r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/Working-Throat-9597 • 1d ago
Season 20 - Seattle oh
good luck to him ig
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u/Golden_Lafayette 13h ago edited 2h ago
I tried telling people on this subreddit that she wasn’t ready to be a wife with Devin (nor did she really want to be his wife) & ironically she gets engaged no less than a year with another guy lmao. Like I hate to say it but Devin was a stepping stone for Caitlin and as fucked up as that may sound, it is really the truth about their relationship.
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u/Known-Owl-7883 21h ago
Any guy who saw her on the show and still chose to be with her deserves what he gets. A materialistic gold digger with zero personality who will criticize and nag him for the rest of his life. Sounds fun.
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u/ProfessionNo8733 22h ago
The most I've seen Caitlin smile, happy for her. But my question, as a curious person. When did they start dating?
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u/Sure-Mix4550 23h ago
Good for her. I think she could have been nicer, but obviously she didn't like Devin. It just is what it is. She should be with someone she actually likes and he deserves someone who wants to be with him.
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u/Popcornwithhotsauce 1d ago
Maybe they were together all along which is why she was so cold to Devon?
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u/Sure-Mix4550 23h ago
The show filmed a year ago. Obviously, a quick timeline, but enough time to meet someone else.
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u/Sofia1333 1d ago
HOLY SHIT, GIRL ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS
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u/Apprehensive_Ad6605 1d ago edited 1d ago
3 months since the show aired. The show was filmed like last year
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u/Golden_Lafayette 13h ago
She got engaged less than a year ago lol kinda crazy imma be honest
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u/strawberrrychapstick 12h ago
Married*
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u/Golden_Lafayette 12h ago
Oh shit she’s married to him??????? That guy has like major allegations to him also. Yo that looks crazy what she’s doing. I thought they were engaged. She got married under a year? AFTER BEING ON THE SHOW?
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u/Cup-of-Java 11h ago
No they’re correcting that she was married (to Devin) less that a year ago, not just engaged
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u/Golden_Lafayette 2h ago
Oh there’s some confusion because I was referring to her getting engaged to this new guy under a year ago lol that was the context to my post
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u/No-Economist-5672 1d ago
He’s probably such a pushover
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u/impulse-buyer0601 1d ago
Wait, say more
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u/impulse-buyer0601 1d ago
Wow! I’ll go digging!
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u/KitKat_J 23h ago
They deleted it. Spill the beans on what they said. 😂👀
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u/impulse-buyer0601 23h ago
I didn’t get to it before it was deleted 😭
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u/Golden_Lafayette 13h ago
Damn lmao you didn’t remember anything that was said????
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u/impulse-buyer0601 12h ago
It was a screenshot but it was sent while I was sleeping. I saw the preview in my notification, but couldn’t make any of it out. I followed a trail from another comment and the mods got those screen shots too!
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u/Golden_Lafayette 12h ago
I’m guessing this is in regards to this new guy she is with?
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u/ariesgalxo 1d ago
Dang. A whole marriage. A “divorce.” Already engaged again.
What am I doing wrong🤣
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u/Working-Throat-9597 1d ago
these people always have someone new at the reunion it’s insane to me
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u/Master_Pepper5988 22h ago
Idk, the show is filmed over three months. I don't think that is enough time to be so connected in a relationship that it is unfathomable to find someone within a year if they break up.
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u/NateCdaComicG 1d ago
They are usually conventionally attractive people with above average incomes. And the flexibility in their schedule to recording for the show. That's playing dating on easy mode. It's also probably not hard to find someone you like immediately after being on the show shows you exactly what you don't want and probably teaches you a lot about your own flaws.
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u/AlieMay525 1d ago
Probably not picking crap partners just to say you got married, that’s what you’re doing wrong. I’m 45 and happily never married because I know there’s no man I can put up with for forever 😂
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u/atclien 1d ago
Not understanding the hate for this woman. She didn't do anything terrible. Y'all really hurt for any nice guy who doesn't get showered with immediate praise and attention that much?
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u/No_Stock1557 1d ago
For real!! Internalized misogyny and patriarchal worship is strong in our culture. I noted quite a few red flags for “Mr. Nice Guy” that people who’ve never been in abusive relationships wouldn’t be able to spot. And her reaction to him was the biggest tell of all.
