r/karate • u/Founding_Sky • Jun 22 '26
Question/advice How to deal with fellow student who uses excess force in training.
I am a 5th Kyu and I’ve recently started at a new Dojo which is supposed to be low/non contact.
We often practice some of the kata application in pairs. It’s not intended to be a full fight, we go through the movements in a controlled manner to see how they function.
The problem is I keep getting paired with another student (also 5th Kyu) who will always escalate things beyond what the training exercise allows.
For example, we were practicing one movement which turns the opponent away from you, and they followed up by punching me hard in the back.
Or if we are practicing punches, we are supposed to tap the opponent but they will aim to hit as hard as possible and start improvising and adding lots of follow up hits.
I’ve started to dread getting paired with this person as I would rather learn the techniques the senseis are trying to teach rather than it feeling like a full sparring session where I’ve got to guard against whatever this person starts doing.
Its honestly started to knocked my confidence quite a bit as I feel I should be defending myself against them better in these situations.
Anyone have any advice, experiences with something similar?