Entitled Traveler Aisle 14

[u/No-Detective7811]

5.5 hour coast to coast flight. He boarded before me (aisle). I had to bend down and wave in his face to get him to see me during boarding (I had window). He did the whole audible sigh and dramatic show of how I had clearly inconvenienced him. He finally got up and out of his seat BUT refused to unplug his phone from the seat back charger in front of him, so all 5’ 10” of me had to crawl under his cord to get to my seat. Whatever, turd move, but whatever. Anyway, cabin door closes and I was pretty excited that the middle passenger didn’t show up—until Entiltled Aisle dude decides that all of his spent snack wrappers should be pushed as close to me as possible. And he was very particular about it. Spent several minutes ensuring each wrapper was pushed as close as possible to my seat. What is wrong with people!?!?

[u/bigmacattack4]

Its honestly not fine and im sick of people pretending that being afraid of conflict is a respectable trait to have

[u/ElectroStaticSpeaker → u/bigmacattack4]

I didn't imply respectable - however - some people have serious anxiety issues and confrontation stresses them out to the point where they'd rather suck it up and post about it on Reddit later. I don't have a problem with these people. Everyone needs to figure out how to deal with their problems in the way that they feel achieves the best outcome. If sitting next to someone who OP can feel is pissed at her for confronting him stresses her more out than being the one pissed at him, so be it. There's plenty of other people in the world that can call that guy out for being an ass.

[u/bigmacattack4 → u/ElectroStaticSpeaker]

Clearly you have never been close with one of these people and needed them to have your back. Lots of people have anxiety, doesnt mean we dont have a backbone.

[u/ElectroStaticSpeaker → u/bigmacattack4]

I love that you get to personally decide when other people should stand up for themselves like it's some objective universal truth.

[u/bigmacattack4 → u/ElectroStaticSpeaker]

We are talking about people who are afraid of conflict. Not this person specifically. Obviously people can choose when to stick up for themselves but avoiding conflict whenever it comes up simply because of anxiety is not healthy for yourself or your relationships. Rough and unhappy life ahead for those people.

[u/ElectroStaticSpeaker → u/bigmacattack4]

Again, acting like you know what's healthy for other people. You don't know how their anxiety feels and you don't know whether it's worse for them to deal with the conflict or the anxiety the conflict might cause after.

I mean, go ahead, judge all you want. You clearly know exactly how everyone else feels.

[u/minimalistjunkiee → u/bigmacattack4]

thank you😭😭😭 this is my biggest pet peeve in a person and i have stopped being friends w someone bc they could never stand up for themselves and i always felt the need to do it for them

[u/connorroy_2024 → u/bigmacattack4]

Idk where you live but sometimes it’s best to avoid it. People nowadays are fucking crazy and I’m not risking being put on a no fly list. In this case I’m absolutely not crawling under the cord, but I’m also not ripping it out and antagonizing the guy who’s about to sit next to me for 6 hours and clearly doesn’t respect social norms

[u/bigmacattack4 → u/connorroy_2024]

You don’t have to be aggressive when it comes to these things, you can just ask them to unplug it. Im talking about people who can’t ask others (even nicely) to move out of the way or call them out on rude behaviour