Right?! I see my sister doing it solo without help from the dad what so ever and damn I don’t see how she does it. Works full time with OT daily takes them to school helps them with homework cooks dinner all the time every day.
This is me. Every few years my kid's dad sobers up long enough to tap out a rage text about what a piece of shit I am for not letting him be a father (literally never did anything to stop him, told him to file for custody and let a judge decide if he's fit to care for a child). Like bro, I'm too tired for this. I'm the one who is supposed to be mad. You have no responsibilities, pay no child support and there are zero expectations on you. Why are you even this mad at 11am on a Tuesday?
It's not a particular time, it's just when the shame built up so much it had to burst out, but he doesn't have the emotional skills or honesty to let it be shame. So it came out in the form most natural to him.
Im not a single mom or a mom, just a dad. But i was raised by a single mom and well..... they do it with love and magic i guess. As a 40 year old father of a 7 year old with a spouse, i have a deep appreciation for single moms that do it.
My mom was a single mom. We rented until the 3 of us kids were adults. Only then were we able to buy a house together. The first time my older brothers bought it together with her. They sold it after a decade and each had enough for a down payment for their next house by themselves. I teamed up with my mom the second time, she had been gig working and even with her down payment secured no one would approve her by herself. And we're now in amazing shape comparatively to others around us.
There's a lot of stigma around generational housing in North America but its put her in the position to be able to retire even with her meager savings. And it's put me, someone who spent almost 10 years working retail at Walmart, into the position of home ownership and retirement savings. Though I was really fortunate to have made that decision in 2017 before prices doubled. My current mortgage at around 5% interest rates is only $1000/mo.
I only make $60k gross right now, and while I do live a pretty frugal basic life apart from prime rib steaks every weekend in the summer, ounce of weed a month, and the dog. I don't live paycheck to paycheck anymore. I was even able to save $15k this last year.
Now I come into threads like this and I feel like an alien.
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u/stegotortise 8h ago
I am not a single mom, but I am a mom, and I honest to god have NO IDEA how you guys do it. Hats off to you. 🫡