I get Mexican, Native American, Mixed, Chinese, Filipino, Japanese, Korean. Hardly ever Hmong. Do I look Hmong or I don't?

Hello. We are expecting, but not sure if we are having a boy or a girl yet. We decided on first names for either, but we need Hmong names that’ll be the middle name. What Hmong names do you recommend for the boy name Silas and the girl name Lorelei? Thank you

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23andMe for the first time has added several Hmong categories for their more specific genetic groups under your more 'general' groups. The new coverage update is for Thailand, Myanmar, Malaysia, Laos, Cambodia, Indonesia, and Madagascar.

Before this it was usually shown as Chinese, Chinese Dai, or Broadly East Asian alongside regional Southeast Asian or Southern Chinese ancestry markers.

The specifically Hmong categories they added were Hmong and lu Mien, Hmong Daw, and Mong Leng.

Disclaimer: I am internationally adopted from China in Hengyang, Hunan and have not found my birth family.

Personally, this further supports my suspicions that I am ethnically Hmong. I have posted before but all my matched close relatives have Hmong clan names. It was not before posting to Reddit where they analyzed my relative last names that it occurred to me that I was not Han Chinese. I was born with reddish blond hair as well.

Edit: the only non-Hmong surname I have listed in matches is a more distant relationship and it is "Saelee".

ive always heard that its not good to grieve someone whos passed for too long. why is that? grief has no timeline and no end to be honest. i lost my baby back in january 2026 and i still cry for them. i spend many of my days wondering what they wouldve been like and how my son would have gotten along with them. we didnt hold a funeral for them because it was a miscarriage and it feels like im just supposed to forget that i was ever pregnant and move on. how can i? even tho the pregnancy didnt last long, it was still a baby i carried and gave birth to.

I’m a 23M from a Christian household, while my girlfriend (25F) comes from a traditional shaman household. We started dating in college and have been together for 4.5 years. I’m at the point where I want to marry her, but I’m realizing I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing when it comes to the Hmong marriage process.

The biggest issue is that my parents, her parents, and me and my girlfriend all have three different ideas of how the proposal/marriage process should happen. And in the end, I feel like there is a lot of miscommunication between all three sides of what we want and expect.

Another thing I'm struggling with is figuring out where to draw the line between Hmong culture and religion/spiritual practices. Growing up, whenever I try to participate in anything traditionally Hmong, I'm told that it's “shaman.” At the same time, I've also caught my parents doing things that they would consider shaman and when I confronted them they said it's just being Hmong, so I'm honestly confused about where the line is.

Meanwhile, whenever I'm around my girlfriend's family and their events, I actually feel more connected to being Hmong. Her family is much bigger and more involved in traditional Hmong events, so there's always something going on. It has made me realize how much of my own culture I don't know.

A big reason I want to learn all of this is because I really want to respect my girlfriend and her family. She is their oldest daughter, only daughter, and she's pursuing her master's degree; while I am the youngest and currently in my Doctorates program, so I feel like there's a lot of pressure.

Overall, I don't want to approach marriage like I'm just taking her away from her family or treating the wedding customs as something I can ignore. I want to understand what is expected of me, her family, and my family, and do things properly out of respect for her and her parents.

So for those who have gone through this:

How did you learn Hmong marriage/wedding customs?

What should I start learning or practicing before I propose?

How did you navigate the difference between Hmong culture and spiritual/religious practices?

And for anyone who's gotten married recently, what do you wish you knew before you started the whole process?

Any advice, resources, or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. I’m trying to figure this out before I get engaged instead of standing there completely clueless when everyone starts negotiating at the table.

TL;DR: I’m a 23M from a Christian Hmong family dating a 25F from a traditional Hmong family. We’ve been together for 4.5 years, and I want to marry her, but our families have very different expectations for how the proposal/marriage process should happen. I also don't know much about Hmong wedding customs or where to draw the line between Hmong culture and spiritual practices. Looking for advice on how to learn the traditions and prepare for the marriage process while respecting both families.

Are there any hmong people in nyc? 😭 i dead feel mad alone out here being the only one at my college

What's happening in the Hmong community today? How's your day going? Any new good Hmong songs? Casual talk.

Not sure why this hasn't been posted. But the irony of this story, the statue being stolen and the suspects involved. I will give you 100 cool points if you can tell me the irony in this story.

Suni Lee statue is stolen and recovered

Suni Lee stolen statue suspects arrested

I’m a 21 Girl. I dreamed about feeding these Tsov nkauj that were fenced in. I’m not sure how many there were, but there was about 7-8 tsov nkauj Lounging and sitting as I try to offer them raw meat. i confirmed they where girl tigers because i can feel it through the energy, I wasn’t scared of them. I actually keep coming back to them even when I tried to leave and go back inside the building. What does that mean? I also have a feeling that I have 6th senses due to some life experiences, such as whenever I thov for something to show me a sign/warning I always dream about the outcome or I get a physical warning like payment getting stuck.

