guys keep your jewelry and also is your breaker box out back or maybe the garage how dare you this is my dog but you know what you can have it for $20
Start looking for them. You will start seeing them everywhere. Like when your wife gets pregnant and suddenly it seems like everyone is fucking pregnant.
I have them to remember a few deceased friends.
Been yelled at by vets that it’s appropriating their service culture?
And some people with dementia like to ask me to take them off.
I have never seen someone who actually fists have the tattoos 🤔 maybe I’m too mainstream
I could be wrong but these sorts of band tattoos were used on prisoners in Japan(?). The red could imply their crime was more violent, but I’m spitballing here.
It is from my understanding the large elaborate tattoos associated with yakuza came about to cover up these criminal tattoos and effectively wipe away the evidence they committed a crime
Well around the time, which was the edo period that's more or less when the practice became commonplace, tattoos didn’t have the same negative connotation. In fact people whose job required working in heat or fire a lot, like smiths or firefighters, a full body tattoo was seen as basically clothing and better than just being bare skinned, but yes over time the tattoos did just end up being associates with criminals so the point became moot
It’s a joke on how hard they went with this trend. This type of tattoo was huge for a certain age group but fell off quickly and is now seen as tacky/cheesey. It’s also joked that the lines symbolize how far up an ass you can reach
Indeed, I know a guy with one who was into his scene hardcore music, not hardcore fisting. He looks back on getting this tattoo rather awkwardly with how the interpretation has changed over the years.
I personally think he looks back awakrdly due to the ass pain, but I digress.
This is wild. My little bro was 10 in 2017. I remember us trying to avoid any mention of sex. He turns around one day, and says 'I know what you guys are talking about'.
He then explained he's been streaming films illegally for years and been exposed to porn throughout childhood through dodgy websites. Wild how vastly different upbringings are by a generation.
I remember finding waterlogged torn up playboy in the woods and hoarding it like a dragon with gold as a 11-year-old... these kids they must have such warped ideas of what sex is.
I think I like my upbringing better to be honest. it left a little room for imagination.
Good old porn in the woods. One time my friends and I heard about a stash some other kids had talked about. We searched for a couple hours and finally found it, then moved it to another secret location in the woods. Eventually another kid found out about it from us talking and got caught by his mom while checking it out one day…. And it was gone. Such is the nature of woods porn.
In 2002 people were pretty unaware of the dangers on the internet. In 2017 they knew.. why had he been given unrestricted access to dodgey websites for years before he turned 10?
Quagmire here, this is a depth marker showing how deep you fist. It is also an internet rumor, as this is not a real (or normal) thing within the LGBTQ community. They're saying "Run otherwise you're getting ass fisted [this] deep." Giggity
I've seen different explanations depending on culture. Apparently, banding was used in the Edo period of Japan for prisoners, so in Japan they're associated with gangs.
In Western cultures, I've read that they're associated with mourning a loved one.
Honestly, I kind of hate the fisting joke as it's what people think of now seeing them when someone might actually have some kind of real significance tied to it.
Yeah ive got 4 bands and each one stands for a friend that killed themselves. Creeps just decided these were fisting bands. Ive gotten a lot of fisting comments and its always from people that seem like they'd be the ones actually into that.
Yup have this tattoo without the red. Every comment ive ever gotten about fisting came from someone completely disgusting who sure seem like they'd be the person into that.
Bummer Brian here, but heyre just arm band tattoos and this tweet makes it about fisting, when band tattoos exist everywhere there is any significant tattoo culture. The fisting thing is specific to the kink community, and is not a universal definition of these tattoos. The biggest reason people get these?? They look cool to them. That's it.
It could be a way to remember a loved one who has passed away. However, with the red attached, I think it’s more of a fashion statement than anything else.
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