Lonely girl problems

That I can experience same sex attraction and attraction towards everyone else,I love being pan

I hope everyone's week is filled with support and kindness, and love.

I can show love to anybody no matter what your gender.. I don't view one gender is better than the other to me they're equal

So I'm new to dating ( my current bf being the only person I have ever dated, flirted with, kissed, etc)

And we do have a good relationship, yet I can't help but stress that he might not like me anymore or that if I stop looking good enough, he will break up with me. And I get scared he might bc I constantly need confirmation that he still want to be with me (the confirmation isn't that often it's mostly just I want him to text me back and say that he loves me)

So can anyone with actual experience tell me if I'm overthinking, or is this a normal thing to fear?

Hey..I'm a cd 25

Sometimes I feel caught between the life I'm expected to build and the life I secretly wish to explore. 💭

I'm at a stage where I have to make important career decisions, and I'm scared of choosing a path that gives me professional stability but leaves no room for my personal happiness, freedom, and identity.

This feminine side of me isn't something I want to keep fighting forever. At the same time, I'm still trying to understand myself, my feelings, and what kind of future would genuinely make me happy.

I don't have all the answers yet. I just don't want to wake up years later regretting that I sacrificed a part of myself out of fear, pressure, or the hope that these feelings would disappear.

To those who've balanced a demanding career with crossdressing, gender exploration, or a private side of themselves: how did you find that balance?

Did you manage to build a career without losing yourself along the way? What do you wish you'd understood earlier?

I'd genuinely appreciate hearing your experiences. 🩷

\#Crossdresser #SelfDiscovery #WorkLifeBalance #GenderExpression #FindingMyself🏳️‍🌈

Though the subreddit is very specific I’d thought I’d come out on this app.

Hello, I am 23 years old and I am pansexual. I go by she/her pronouns. In my small town I do not know many other pansexuals like myself nor many queer people either. Majority of my exes have been male coincidentally, therefore not many people know I am open minded. I guess never judge a book by its cover, but you guys already knew that.

Proud Pansexual Maverique 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ and this is my ceiling (haha and yes, both my daughter and my artwork surrounds it).

But like many of us here, I have a rough “family situation” (where they are abusive and so I haven’t contacted them in years.) And for my fellow Canadians, it’s Thanksgiving 🍂🎃🍁 weekend for us!

But because of my family situation, honestly, I really don’t have any “Thanksgiving plans” this weekend.

But when I look up and see my beautiful Pan flag on the ceiling, it reminds me of one of the many things that I’m extremely thankful for!!

I’m thankful that we have this wonderful community online where we can all just be our fabulously Queer selves, even if there aren’t people in our own lives who support us or our beautiful 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ fabulousness.

So, for any fellow Canadians, Happy Thanksgiving! 🍁🎃🍂 (hahaha or “Pansgiving” for us 🏳️‍🌈)

Ok all.. well I'm back in the dating pool, and wow do I not know how to do this!

Been on the apps and that's just been sheer garbage. Where to start? I'm in CO, Denver is my nearest LGBTQ+ hub that's viable. 39, transmasc, mono, childfree (often mistaken as cis-male, but I'm sapphic as hell) Into femmes who are bi, pan, lesbians - I'm open, I just don't know how to meet you in the wild!

I get a lot of sneers from lesbian/sapphic spots, but that's been my whole world for over 25 years until I started T & got married - that didn't work out unfortunately. So now.. I'm on my own & don't really have much of a social circle, most friends are married, far away (I was military so I have friends in other states) or painfully very introverted & don't go out.

I'm neurospicy, so I do have a shorter social battery sometimes, but I miss living life more vibrantly! I would love to make friends, but also.. really would love to meet a wonderful woman.

Truly missing how sapphic relationships connect, the intensity of communication, the sincerity, the softness, the emotional intimacy, unspoken understanding of queer culture, the beauty of the everyday and the magical moments - whether that be experiencing a literal fantasy ball or something else.

Thank you for the kind words, support & love

Hello fellow panoramas!!

I’m looking to see how people approach potential romantic partners. I like the advice that I should aim for conversation not with the expectation of an action.

I also am fully aware it’s just a skill that needs to be developed. Currently I compliment and then falter — making my intentions unknown. I want to put myself in more positions of rejection to try!

Also I consider myself a baby queer. still developing parts of my sexual identity. Feeling alittle out of place with people so set in their identity. However I wanna flirt while I still have the rights to do so 😭

Give this gal advice. What is a great smooth entry? What should I avoid? How have you found success?

I had never actually dated anyone and I don't have a preference for any gender, but it was still fun!!
Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/pansexual/s/92qRLHCmOj

I've been thinking about this for quite a while, and I was wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.

For some reason, I've always been really drawn to panromantic and pansexual men, as well as male characters who feel pan-coded, even if it isn't officially confirmed. I also find myself admiring panromantic and pansexual male models because of the confidence, warmth, authenticity, and openness they often project.

Sometimes it's their voice.

Sometimes it's their personality.

Sometimes it's simply the way they carry themselves.

I also notice that I develop what I can only describe as "man crushes" on certain characters or celebrities. A few examples for me include characters like Spider-Man, Grant Gustin's portrayal of The Flash, Andrew Garfield, and other fictional or real people who give me what I can only describe as "pan energy," even if that's just my own interpretation.

What's interesting is that these feelings don't always make sense to me. Sometimes they feel like admiration. Other times they feel like attraction. Sometimes they're somewhere in between, and I'm still trying to understand where the line is.

Another thing I've noticed is that confidence is incredibly attractive to me. Seeing someone who is comfortable with themselves and authentic can leave a really strong impression.

At the same time, some of these feelings make me uncomfortable because they raise questions about myself that I'm still exploring. I don't necessarily have all the answers yet, but I'm trying to understand my reactions instead of ignoring them.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you distinguish admiration, aesthetic appreciation, emotional attraction, and romantic or sexual attraction?

I'd really like to hear other people's perspectives.

So a few months before I was talking to one of my roomies (she's a lesbian!) about finding what pan really is because I learnt it from the novel " you are my home" and realised 'hey, I never really cared about the gender, I always liked people based on personality and vibe and never sex, so I thought I was a Bi never really knew pan until recently and I now I am glad that I found out. Well the worst part is I am from India and my family will definitely go against my "new found sexuality" , yeah they are one of the conservative ones so I really told only three people yet my roomies, my friend and my brother. And they kind of accepted. Well I never tried dating, probably won't gonna until I become financially independent but I love the fact that I know myself more and I have a whole community to which I can talk and seek guidance about my feelings!

Featuring my work bathroom 🫪

I have learned that I have to forgive myself and let things go. And to forgive people who have wrong me. It's apart of my self healing . I must move on.