Hey!

Je vis en France et j’ai découvert les hmongs grâce à mon copain qui est Hmong, j’ai lu beaucoup d'histoires et je suis vraiment passionné par tout ce que je lis, lui même est impressionné lol, j'aimerais me rapprocher de cette culture mais je ne sais pas vraiment comment faire, avez vous des conseils à me donner? Il y a quoi d'important à apprendre et a savoir ? En cas de mariage serais-je consideré comme une nouvelle membre de la communauté ou c'est vraiment par naissance ? Et pour mes enfants (je ne suis pas hmong donc ils seraient mixtes) comme on prévoit d’en avoir je me demande comment se sera pour eux, un jour j'aimerais faire un festival Hmong mais je ne sais si en tant qu’étrangère à cette communauté je peux 😅 même si le peux de hmongs que j’ai connue sont très gentils et aimes beaucoup que des non Hmongs s'intéresse à cette culture,je les trouve très ouvert mais j’ai pas la chance de beaucoup en connaître malheureusement. J'avais vue que certaines familles étaient encore traditionnelle et préfère des filles Hmong pour leurs fils, mais apparemment quand on est asiatique/d'apparence asiatiques ça peut aider à l'acceptation, dans notre cas je suis assez pleinement accepté.

J’aimerais vraiment tout savoir ✨️

Merci beaucoup pour vos conseils et vos réponses. Bonne soirée et journée !^^

it disappoints me to see elders and peers alike do shady things and never atone. it sucks their friends or family do not or cannot stop them. don’t let age or “reputation“ stop you from saying, tsis nyog hais, or tsis nyog ua…the lies to manipulate, the theft, the fear of saying stop youre hurting someone. why is it always tied to money or love? make your own money the right way. love people the right way, don’t say you love them, or just walk away! everyone deserves at least the most basic respect.

everyonencan talk like they are good; but practicing good morals is a whole different thing.

dont let something small and bad go. it will fester and become something bigger later.

hi, my little family and i are thinking about relocating to kansas city, kansas after my husband finishes his contract in the military. we want to settle down there since he does have his father’s side of the family there, my husband always wanted to live in kansas along with the housing market seems like a good price for us to get a small starter home. i was born and raised in california so this will be a new adventure for me. how’s the hmong/ asian community in ks? how’s the weather, people and culture? would love to hear about your thoughts!

I speak very little Hmong but i understand alot of it, and i dont have a large community around me since I live in Delaware. I want to know if there are any Hmong podcast spoken entirely in Hmong.

I'm currently pregnant and I would like to teach my child to speak Hmong and during pregnancy it is suggested to play music and videos in the language to get them familiarized with the sounds. I really am super exhausted listening to hmong kids music and although I do listen to hmong music I would like to just hear hmong people speaking.

Most of the podcast I've found is speaking in english. Maybe its because I cant write in hmong so im having a hard time. Please help.

I work as a paralegal on criminal cases in Washington, DC, and I’ve handled thousands of files over the years. I also review attorney billings to make sure they follow the law and ethical billing rules. Over time, I’ve seen a clear pattern: many Hmong clients place deep trust in Hmong lawyers because of shared language and culture. Unfortunately, this trust is sometimes misused by certain attorneys who rely on their “Hmong lawyer” title while lacking the skills needed to protect their clients.

Many Hmong elders and community members cannot read English well, cannot review legal documents, and do not understand how billing or retainers work. This makes them vulnerable. Some attorneys know this — and take advantage of it.

I want our community to understand something important: Just because a lawyer is Hmong and passed the bar does not automatically mean they are skilled in English communication, legal writing, or courtroom advocacy.

Some have never worked in a professional office before. Some struggle to write clear letters, motions, or arguments. Some cannot explain a situation in English strongly enough to persuade a judge or defend a client. These weaknesses directly affect the outcome of a case.

I have read letters and legal documents written by certain Hmong attorneys that look more like high‑school writing than professional legal work. I have watched some of them in court, and it is clear they are not prepared for the responsibility they carry. When a lawyer cannot communicate well, the client pays the price.

Think of the movie My Cousin Vinny — someone who has the title “lawyer” but is not ready for real cases or real clients.

My advice to the Hmong community:

• Do not choose a lawyer only because they are Hmong.
• Pay attention to how they speak English, how they explain things, and how they write.
• Ask to see their letters, motions, and billing statements.
• If their writing looks unprofessional or they cannot explain your case clearly, it may be safer to hire a different attorney.

And remember: A retainer fee does not belong to the lawyer until they earn it. They must provide detailed billing showing exactly what work they did. Any unused portion must be returned to you. This is the law in every state.

Remember: the outcome of your case impacts YOUR life — so choose your representation wisely.