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u/MajestyMay 1d ago
Yep!
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u/No_Stock1557 1d ago
Note the downvotes when you call out people who don’t know abuse and perpetuate toxic patriarchal culture 😅😭
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u/HyenaRegular4153 1d ago
Or maybe DON’T project your trauma. .. he’s wear her down but she was ready to sleep with him
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u/MajestyMay 1d ago
Just people with eyes and ears, but ok. Keep glossing over aggressive behavior because you think he’s cute
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u/UnicornBossMama 1d ago edited 1d ago
It’s truly so sad how many women today live their lives dictated by their perceived “traumas” (everyone has trauma and difficult things in their lives), and a toxic need to label everything they dislike “abuse, “toxic, “patriarchy” etc.
It’s simply cognitive distortions. You were never taught to develop resilience, build your internal confidence, develop coping skills and inner strength. Instead you lean into the classic cognitive distortions (Over generalizing, Labeling , Irrational reasoning, Simplistic labeling, Dichotomous thinking etc). Though you’ve most likely gone to therapy and participated in CBT, which is designed to teach you to recognize when you’re doing these things and how to stop / reframe things. It’s a form of safetyism to protect you from accountability because nothing is ever your fault. Instead it’s the patriarchy, this or that ‘ism.
But in reality, you get in your own way. You build your own fortress and live within it. Truly sad to see how many women choose to live their lives like this (I know, of course you think you have no choice. Or maybe even like this choice). But we can all see how miserable your lives are
Most of us just don’t come to Reddit and bother to take the time to share this with you.
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u/No_Stock1557 16h ago
This is such an ironic take. It’s people like you who make people who’ve been thru abuse stay silent. No one believes them. Especially if it’s not blatant black eyes and broken bones. Coercion is real. Manipulation is real. Psychological warfare is real. I’ve been abused even by the nice guy in ways I didn’t realize were happening because I am very capable, strong and resilient. Contrary to common belief, most abusers who don’t use physical tactics typically go for resilient, strong women. There is so much information available about this kind of abuse that to remain willfully ignorant and dismissive of it because you want so badly to root for a good guy and poo poo a bad guy is negligent. Sometimes women like Caitlin and Tory feel it in their bodies before they can coherently articulate what happened. And for those of us who have been ABUSED BY A MAN, in a multitude of ways, those walls you demonize are actually a super power called pattern recognition. You develop it pretty strongly after abuse. I’ve saved several lives as a result, even in my workplace. We’re not in our own way, we’re amplifying language and experience around how people can ruin your life without you even noticing till it’s too late. And while you’re so content to assume anything about me, I’ll have you know I still have good men in my life and believe in harmony between us. But I’m not obtuse to how overwhelmingly male abuse culture is and how quick even a lot of women are to defend it.
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u/MajestyMay 16h ago
What are you talking about? Nice try, but no.
I guess you didn’t see his three mask slips.
Not sure what this dissertation is about. You can save it. You don’t have to agree, obviously. To “come to Reddit and take the time to share this with [me/us]” is wild.
If y’all are ok with him cornering her in a room, in a drunken tired, then cool. It’s just funny people took more offense to her telling him to stfu than an actual act of aggression on his part during that moment as well. But hey, do you! Girl power!
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u/kat9 1d ago
No, it was more that her partner was trying and she just wasn’t. And then later in the season we see HOW easy it was for her to share any warm feelings with some other dude.
She just sucked. Wasn’t a demon, just shitty at the process itself.
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u/No_Stock1557 1d ago
Nah. There was a scene where she broke down to the camera while sitting on the bed and said he’d wear her down for hours at night about it all. If you’ve never been abused by a narcissist or b cluster personality you won’t spot it, period.
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u/Quiet_Knowledge_7637 1d ago
Um, she was kinda a shitty person. Or at least that’s the way the ‘show’ portrayed her. She was cold and closed off and unwilling to try in the relationship. Plus she was also kinda inappropriate with Mecca.
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u/Substantial-Sky4079 1d ago
Hope them the best. I highly doubt they worked through their baggage. Especially hers, to jump on getting remarried.
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u/attab0ydary 1d ago
I realize the irony of saying this on a MAFS thread, but... WOW, that was fast.
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u/DrKaufman_Angie 1d ago
What’s “ig”?
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u/cupofmoonshine 1d ago
"good luck to him I guess"
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u/DrKaufman_Angie 1d ago
Thanks. I’m an adult I speak real words🤣
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u/BrutalDishonesty 1d ago
Girl like you never said lol in your life 🙄
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u/DrKaufman_Angie 1d ago
Ha ha! Yeah but that one is a common, known abbreviation!!
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u/BrutalDishonesty 1d ago
Ig is common now. You also don't speak real words. Its just the real words you don't speak such as lol are phased out.
Gotta keep up with the times.
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u/maleolive I’m a really good f€kng person! 1d ago
I’m old so “ig” means instagram to me. I’ve never seen “I guess” abbreviated like that before.
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u/RegularConference846 1d ago
I loved Devin such as sweet gentle heart. Good luck to that dude and I hope she got help for all of her pass traumas, cuz baby that’s a bit.
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u/Same-Equivalent9037 1d ago
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u/scientooligist 1d ago
Who is this?
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u/Working-Throat-9597 1d ago
caitlin from the most recent season
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u/scientooligist 1d ago
Oh wow. She looks different
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u/Sheesh19 1d ago
Huh his mom is my former coworker and she posted these photos. I didn't realize that was her!
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u/sweetbabyted 1d ago
Not surprised that her MAGA ass moved to Montana
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u/Golden_Lafayette 13h ago
Yeah I was listening to a interview Tori did and she was saying she goes back and forth from Seattle and Montana
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u/PlantsnWitchcraft 1d ago
Um… does “hard launch” imply she never posted or talked about him before and the first time people are hearing about him is when they’re engaged?
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u/Abi_giggles 1d ago
She actually talked about him/their relationship on the reunion/tell all. Said they are more private about their relationship but that she found her soulmate.
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u/SpencerVerde 1d ago
I thought that was Nick at quick glance.
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u/wompwompswamp123 1d ago
this whole thread i thought yall were all making New Girl references, it just clicked lmao
but he looks just like nick miller from new girl aka Jake Johnson in real life
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u/TurtleSpeedAhead Creepin like TLC 1d ago
“You only need to find one person that doesn’t find you completely insufferable” 💀
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u/Working-Throat-9597 1d ago
of course she made a video to that fuck ass song
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u/Ruthie_pie 1d ago
the song is so fitting for someone exactly like her… how incredibly insufferable
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u/Effective_Bet_1389 1d ago
Hopefully she’s matured and learned a lot since the show about how to be a healthy, supportive partner
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u/ChefIntelligent1727 1d ago
Yea Devin was way too young for her lol! She likes older guys clearly!! All jokes aside good luck with Elsa bud
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u/Working-Throat-9597 1d ago
idk that dude looks the same age as her
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u/Sheesh19 1d ago
Yeah he's only a few years older, 31.
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u/caterham09 1d ago
They went to the same school. Like 2 years apart
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u/Sea_Confusion2757 1d ago
Oh, so was this a 'spin the block' kinda moment, or something similar (they knew each other in passing, but never dated, etc.)?
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u/caterham09 1d ago
AFAIK they didn't. It could have happened because I haven't kept in touch but I don't believe so. They probably knew eachother better than just passing though tbh.
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u/drth_dilly 1d ago edited 21h ago
Aint no way she ready in the next 10 years and with intense therapy
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u/piney 1d ago
Well to be fair, MAFS was filmed last Spring/Summer of 25 so she’s had a little time
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u/Dazzling_Parfait_620 1d ago
so barely a year?
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u/Hot_Patience_4769 1d ago
I wouldn't do it but people do get engaged around the 1 year mark all the time.
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u/Carlib330 7h ago
I didn’t like how she treated Devin but thinking about it…I think she just wasn’t cut out to get married to someone she doesn’t know. I know someone like her and she can’t get close to anyone unless she spends ample time with them. She could’ve tried harder and leaned into the experiment like Nikki did but I don’t think she was mature enough to do that.