Our community deserves strong, ethical, and skilled legal representation. Protect yourself, protect your family, and do not be afraid to ask questions or demand clarity — even from a Hmong lawyer.

Key reminder:

Not every case requires a lawyer. In many situations, a documentation administration professional or paralegal can help you with the paperwork. These professionals can also help you understand whether your case truly needs a lawyer or if you can save money by handling the matter through proper documentation instead.

Have tried everything and I cant seem to find the title of the song. Have most of the lyrics listed below. Song is most likely from the 2000’s and up. Sung by a male artist….

Koj tws tsis nco lawm koj tws mus ua koj ib lub neeg
los hauv kuv lub siab nws tseem pheej mob rau koj.

Xyov yuav seev nco koj mus txog thaum twg es lub siab thiaj li yuav ua taus ib siab lus caij ntuj no lus caij ntuj so los nco.

Xyov lub siab yuav mob rau koj peb tsawg xyoo ntxim es thiaj tso taus koj mus
lub caij ntuj no caij ntuj tshav los nco.

Los nruab siab mam nrhiav dua tus tshiab los ncauj hais taus siab tseem tsis qhov nco koj.

Xav thiab ntev yuav tso taus tseg cas yim ntev

Link to the song has been posted.

https://youtube.com/shorts/zHzZTrw6A1I?feature=shared

Hi reddit,

I'm working on an art book that features different mythical creatures from different parts of the world in an LGBTQ+ interpretation, and I of course fell in love with the Sarangay from the Philippines. Since I'm trying to use region/period accurate clothing for the characters, I was thinking of depicting the human lover of the Sarangay wearing a Barong Tagalog, but I'm stumped for the Sarangay itself. It makes sense for me to depict it with some form of traditional tribal clothing since he would still live in a more natural habitat, but I wouldn't know which region of the Philippines would make more sense to take inspo from?

I'm open to all comments and thoughts, thank you so much in advance!

I am looking for some serious advice from guys who have had long term relationships with Laos women. I am dating a Laos girl online. She is very sweet and we have hit it off well. But she has a condition. After we meet, I have to decide whether or not to commit long term. If I say yes, we talk to her parents and get engaged. She has specifically told me that it was not necessary for me to visit her parents in Laos. A video chat would be enough.She lives in BKK. And after about an year we formalise our relationship and she lives with me.She is a very light hearted wonderful person.

From the clothes to the qeej, there's no question they're not Hmong right?!

Story time lol. So when I was really little, my dad bought me a gold Hmong necklace with my initial on it. I remember thinking it was really nice, and then my irresponsible ass went tubing on a river while wearing it…and of course I lost it in the river. 🫠
I’ve been wanting to get another Hmong gold piece ever since.
Does anyone know of any reputable Hmong jewelers or sellers that make solid gold Hmong jewelry? Preferably solid 14K or 18K if possible. I’m open to both necklaces and bracelets, so I’ll definitely shop around. I’m looking for something that’s well-made and reasonably priced.
I’d especially love recommendations from people who’ve actually bought from them before. Thanks!

Hello,

I wanted to reach out and ask if anyone knows about any Hmong-Mien influence (e.g. words, syntax, grammar etc.) on Southern Sinitic languages (e.g. Wu, Gan, Xiang, Min, Yue etc.)?

If anyone knows of and linguistics that specializes in this, please let me know. I am interested in learning more!

To give an example of what I am interested in, linguists have done much reconstructions on (Austonesian-)Kra-Dai & Austroasiatic family tree influences, but it doesn't seem like much as been done for Hmong-Mien.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Old_Yue_language

I live in Cali. Where are all the single hmong women with no drama / no baggage (no kids, baby-daddy issues).

Pls don't respond with Laos or Vietnam. 😂

Hey there! I’ve been trying to identify this Hmong Dubbed VHS for years. The Hmong title is

“Menyuam Tub Muaj Koob” distributed by World Video Promotions in 1998.

I believe it’s an older Chinese, Taiwanese, Hong Kong, or possibly Thai movie that was dubbed into Hmong, but I can’t find any record of it online.

The Plot: Main characters were three young boys. They wore kung fu uniforms, but the movie takes place in a modern setting. Both involved guns and martial arts. The boys were trying to rescue teenage girls(or their sisters and friend) who may have been kidnapped or trafficked. They go to a gambling house/casino looking for the girls. Later they fight bodyguards at a private mansion where the girls are being held at and the police arrive near the end assisting them.

Does anyone recognize the original movie or know of its Chinese, Taiwanese, Hong Kong, or Thai title?
I grew up watching it and sadly I can’t find it’s original anywhere online where it may have never received an English release.

I need opinion so if guy or woman message you on facebook and you're available do you ignored them if you dont know them? I been going to facebook trying to get to know them but they dont check message.

What's happening in the Hmong community today? How's your day going? Any new good Hmong songs? Casual talk.